No play date for my eldest son :(

I'm so sorry to hear this! That has to be heartbreaking for both you and your son. I want to say, no one is perfect. We have flaws. And these flaws make us who we are, we should be embracing them for they are our test from god to prove our strength (that's how i see it.) I don't feel just because your son is autistic means that anyone should be rude enough to exclude him from a playdate. I would want to say the mother being busy with the daily things in life, she might have became overwhelmed with her own schedule that she hadn't squeezed time for a date in. But, if so, she should explain this. I don't understand the not even saying hello. I wouldn't place this on what you spoke to her about your son. If she's that mean to ignore you, think about if you'd really want your child to experience being present with her at a playdate. Also, keep in mind if her children are friends with yours, they are being effected by the "no playdate" situation, too. I hope she's just busy, and not being mean :( Wish you the best of luck in this!

That is really sad. Not only because she is a mother and she should understand the situation but if she is REALLY a childcare worker she should know what autism is and how to work with children that have this disorder. I am a Childcare Provider as well, I have 2 children that I take care of that have autism. I know what it is, and I know how to work with them. The other kids here are told that these two children will be treated the same as all of the other children. I would have no problem having my children play with other children, no matter what disability they have. They are still children and they need friends too. If she feels that way, maybe you would not want your son there anyway since she might not treat him very nicely. I hope your son finds a play mate soon!

I know that you must have been hurt with the way that the mother did. And maybe, not all mothers could really be that comfortable for their kids to have playmates whom they think is not like their kids. Your situation is tough. And you will need a lot of courage to face situations that needs your patience and understanding.

I think you need to reconnect with her and let her know that your son would still like to have a play date. She could have had lost her phone, or got busy with other things going on. I know when I ran a full child care I only had time for them and not much more.

Oh really she did not SMS you? This is really insane of her to think about your son like this. i think she must have felt that her son would feel uncomfortable in your son's company so she did not think of texting you, she was just trying to deceive you by telling that your son would go their place.

if she has been pretending she doesn't know you thereafter, then maybe she regrets saying "it's fine" and doesn't know how to tell you she really doesn't want to. for me, it's better not to press the issue. because if you did to give in to the kids, but she doesn't watch them properly or make things uncomfortable for your son while he's there, what's the use? is your son following up on it? is his friend following up on it? maybe it's better for them to meet and play at a common/public place. or invite his friend over to your house instead. it does make you wistful how kids don't see "differences" in each other. (and makes you wonder what the mom says to her son if he follows up on the playdate.)

That's too bad. You should try to talk to her and see what's going on.