My wife has long hair
By roshigo58
@roshigo58 (4859)
Pune, India
April 9, 2013 11:35pm CST
Hi,
My wife has long hair but unfortunately she can not manage them. She can not comb them properly because she has muscular problem so she has difficulty in bringing her hands up. So she decided to cut the hair so that she can manage them properly. I have to call beautician to our home. We have to make many adjustments in our life.
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
10 Apr 13
sorry to your wifes muscular problem, but i think cutting her hair is not that bad at all, she may feel more comfortable later, i know its hard once your use to having long hair, but for sure shes going to love her new looks, dont worry to much, its going to be fine
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
10 Apr 13
negativity won't do anything. we all have our own challenges to face so take it easy, smile sometimes we just have to go to the flow.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. She may be happy with her new looks. She is always positive with everything.
Thank you for the response.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Apr 13
Why dont you help her manage her hair?
I am unsure but I have seen my cousin sister doing her moms hair and so I should also mention that if you have a daughter old enough, she too can take care of the managing of her moms hair. Why trim it out when there are still some open options around?
Anyways, that is too personal a question and I am not the right guy to tell you but if possible please consider my suggestions. I know, many indian women are still so much attached to their long manes and hair that they will not feel heartily comfortable with letting them being trimmed. So I think you should consider that feeling too and try to deliver as a loving and caring hubby.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
I am ready to help her . But she don't want to give any trouble to me as far as possible. She always tries to do everything independently as far as possible. She thinks that she is giving trouble for many things to me and my son. we don't feel like that. I don't have any daughter. I have only son. She is facing her disability strongly and with positive attitude. So I don't have any objection in cutting her hair.
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@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 13
That is too bad. I have very long hair too and I know it is difficult to keep. There is an organization that takes real hair and makes it into wigs for cancer patients. Just pull the hair into a pony tail before cutting. You can also braid it if you like. Cut the ponytail off. Put the ponytail into a plastic bag (like a Ziploc bag) and put inside a padded envelope to be mailed.
The organization is called Locks of Love and here is the address:
Locks of Love at:
234 Southern Blvd.
West Palm Beach, FL 33405
You can mail the hair to that address.
@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 13
I wanted to give you the information incase you might like to do that.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
hi,
Thank you for giving valuable information. It is a nice idea to donate hair for wigs to cancer patient. It would be a good deed. I would like to mail the hair to this organization.
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Apr 13
You are a lucky chap. Most women these days have pony tails which looks awkward. Its wonderful to see women with long hair.In olden times women carried long hair and they took care of their hair. Now the latest available chemical cleansers and shampoos have reduced the quality of hair
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. In olden times women are having long hair but now a days long hair of women can be seen exceptionally. Mostly every woman is having short hair. Because they don't have time to look after them and they are following western culture. Quality of hair is reduced by the shampoos. Keeping long hair is now out of fashion.
Thank you for the response.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Apr 13
It is a true fact that all are not blessed with such a lucky sign. Having long hair is always give a nice look and blending personality for women. Even my wife had pretty long hair and that was the main reason I got attracted to her (never disclosed to anyone) and now, she lost a lot of hair due to water problems and similar reasons.
She also forced to cut the hair for good look and now 1/3 length got shaped and still looking nice and good. Here in your case also, if she is having problems for maintaining the hair, there is no other alternative. However, if someone take care of helping the hair can be resolved to an extent. But it is not always possible and now-a-days, we need to keep special care and attention to long hair to properly maintained.
You can take snaps and photos before cutting her hair.
Regards
thank-s
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
It is very nice idea of taking snaps and photos before cutting her hair. As you said there is no one to help her in taking care of hair. So it is better to cut the hair.
Thank you for the response.
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@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
I had a problem with my wrist some years ago. It cause a swell on my right hand. I could not even write or sign my signature and not able to tie my hair as well . During those period of time, my hubby used to tie my hair until my hand recovered
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are lucky that you have such loving and caring husband. I can not tie my wife's hair.
thank you for the response.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 13
There is an upside of having to call a beautician to your home, most women love having their hair done, and being given attention to, so maybe it will be something your wife enjoys and looks forward to. It may be an adjustment but a positive one, I am sure with her hair cut your wife be much happier.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. This adjustment is positive adjustment and my wife may be much happier by her new looks.
Thank you for the response.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
11 Apr 13
If she cannot manage her long hair to cut is a good decision. That is a good idea and it makes her to relax and if she still feel she cant manage her new look hair well the best thing is make it shorter than before. There is no other solution but to cut it too short that does not required of combing hair. It is an easy to go to wear...
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
you are right. Too short hair doesn't require combing and she will feel relaxed.
Thank you for the response.
@allknowing (137770)
• India
10 Apr 13
Short hair is manageable and I too have short hair. I like it because it suits my face. Your love for your wife will help you tide over the difficult period that you are facing.
