How will you survive a life without a parents?
By kijikiken
@kijikiken (81)
Philippines
April 8, 2013 12:41pm CST
Everyone of us has our own family. I'm just wondering, wheres mine? I grew with my grandmother since I was a kid. My mom and dad separated when I was still a baby. I could remember my mom just visit me seldom and my dad? Well I cannot remember he visited me until on my 17th birthday. He promised to visit me every 2 months but I did not expect that it would be the first and last moment that I can be with him. The next time I saw him was on his burial. I was living with different family every four years. It was like hell because I need to adjust always. No one ever let me feel that as if I belong to them. I can still remember how they have treated me as helper but I cannot blame them. They supported my studies. I just can't understand why my life is like this. Did I do something wrong when I was still a baby?
4 responses
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
9 Apr 13
i am sorry bout you,but you didnt do anything wrong,
some people are just unlucky
but you dont need them to be a good person or to be strong in this life
i think you can do anything you want alone and with your friends
just think positive and try to forget bad memories
happy mylotting
@kijikiken (81)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Yes but having a family is still a factor for a child to be a better person. It's still a big thing when someone is guiding you while you are growing. Someone that can explain to you while world is like this. Maybe I can be a good mother to my children but I will still find the love of my parents.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
8 Apr 13
NO, you didn't do anything wrong when you were a baby. you became the victim of your parents' immaturity, their incapacity to handle and face their responsibilities.
you've grown into a fine young woman. you've overcome all the obstacles that you encountered when you were still young and studying. you should be proud of yourself and your achievements. i'm sure your grandma is proud of you too.
time will come that you'll get married and have your own children. you'll become a good mother to them because you know firsthand how a child feels lost and lonely without her mom. good luck.
@kijikiken (81)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Though I am okay with my life now I can still feel that there's something missing in my life. I'm thinking how my life would be if I grew up with my parent? Would I be better person? They always say that history repeats itself, I just hope what happened to my mom would not happen to me too. I suffered enough. I don't want to suffer more.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
8 Apr 13
i hope your situation inspires you to become better person. i think you have enough reason to succeed in life. the experiences you gained from your childhood, let them be your driver to a good future. many successful people have undergone similar difficulties in their early lives. there is no other way but up.
@kijikiken (81)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Thanks for the advise. Well in a positive way I know it also helped me become a better person. I may grew up without a family but I knew someone is just up there to guide me.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Of course you can survive without a parent, but it will be a tough life journey since you will not have parental love and guidance by the time you grow up to become an adult, your childhood experience will be quite different from many other kids who have parent at home. There is nothing wrong on your part when your parent refuse to live with you while you are still a baby, it is their fault, they reluctant to assume their parental responsibility after brought you into this world is the major reason why you have to live with your grandmother other than themselves due to personal conveniences. But life must go on and you should continue to move ahead without looking back too often, just be happy and continue living your life to the fullest every day. 
@kijikiken (81)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
I am trying to be happy. Hiding my true feelings behind my smiles and laughter. Since I was young I always got jealous to all my classmates every time I can see them with their parents on our family day, graduation or anything that require the presence of our parents. I don't know why it's always hard for me to mingle with my friends. It seems that no one can understand me. My aunt always say that's why I'm different with other kids is because no one guided me during my growing up years. They even sometimes call me a special child because of my behavior. well I cannot blame them, maybe I need to know myself more and understand the world better. There's always a reason why things are happening in life. God will not give us a challenge if we cannot survive it.
