Fake Family

Dear danirenea21, Sometimes in life we are met with toxic people. Be it without our own family or not. My first impression for anyone faced with this type of behavior is to gather all your might and rise above it or it will bring you down or worse. When it comes from your own family, the detachment so to work on yourself, your own life, the lives of your children ect., is not an easy task. Family is family. Take this time away to work on yourself, enjoy life and your new beginnings that each day brings. After all, life truly is a special gift to look forward to with each new day. Do not listen to warmongers, nor repeat the negative things people say, that may be about nothing in particular or of yourself, your family etc. Think only positive. Let yourself dream big fascinating dreams and work towards achieving them no matter what anyone else thinks or says. Eliminate what isn't working and go with what is. Stay focused and positive and the world is your oyster. Stay strong!

I am so sorry that you have so much problems with you family and well with out saying we do need to take a break from our family and that your family should not have suck control of your own kids I hope that this will work itself out in time

I'm so sorry that your family are racist. I think you did the right thing by getting away from them. No one needs negative people around them. It is not good for the soul. My parents were upset when they found out I was pregnant by a black man too. However, they came around before my baby girl was born. They love my kids and have always been there for them. They are now grown adults with their own families. Its a shame that your kids won't have a great relationship with their grandparents but you have to do what is right for you and your heart. Good luck and prove your mom wrong and do something meaningful with your life. God Bless.

You can't pick out your family. My family gave me a terrible childhood, esp. my parents but my siblings (except my way younger brother) were terrible as well. Yesterday my brother contacted me since my elderly sister was seriously ill. They contacted me after 32 years. They never cared about me so I wrote back that I hope she will suffer a lot since she said she can't remember anything about our childhood or the terrible things she did to me or her (ex) boyfriends (still see her kicking them while they were laying down on the floor). As I was pregant of my first my mother offered me to stay at her house again be her maid.. I refused. Still happy I did so. An aunt tried to control my life and the life of my daughter later on. I left. Don't care about what your mother is saying you can be who you want! Go for it.

I rarely heard stories like this, I couldn't imagine why your mom treated you like her enemy.. she should be the first person to support you and your family.. so it is very unusual behaviour of a mother that your mom have... But I strongly beleived that in every behaviour of a person now is the effect of the past experiences or phenomena. So, maybe your mommy has a deeper reason why she is acting like that to you.. or probably she has a problem right now.

Hi friend, i wonder why your mother is doing such kind of unwanted things? Just keep distance from her and take care about your family, as you mentioned she is working to down your hubby which is not a good thing

if your relationship with your mom is that toxic then you would probably be better off without her.

Very sorry to hear that. I wouldnt wish that on anyone. i think you have done the right thing and stayed away from her. Hope things get better.