i feel sorry to those who are taking care of me now.
By princess8881
@princess8881 (1630)
South Korea
April 8, 2013 8:38pm CST
Feel so thankful to have a husband and a mother in law like them, I just had an operation and i'm still in the hospital, though i'm recovering now.. i just want to go out of here faster i feel so sorry to my husband and specially to my mother in law, shes been taking care of me and i never thought that the feeling could be comfortable as this. I always feel awkward every time i am with her. although she is very kind compare to other mother in law, still I couldn't help but to be uncomfortable when I'm with her. of course shes my husbands mother thats why maybe, she always told me that she loves me like her own daughter. I don't really believe her i even hate her sometimes, but now i really feel sorry for everything. so I promise myself to be nicer to her when I get out and of course to love her like my own mother too.
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9 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
I ma happy to know that you have a good mother in law. It is better to have a great relationship with her coz she can be of great help to your family plus she can also stand as your own mother when the need arises.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
10 Apr 13
that is so true specially in my case, i am away from family, i hope our relationship will continue to be better and better
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
10 Apr 13
before i do feel like everything i do should pass in her criteria, but now i realize that i really got the wrong idea. and yes im trying to absorb all the tlc i am getting now 
feel so blessed 
feel so blessed @jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
If she is showing you kindness, then allow her to do that and feel the love and care that she give you. Think of it this way: not all daughters in law may be like your situation. And you are lucky. You are free from being in a competition with your mother in law.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
when my mother had her operation last year, i stopped working to be with her in the hospital (with another relative), then i also prepared the house the day before she came back, and always checked on her when she was home. it's like automatic with me.
on the other hand, i'm having my own operation soon but i don't want to trouble her. i'm not a child or a teenager. so i'm asking the same relative to be with us to help me and be our runner, but of course my mother will still be there. she won't be at ease at home worrying about me anyway.
where's your mom? or your sisters?
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
you are avery kind daughter in law, its not that easy to find another job.
Me and my husband are products of international marriage and I am living in his country. So I don't really have a relative around me, except them.
well I do know time will come when I can return the favor.
well I do know time will come when I can return the favor.@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
yes it was really hard to be far away with your family, specially when someone in sick, i mean when your sick it so hard to trust somebody to take care of you, and when they are sick its just not easy to go there and take care of them.
I do believe that we should express how much we love our parent when we still have time to do so.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
no, it was my mom. my siblings shouldered the expenses.
yes, it's really hard when you're away from home. my sister and sister-in-law experienced the same things and it's hard because they still have husbands, kids and house chores to attend to.
you're lucky because you have a kind mother-in-law. sometimes something has to happen to reveal what people really are so, in a way, this is a blessing in disguise because you saw a different side of her. we all have good and annoying sides after all.
don't be in a hurry to get well to avoid relapse.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
sometimes being stubborn would put some gap into any relationship like what you have with your mother in law. and we cannot erase the bad thoughts toward with someone unless we can experience or feel the kindness of that person. i guess, your operation is a blessing in disguise because of this, it bind the relationship you have with them much firmly. if there is one thing you should be thankful with what happened to you, is this one; the relationship you establish and for the thoughts to be more kinder to them. so go on and do what you think is right")
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
very well said msjahn. we cannot really judge a person i think if we didn't spend much time with them. also without giving them a chance to get to know them.
. we cannot really judge a person i think if we didn't spend much time with them. also without giving them a chance to get to know them.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
You must do it not as a promised but as an obligation. You must not feel sorry for they did it for reason you are entitle to it.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
but i still hope they are not doing it just because its an obligation, but because they actually care. Anyway if they are doing it just because of obligation I still think I have to be thankful. because these days its really hard to find those people who actually knows their "obligations"
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
9 Apr 13
please dont feel sorry,families are families because of these things
we all have to support eachother and help.
i think having this kind of surgery and story can show you how much people love you around
and i think its so happy and cool thing.
happy mylotting
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
yes this kind of situation really reveals what kind of people are around you. and i am glad and happy that they are the good ones
@nainasamantaray0 (24)
•
9 Apr 13
really it is good that you are realize that your mother in law loves u like her own daughter.i have showed a girl after getting marriage she only think about her husband,that he is only her own not his family. they did not know that family is not create only with a husband. so the misunderstanding are Aries and she did not care and love her in lows family like her own family.she did not believe them.i think every girl should care and love there in lows family like her family.should give them affection,and to aware her responsibilities.after that they are automatically change.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
Well I think its really good to at least give it a try to love those people who your husband's love. although it always depends on the situation, because there are people who only know how to use everybody, but like what you said i think its better to give than to receive.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
thank you stary1 yeah everybody is happy when the environment around you is not that heavy.
yeah everybody is happy when the environment around you is not that heavy.
@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
9 Apr 13
Hi Princess,
Yes it happens sometimes whom we don't like come out to be our well wishers at the end and those whom we think are our well wishers don't turn out to be when they don't come up to help us when we are in need.
For you yes MIL are like our mother so don't feel uncomfortable and try to be with her too when she requires you this is all about how to make relationships good.
For you yes MIL are like our mother so don't feel uncomfortable and try to be with her too when she requires you this is all about how to make relationships good.@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
you are right.. i guess i should spend more time with her when i go out.
@Alisatan (190)
• Hefei, China
9 Apr 13
I understand your feeling, as I am a little akward when with my mother in law though I want to be kind enough to her. But I do think she is a kind person. I am happy that your have a great mother in law, also I think it will be comfortable to be with her as time passed. I believe I will be comfortable with my mother in law too. It is nature to be akward to be with a stranger at first, right?
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Apr 13
yes it is, although they are not strangers at all and they are in fact our family, still they are our husbands mother. before i have these feelings that as if she has eyes on her back as if I am being watch on whatever I do.haha