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@allknowing (137770)
• India
10 Apr 13
What difference does it make? She is comfortable and so am I. Short hair suits most women and so your wife also should be looking good.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. Short hair is manageable. You cut your hair for better looks but it is necessary for my wife to cut hair for her convenience.
Thank you for the response.
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@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 13
I love long hair too...I had to cut my hair real short when I was in hospital 9 months ago, but right now my hair has grow past my shoulders. At first I cried a lot, I dont like having short hair because I love to do my hair, make it curl, etc. Having short hair has some advantages too, less treatment than long hair and we can save more on shampoo, conditioner and hair mask.
Im sorry to hear about your wife's muscular problem, Im sure she is still attractive even with shorter hair, health is more important than anything.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
You have gone through this experience so you can understand how troublesome to mange long hair in sickness. My wife can not raise her hands up so she has difficulty in combing her hair. She is ready to accept short hair and doesn't feel sorry about it.
Thank you for the response.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. We have accept facts of the life without complaining because life is precious.
thank you for the response.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Apr 13
ohh sishy
Adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices this is what life is all about well said . I dont like to do anything out of these three. But we never know when and how we do the same for life.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Apr 13
Love means to sacrifice . If one don't know how to sacrifice then it is not a true love. Sacrificing even from small thing helps a lot in making a relationship stronger Yes , we need to adjust to the situation where we are into to have harmonious relationship and when both couple loved each other that much adjusting is not a big deal , even if not asked and told it will be done and given.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. We need to adjust to the situation where we are into to have harmonious relationship. We are dealing our life happily. My son is also very kind and loving. So all is always well for us.
thank you for the response.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
10 Apr 13
how long is her hair? I do not have long hair, but I have seen indian ladies never cut their hair and keep their hair to grow as long as it is possible... and they have really nice and strong hair.. my hair is not that strong... I think it is good to cut her hair if it makes her problem.. then why not.. good idea and good day for you and your family..
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
10 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. Many Indian women have long and thick hair. My wife's hair are upto her waist. But it is very troublesome to comb her hair. But she is ready to cut the hair.
thank you for the response.
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@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
12 Apr 13
in the starting of my coming to india i saw a girl on active and i notice her hair was just till her knee... i was just shock,,, my hair is not growing that long..
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@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
10 Apr 13
unless you start to take care of her hair I am sorry to say it would be better to have it cut it is very hard to care for some one we love with all our hearts but when we marry we take on the good and the bad I wish you all the best of love
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
She doesn't want to trouble me and I also can not manage and comb her long hair. So it would be better to cut hair and she is also ready to do that.
Thank you for the response.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
well wish you the best of luck you both be well and take care
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@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
10 Apr 13
I know how hard it can be to manage long hair without any disability so I can only imagine how much harder it is for your wife :( I also can understand the anxiety that comes from getting long hair cut. One way that you can help her afterwards is give her lots of compliments on the new look. That always calms me down after a haircut and makes me feel more confident about the change.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
Thank you for good suggestion. But she is not feeling sorry about cutting her hair and ready to accept any change in her looks. As you said I would give her lots of complements so that she would feel happy.
Thank you for the response.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
10 Apr 13
that is a good thing and which you must be really proud of ,but quite difficult to manage in first place
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
Her mind is determined for cutting her hair so she doesn't feel sorry for that.
Thank you for the response.
@imaging_1 (64)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr 13
Sorry for your wife's muscular problem. I think it will be okay to have a short hair, without long hair, your wife will feel more convenient and comfortable. And you can request the beautician to design a hairstyle for your wife, maybe it will be more suitable to your wife, and may let her more confident.Don't worry about it! :)
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
Thank you for good suggestion. I will tell the beautician make the hairstyle which suits my wife's face. So I shouldn't have to worry about her looks.
thank you for the response.
@micheal123 (184)
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10 Apr 13
Sorry to hear about your wife's problems,I think that getting her hair cut is bad,and could see how this may effect her but it won't last forever she will get used to it and more comfortable in the future.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
She is suffering from muscular dystrophy and it is not curable. So she has to take this decision.
thank you for the response.
@RandomnessPrincessx3 (280)
• United States
10 Apr 13
It's good you decide to make adjustments due to her muscular problem. There are some really pretty shorter hairstyles, i'm sure she looks just as nice as she does with long hair!
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
You are right. She would look nice in new hairstyle.
thank you for the response.
@vgpyogakrishna (168)
• India
10 Apr 13
adjustments are part and parcel of life and one has to cope up with it to emerge successful. you said your wife has muscular problem it would be better you take her to a physician and try to address it. and more over as a responsible and caring husband i would suggest you to take care of your wifes hair. comb her hair daily and make her feel comfortable. because only in times of need we can show our real love towards our loved ones
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi,
I have consulted a doctor for this. She is suffering from muscular dystrophy and it is not curable. So my wife doesn't want to trouble me. She has difficulties in doing many things and she try to do all the things independently as far as possible. She doesn't want to disturb anyone for her problem. So she had taken the decision of cutting hair.
Thank you for the response.