Young children and church

By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
April 7, 2013 10:49am CST
What do you feel about parents bring there very young children to church? Do you think churches should have like a kid room or nursery for the young children? Does it bother you being in church and a young child is crying? I'm not big on going to church and neither is my husband but when we do go we bring our young children with us. I've brought my daughter since she was a tiny baby. She has always been a quite for things like church and loves to listen to the music. Now my son has been once at the age of 4 months he was very quite too. It never bothers when parents have to bring there babies and young children with them you can't get a babysitter every weekend to go to church or stay home all of the time with them. One of the churches that went too that I didn't like for other reasons. They did have a nursery and the one my mother in law goes too has a nursery as well. Also they have a hallway with a tv that shows the service if you do need leave and stand outside. I really like that specially when you have toddlers.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Apr 13
Here in Mexico, they have a seperate church for the little ones here. I think its better that way.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Apr 13
Why would kids need a different speech about there faith. Isn't church suppose to be for everyone in the family to do together not to be taken to a different room and taught a different lesson for that week instead of the same. When I went to church our church school wasn't till after church was over and we where taught the same thing the same even in a different faith that I've gone to. It should be the same as the adults.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
That is interesting. But I would rather have my kids in the same building or with me because I don't trust many people with my kids.
• Mexico
8 Apr 13
True, but sometimes kids need s diff. kind of sermon.
@dot247 (19)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
I don't mind parents bringing children to church so long as they are able to handle them. I go to church regularly and I've seen some parents struggle to control their children who are crying/screaming loudly and throwing tantrums. It's fine when the child is an infant because obviously, you can't really tell them to stop crying. I've also seen some kids running around the church and their parents don't seem to care as long as they don't wander far. There was even a time when a kid ran up to the front of the church and started picking on the nativity display up in front. Even the priest was distracted from his sermon. What made it worse is that the parents did not immediately get their child and just let him play there, distracting the service. I personally think that is disrespectful to the service. If a parent decides to bring their child to church, they should teach the kid to behave and not run around. In many churches here in the Philippines, there is often a children's mass schedule. The churches allot a special time where all the parents with kids can attend. It's sort of like Sunday school but for the whole family. Some churches also have small play room where parents can leave their child while they attend the service.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Apr 13
Not all places here have a different room it can be expensive to add a room or something when building or adding on and here its also about time so it can be hard to have a more then two masses or whatever. Yes there is a line that needs to drawn about crying or being loud but we are talking about babies and not older children.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
10 Apr 13
Our church has a nursery and then Sunday school for the kids. There is also a room you can take your crying babies if you need too as well. We feel it is important to give the parents time to listen to the service and the message instead of being distracted by their children, and even have people who are assigned each week to help out.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
18 Apr 13
That's good. A lot of churches have rooms like this now. When I was little they never did at least at the one I went to. The babies always stayed with the mom and us older kids 5 and up after service was over it was Sunday school.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Our church has a nursery for the littler ones. Once our bible classes are done, everyone including the children will go to the worship center. The children stay for only a few minutes and then are led back to classes by the teachers until time to go. Once they reach the age of 12 however, they are given the choice to stay with their parents. Everyone including us adults attends Sunday school according to age group, but sometimes the kids like to sit in the parents class. Maybe because we have cookies sometimes.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
Maybe?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Apr 13
I grew up in a church that had a cry room at the back for parents to be able to attend the service with their young children without having to disturb the entire congregation. However when the church built the new building, this was not a feature that they included in the new building and I think that is something that is okay as well. I personally think that it is good when children are able to be included in the services and that is the reason that I like both of the alternatives that I've personally experienced in my life.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Apr 13
I like and extra room or nursery of some sort where the kids are near by if they can't sit or be quite during the service. Most mothers keep there kids with till they are awake a lot and slowly get them to Tay longer and longer.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I feel if parents go to church then it is important for their children to go as well. Even if the children are young. We have a mothers room at ours but I think it would be nice if there was a kids area for them to learn. As it is hard to keep a young one sitting quiet.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
Yeah that's cool.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 13
Sometimes the fact that being in a church can actually have a calming influence on the children, I don't see no reason at all why parents shouldn't bring their children to church, wherever you go, library, supermarket, restaurant you will always get children crying, so a church is no different. Introducing children to Gods house at any early age gets them used to religion and what goes on in a church.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
That is why I bring my kids almost every where I go. I took my oldest to chuck a few times not as many for my son we just do t like going that much. But we take them out in public some much they pretty well behaved. Every know and them a little fit or something.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Apr 13
We don't go very often either but when we do all the kids come with us. Because I have small children...7 total but 3 under 3...hearing other children really doesn't bother me too much. My 3 little ones are fine 90% of the time but occasionally there is a fuss about something. If I think it becomes to disruptive for others then I take them outside because there is nowhere else...no crying room, no nursery...so you kind of have no choice but go outside. For that reason I don't have the problem with others because you really have no options. I really like the idea of the hall with TV so you can watch or hear the service.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
The hallway with the TVA are great. I stopped going to that church but that was one thing I did like about it. They also had a nursery for the small children.
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
I feel happy and awesome and proud for the parents who brought their children to church at the early age. In our church we have rooms for the Sunday school for kids... every services they are kind young ladies who pick up kids to attend the Sunday school, so while their parents are attending the services with full concentration... their kids is having fun and learning inside the Sunday school for kids. Have a great day... our church don't own a building yet so we can't provide those tv yet but it is one of the plan and yes it is super cool! God bless every area of your life!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
Cool.
7 Apr 13
children nev er stop learning children church is needed in all churches
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
Do you mean culture? I'm not sure if that is what you mean? I have to disagree not all cultures need a religion because not all people want to fallow a faith. Yes children do need to learn to behave in public t different things and when to be loud and when to have a soft voice.
8 Apr 13
it never bothers me when a baby cries during the mass actually its a good practice to bring the baby and for me no need to have a room for them since being with the community will also help the toddler to understand and see from such a young age
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
It doesn't bother me either. I see it the same way you do. Also the child's personality plays in even as a new baby. It can be like someone else said calming for a child.
• Philippines
8 Apr 13
For me bringing their whole family to the church is a good family bonding. It strengthens family relationship and faith. It's agood thing that you let your babies start to learn about God while they are young so that they can have a great life.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 13
Okay.