What are some suggestions you would give new parents?

Never show fear in front of a child, often a parent's fears are passed on to the child, for example if the child see's his mum or dad's fear played out when seeing a spider, that child will quickly learn to be afraid of spiders. Same with food if a father makes his dislike of a particular vegetable for example known in front of the child, the child when they see that vegetable as being something he won't like, even before he's tasted it. Fears are quickly transferred from adult to child in these ways.

I would say it's good to give your children what you feel they should have but don't ever make it a thing to get them whatever they ask for. If you give a child whatever they want, you can be at risk for some major meltdowns that one time you simply can't get them what they want. I make sure my son has what he needs and I take care of anything else secondary..it's just easier that way. Also, be careful of what you say around your child. No matter how old they are, they seem to pick up things you say and use it at the wrong times..so watch your mouth!

Teach by example. Start with the golden rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This one rule to live by would make so much in life much easier. Blessings

I think it is important to set the rules as soon as your child understand things, it is good for them and the parents in long run. Always be consistent which is something that I am still working on; it could get really frustrating when they don't listen to you but parents really got to keep their temper good, otherwise, it scares the children and they don't get why you so mad.

The advice I would give young couples is to enjoy their children when they are young for all too soon they are grown up and gone and you wish you could do it all over again. You never get those years back.

I think working along with them is a good idea. My daughter was helping me with putting dishes into the dish washer. Her grandmother told her she shouldn't be doing that because she would have to do it soon enough when she grew up. She still would let the dishes go for days before she would do them. Since she cooks I do them but she doesn't even rinse them off.

Read more books, There are tons of books about parenting in the library. There is no excuse for not learning from the experience of others. I think if a person has taken a year to read 40 books, he will be a very good parent.

I`m a grandmother and learnt from making mistakes and from watching my daughters making other different mistakes. The most important things for me is that you have to love your child as he is, for what he is and in spite of what hw is. After understanding that, you can set rules and make them follow them (but the child must know that being grounded for something has nothing to do wth love). Rules on the other hand have a background of values. We cannot expect a child to speak quietly if we yell. And the other thing that is important for me is that, if a child wants to do wht is his will in spite of everything, he should first explain why he wants to do that. Then we can talk about it and sometimes he will be right.

Hi Pose: I think these advices are really good and they are beautiful. however, it's difficult to advice someone on how to be a better parent. Sometimes you get a harsh response because people feel offended when someone is "trying to teach them how to be good parents". They may think that you are trying to tell them that they are not good parents. But if someone ask me, I would add that they may see themselves as a guide to their children because after all, they can't live for their kids. Sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn and as a parent even if you don't want that your kids suffer it's inevitable. ALVARO

I do think your suggestions are pretty good; you do have to let the child make their own decisions and give them the knowledge so they can make the right choices. I've done this with my daughter; try to get her to think what the situation is and what she can do about it. Kids like control and they like knowing that you are there.

If I had to give some advice to new parents, it would be: 1. Schedule YOU time. Not too much you time so that you are never there but you need to schedule time for yourself. If you don't, it can lead to depressive thoughts and so on as you get older. 2. Set rules and talk to your children. It is never too early to start with the basics such as respecting someone else, etc. Even babies can pick up on the smallest things after a while such as the way a parent treats other people. 3. Remember advice is only advice. I realize that friends, co-workers, family, etc. will always want to tell you how to raise your children because they believe in different things than you do, etc. You do not have to follow every last piece of advice given nor are you a failure if one piece of it doesn't work. Every child is different and if you want to try something then try it, if not, don't sweat it. One child may hate cleaning up their toys and you will have to make them do it. While another child would be ok with just listening and doing it and another child may be happy with an explanation or game. It all depends on the child so have some faith in yourself as a new parent.

As parents you share responsibility on disciplining your children. When one is reprimanding the child, one should stay quiet and do some explaining later. This is not to have a love-hate relationship on the part of the child. If one of you takes sides in front of the child, it might create the kind of relationship that I mentioned. The child would hate the parent who scolded him/her and love the one who take his/her side. Both of you must talk first so you both have the same decision.

aside from the suggestions you gave in your post, i would like to add something. give them everything that they NEED but NOT everything that they WANT.

Like all monkeys we learn parenting from being parented, the difficulty for most new parents is that they've decided what they won't do or be like, but haven't agreed what they'll do. Being a new parent is scary; there's this helpless infant totally dependent on you and you have to teach values, feed and educate. My advice? Relax, no-one is perfect, just 'good enough' you'll be too.

Treat your children with the same love and respect that you do your neighbors and adult friends. When they stray outside the line, talk about it, and show them the better way. Never use force or corporal punishment ( this is disrespectful to them.) They will be open to discussion because they will learn to trust you, even as you learn to trust them. This will Greatly influence their choice, when eventually they pick out your Nursing Home!(What comes around goes around!)

I think the best would be to raise the child just the way how you were raised. A new mother can instinctively know how to take care of her own child. It is by nature that women are able to have this motherly instinct. And maybe just a few reminders from their parents would be a help.

if i have children,i will 1.take as much time as possible to play,study and eat with them. 2.travel with them by many ways,for example,on foot,by train,by bus,or by plane 3.let them foster one or two (not many)interests which they really like 4.respect their thoughts.maybe they are more reasonable than you. 5.let them know everythings need price,if they want something ,they should fight for it.