Is This It?

You need a hug my dear friend, and I am wondering if you are either suffering from SAD or depression, it sure sounds like it, have you thought about discussing this with your GP? That is, of course you have a good rapport with them? Or maybe it's just a combination of the weather, your father, and your health problems and the op you had to go through will leave you feeling under par. It's a shame that you and John can't get away together for a weekend away from it all, and everyone, you sure need a break, I realize money is tight for you, but you do need something to look forward to, is there something you love doing that you could take yourself away for a day and do? I know what it's like to feel like you do, without sounding patronizing in any way so I can fully empathize with you.

If you don't have energy maybe you are not getting enough nutrients in your diet. Maybe you need vitamins. The way you talk though (that you wish to stay in bed all day) it sounds more like depression. You may be depressed about something in your life. You may not be getting enough sun in your life that could be the problem. A lot of people who don't get enough sun get depressed. I know when I use to live in New York and we would go through a week of rain I would be really depressed. Now living in Puerto Rico with more sun then rain I don't find that happening here.

It sounds like you really do need some sun. You said you didn't have much room to get in the sun, but it might help if you'd take advantage of what you do have as much as possible. Also, Vitamin D (which we get from sunshine) and fish oil - Omega 3 fatty acids - have been shown to be helpful with depression. It sounds like you might have a mild case of it. I'm 20 years older than you and I can tell you that 47 is still young and no, it isn't downhill from there. There's a lot of life yet to live.

Sunshine will certainly help, as would a B12 shot (not to be mistaken for a B-52 ).

It sounds like you definitely need to get some more sunshine. The long winters can wear on some people, and this winter certainly has been a long one in your area. The calendar may now say that it is springtime, but the weather has yet to catch up to that there. Also, while you have improved your diet, there may be some more work needed. Are you getting a lot of fruits and veggies in your diet? The bulk of your diet should be in the form of (preferably fresh) fruits and veggies. Exercise also helps to boost your mood. While it can be tempting to just crawl back into bed, it is better to go for a walk... or traumatize the cat by dancing around the house with her.

Maybe what you really need is a vacation. You just need to be in a different place. That might make you feel better.

They say life begins at 40 don't they. You don't paint a very rosy picture my friend. I believe that the cold weather doesn't make you feel well and you are having trouble with your ears. I think depression can make a person feel tired all the time. You need some sunny days to cheer you up. I will be age 41 in July. So I am getting older by the day. I have some grey hairs and wish to henna my hair to hide these. Good luck Janey.

My friend Cyndy told me that once you hit 50 it's all downhill. But then 10 years later she got active, lost her extra weight, and feels pretty good. So maybe not...

I'm going on 33 and already feel like that.. maybe it is the weather.. but man I could sleep all day. And I've been depressed ever since turning 30. Hubby's going on 39 this year.. even more terrifying for me. I want to stop the aging process all together.. thanks for giving me a view of what I'm looking forward to!

You are still a BABY. 47 is the new 37. I think that you may be a little depressed. I am getting an ear infection from wax build up. Just get to a doctor for an assessment. No this is not it and it doesn't go downhill now until you die.You have many more years of life so just get your health sorted out and then get on and enjoy your life

I had a few years where nothing seemed to go right.I am married with lovely children and grandchildren.My husband works a good job and life was sweet.Still I got down it is to do with the change of life.Hormones It is just a stage.Make yourself get up and walk a few miles aday.listen to some music.Slowly but surely you will feel better and recover from this depression.It is especially hard to get motivated with the weather so miserable.You are not on your own beleave me.It does get better just try to pull yourself out of it.Do you work? maybe a little job will motivate you.What about your own place.If you live with your mother boy do they do things differently.Sometimes these older people get up early it is years of habit.You are having a bad time at the moment but keep going and things will get better.

I am in that age range, and although I don't like to admit it, I've been seeing signs of the rough road ahead, health-wise. Like everything I do, I might go cramming to get healthy. It's 5 degrees tonight, and I feel a flu coming. It isn't good.

It could be a few things. It could be you are going through the change of life and it could also be the weather. Or a combination of the two. I noticed that after 45 I started getting more and more tired myself. I am not happy about that at all. I also find myself wanting to sleep all the time. Getting old stinks. Really. But I try and fight off that tired feeling and continue on. Like right now I feel exhausted, but I refuse to lay down.

I have felt like that, but I don't now. So there is no reason why you should feel that way for the rest of your life. The only problem is working out what the problem is. Though feeling happy while in blackpool and miserable when you get back to carlisle, and just on your own in the house, does suggest that that is the problem. I've only been to carlisle once, and I don't really know it, but I see as being in a strange place, as it is in the middle of a very rural area, and it is on the edge of england, but not in scotland, so I can see that it could be quite an isolated place to live, especially compared to blackpool. Its obvious you need something to make life more interesting, it might be worth doing something very small, just like volunteering in a charity shop once a week. I hate suggesting that because it is so often a solution suggested for so many problems, when it is often no solution at all, but just doing something, low cost, to get out of the house and meet people, is probably what you need.

You needn't worry about your health too much.All is due to going out and about in Blackpool,being travel-worn and the operation before now.

yes you need to be expose to sun it's starting to mark the signs of time normally when we aged what we do in our younger years will reflect when we get old that's what they call pay back time, just take care of yourself extra care and better to do some activities