Are all bipolar people like this?
By jadoixa
@jadoixa (1166)
Philippines
April 8, 2013 8:06pm CST
i know someone who has a mental disorder called "bipolar disorder" and this person has a lot of children, he usually provides for them but don't communicate and seems not proud of his children. not sure if they truly love their children because they don't care about spending and taking time for them. are all bipolar people don't care about family and children? do you know someone who is also like this?
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@marguicha (222844)
• Chile
9 Apr 13
There are mild bipolars and severe ones. Depending on that is if they can lead a normal life or if they need heavier medication.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
My brother's wife has bipolar disorder as well. And for a time, my brother has told me that his wife would be often mad and gets irritated. I thought that it would end their marriage. Good thing that my brother was very patient with her. And i think, with the help of the therapist she was able to control her emotions.
Now the neglecting part with kids, I think that it is normal to be a bot distant with anyone if a person has this disorder. But of course, that would put strain in the relationship between kids and mother. Does she have a therapist?
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
right now, i think he is not seeing a therapist. his family would bring him to the therapist when he gets out of control with his behavior or attitude but most of the time he would not follow what the therapist says and goes back to what he usually does..through the years he has been committing the same mistakes all the time. he has never learned from it. it can really cause a strain to anyone with how and what he is.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
With the way you have described it, I think it would be really a long process. But the family should not give up on him. If he fails to take his medication and go to a therapist, it would surely takes its toll on the relationship within the family. What he needs is someone whom he can talk to and express how he feels.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Apr 13
I can only go by what I have seen from my wicked aunt who is also bi polar. The truth is, she doesn't act like she gives a darn about her kids either. I am not saying ALL bi polar people are like that but I do know she is the same way. She is very selfish and she is a b*tch! She treats everyone really nasty and she is like a switch, one minute she is nice and the next she is screaming and cursing at people! I cannot stand to be around her. She is a horrible aunt, a horrible mother and a horrible person in general...
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
it is really hard to be around this kind of person. i wonder how it is for the person who stays besides this man who keeps on switching from one mood and character to another. they are really too patient to stay by his side and not become affected by it. it is really not easy..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
9 Apr 13
If you have problems taking care of yourself, being happy/satisfied, struggling with yourself day after day it's normal that you don't care about your childeren or other family. Or househould or life itself. What I wonder about is why a person with such kind of disorder does have children at all. It makes life way more difficult, besides of the dna/genetic problems.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
yes, if he doesn't like and care about family and children..he still keeps on courting women and entering relationships, then later on the children and the partner that comes from this situation will be the ones who are punished because they are the ones who are being blamed, neglected, become a product of broken homes and family, or marriage and relationship. it is really a strain and sad for those people especially the innocent children that is a product of this.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
I agree with you ! Being in a bipolar condition is never easy , can hardly even managed self , how much more managing little angels. So sad for this , i hope the hubby will take over the responsibilities of her wife. Bipolar having kids are making her situation worst , the more she will be confused .
@syd525 (1)
•
9 Apr 13
hey hi im new here
& zis is my first response guys
i think these type of people are rather careless and selfish
if they were like having mental disorder and would be treated incorrectly would be a good lesson for them!!!!!!
wat say????
@nenyalorien (899)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
Hi Syd, welcome to MyLot. :)
Well, anybody deserves to be treated nicely and accepted for who they are -- even if they're being a pain. Sometimes, the reason why they are being a pain is that they are in pain.
However I personally cannot follow my statement 100% of the time, especially since there are some people who really make other people's lives difficult, and in a premeditated manner.
In that case, I will agree with you that it would be a lesson for them if other people will act in kind (or just as they deserve), towards them.
Keep MyLotting!
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
yes that is right too. but sometimes they are using their condition as an excuse that they are able to do such things to others and also not being responsible on themselves that is to take medication and get help and therapy. it is most difficult and traumatic for the people around them who are affected by their behavior and actions.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
9 Apr 13
My biological mom is said to be bipolar. I'm not sure what her feelings were about my brother and I because I've never met her since we were babies. My half sisters see her as their hero and they have a hard time believing when they hear of the horrible things our mother did to us.
I'm sure they've got feelings same as everyone else though.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
9 Apr 13
Hi some people have differnt types of bipolar
they can be mean then nice.
some are get just quiet and do not
talk to no one.
I know a few people they all had bipolar
but differt types when they are on there
meds they are ok.
@tabathaseven (72)
• United States
22 Jun 15
Hi... Actually, I'm bipolar... and most of my friends have some type of mental illness or another... It totally depends upon the person's individual personality... and on how mentally stable the person is, etc. I have one friend who has three kids.... She has bipolar disorder as well as schizophrenia.... and she is such an awesome mom.... I think I'm a pretty good mom as well, and I also have both bipolar disorder and schizophrenia... On the other hand, I used to know a lady who had some mental illnesses, and she actually told me that she didn't spend much time with her children because she just liked babies, not kids... I thought that was really sad.... So as with any other person, the way we as psychiatric patients treat our children, really just depends on our own personalities....