My son is finally moving out!!!!

please don't get me wrong but i do not understand why you should separate yourself from your son since he isn't married. wouldn't it be better if you stay together and take care of each other? what i mean is that as long as you don't meddle in his love life, you can have a happy co-existence in that apartment. i come from a culture where extended families live together. we were afraid to leave our grandparents alone for if anything happens to them, we wouldn't be there to attend to them at once. i do not mean to disagree nor offend you. i understand that different cultures have different family arrangements. i only wanted to point out the disadvantages of living alone especially when one gets older.

It doesn't really matter how old they are as they are still our children. Yes, you will miss him at first but if you haven't been getting along so well then it is time to move on. I do hope that you find a smaller place and hope that with you both living apart you will once again regain the closeness that you had. Best of luck in looking for a place

I guess he made his own prediction. My son has been with me for over three years, and he is getting married again in September. I will miss him and yet I am very happy for him. I guess you will have a lot to do to move. Take care of yourself and do not overdo it.

That is odd that he said that to you when he was just a boy and now it is coming true. Like a prophecy or something. Yes, it is tough when our kids are ready to set out on their own path. Some take longer than others, some are ready to go almost immediately. Glad you are okay with it.

The omen is fulfilled then :) Good luck to both of you, I hope you find a good house and as much peace in your life as possible.

while it will be nice to reclaim your life after 4 long years of waiting and you will have to find a new place that you can afford on your own look at as a new start to your own life as well good luck

Since you are happy to be alone, I hope everything goes well according to your wishes. I only felt it might have been better and easier for both of you if you had stayed in the same place. But, if the relationship was strained then probably absence will make the heart grow fonder.I pray all is well for you.

More members of a family living together might be stressful. There is a time when children have to go on their own and live their lives. You son did it a bit late I would say. It's true that when there are more members in the family living together makes easier to pay the rent and the bills and you are not alone. But being the woman in the house you have to cook and wash and clean for all the family. This is quite stressful unless they help you. I'm looking forward to having time for myself! Good luck in your new life!

Good luck for the search and I hope both of you shall make a fresh start with the new set up. :)

Well, your son has kept his promise, for he said, I will stay with you for up to 44 years, and he did! However, I understand that for you is a bit painful now that he leaves the house, but at a certain point, I think it's his time, he has a job and therefore has economic independence, and if he wants to go away from home, the right to do so. I too would like a more independent life, I'm 38 years old, are out of work and I still live at the pleasure of my dear parents. Will, however, my moment.

Hi, If you have no healthy relations with your son then it is better to live alone and enjoy your life. It is very sad that your son is not willing to live with you. After going away from you he will realize the importance of his father. but you should not be upset and you can enjoy your life as you and try to live happily and positively. Your son has predicted rightly that he will go away from you after his age of 44. you will get a place for you for peaceful living.

Glad to hear that, Have a happy day ahead of you and good health

I hope both you and he will have agood and happy life in the new houses! Even tough you said you two haven't had a nice relationship in the past years, try to visit each other from time to time, I'm sure now , because he's in a new house, will need some advices sometimes :D. Have a nice day and I hope you'll find a nice, pretty, little house for yourself ^^!

I really don't think it is right for someone to live with his parents untill he is 44 years old. Otherwise, i don't really know if you would be happy for a long time. You say you are going te be alone when he's gone, and i think this can be very hard because you are not used to it. I'm happy that I still live with my parents, though I'm just 18 years old. But I'm thinking of moving out at the age of 24/25, I think my parents will have a hard time in the beginning. But they will get used to it after a while.

Guess he's true to his words then. I think it's great that finally he has the courage to move out and be on his own. I do believe that 18 isn't the requirement. There are people who mature earlier than others, there are those who don't mature at all. But perhaps he wasn't only thinking about himself ~ which is why he hasn't moved out earlier. Perhaps he was thinking about you too. But that's great news. But I do hope that you'd get to patch things up with him before he finally moves out. Or better yet, I hope the distance would make the relationship smoother. Good luck to both. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Hi BJ, It really does sound like a bitter sweet change for you but in a way I bet that you are kind of excited, heh? I'm guessing that your son has never been on his own either?? If that's the case then this must feel the same for him too. Best of luck to both of you. I am betting that your relationship with him will get a whole lot closer with each of you having a bit of your own personal space!

hi bjc I lived with my son and shared the cost of our two bedroomm apts but when we got to El dorado gardens the rent had doubled and I was about to get forcibly retired when my son got laid off so began the turning our world upside down we are mostly recovered now as i live in this tiresome retirement center paid for by my social security and SSU checks and my son got a break on section 8 so only pays 400 for his one bedroom instead of 1000 dollars. the possibility oi our getting a two bedrtoom together is almost hoelss now as calif rents are not going down but up and the economy is still in shreds,.so I am just glad my son has a full time job now and that my checks will cover my stay here, while not what we wanted it was a big step up from being o n the street and homeless and stay ing in homeless shelters. I hope you can get a decent apartment in senior housing for a great price., Moving itself is enough hassle with the trials of apt. hunting.

I hope that what you are doing is for the best. So many times we get stuck in a situation that no longer satisfy us because we don`t know how to deal with the future. It is more difficult as we get older. But your son will be fine and now it is your turn to take care of yourself. My two daughters went away when they were very young and it has proven good for them. They both have good houses and they are in charge of their lives.

I know how hard it is to move and packing can be a pain. When Randy and I moved from Idaho to Nevada we lived with my parents for 10 months and it was hard. Randy had a lot of health issues since we moved down here (diabetes and has a foot condition which prevents him from working) and he had a lot of doctor's appointments in the beginning, however my mom wanted me to look for work and skip all of Randy's doctor's appointments (which I had refused to do because I felt it was more important to be with him). It was very stressful living with my parents because all we did was fight (my mother and I) and it got to the point where I could not discuss things with Randy because my mother would butt in and tell me what to do. Things have gotten a little bit better until she sent me an email saying that there is a career fair on Thursday and I need to change my plans so I could go. I told her that I have my quilting class, Randy's doctor's appointment and we also need to redo the paperwork for Randy's disability so he can get it for another year. I am not changing any of these plans. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

It is good for him to have his way moreover he is already 44 years old. I hope you could find a good place that suits you soon . My son is 21 now and still pursuing his third year Engineerng degree. He told me that if he could afford he would want to buy himself a small condo with full air conditioning house . He cannot tolerate the heat. That is why he always on the air cond in his room now. And my electric bill is sky high .