assuming something before the person talks
By umabharti
@umabharti (3972)
India
April 10, 2013 11:23am CST
hi
Did this every happen with u all ?
Yes it did happen with me, daily life teaches us so much and we get used to those routine things that we start thinking that we think right and try assuming things.
i receive calls severely , regarding the payment status , i need to check with the concern person details whether the payment it is received or not and inform, once what happened like , i got a call , he said i did a payment assuming the old routine thing i informed everything as normal and usual then the person felt bad, because i did not even ask him wht he actually did , i felt really bad, because that is wrong , before asking something i should not had assumed that , i really felt bad from wht i did.
It happens at home also or with near and dear ones, we think that the other person likes the same thing as it was as before, but it comes out different.,
Kids like some things as routine , however if we think okay this is liked by someone and do prepare that they do not like it, i dont knw what type or why the brain and mind works this way,.
Another incident i called someone , i did not even get a reply of hi, jst from the other side i got a reply that im driving , i wd give a call once i reach home or come online, and call dropped.
why do people judge , as if everything happens as we think where never ever anything happens what we think.
3 responses
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi,
This happens to everyone in life. We assume something and do something which is not right for others. We think that our assumption is right and we act accordingly. But other people don't like it. Then we feel some guilty. Sometimes it happens exactly opposite of our thinking. But it happens automatically and we don't do it knowingly. So it's OK. This is called life.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
14 Apr 13
Hi
your right it happens automatically, and it makes us unconfident also to speak once again to the person , because of our wrong assumption
@jobfindonline (1744)
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11 Apr 13
I can see that you feel so sorry for what you have done. It happens to all of us sometimes. maybe we sometimes come to the point of getting tired for the routine of life and so we assume that the same thing will happen. I think we should try to listen first before we talk so we could avoid any wrong assumptions that we will regret after.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
12 Apr 13
i ask you one question , see every person is different so some dont even speak our what they feel or think.
So what in that case , how can we listen first with a silent person who doesnt speak out.How without seeing we can know ? when a person is silent we speak first what can other thing done , should we wait till that person speaks ? if that person never speaks then what ?
@gobordhon (19)
• Calcutta, India
10 Apr 13
I wonder about the dictum that a person assumes something and then talks. Why should one assume something ? Mere assumption may hardly serve any purpose. Suppose I want to invest some money and I have no knowledge which is the best method to do that. I have a friend who happens to know investment matters. I will approach him not on assumption but with definite knowledge that my friend is an expert in the matter.In every matter of life there are many things which we do not know and try to collect as much information so that we can join or detach ourselves from any scheme or plan or program and we never go on by mere assumption. We talk various matters in life from morning till night and in fact many of which are very casual and not serous at all. Eating, drinking, sitting, walking, driving, working in office/factories etc in various occupations and professions, resting, sleeping and go on talking as and when it is necessary or sometimes talking incoherently without any purpose, sleeping, dreaming etc etc. Where is the assumption and what is the assumption ? The question itself is not self explanatory.
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