confusing "kindness"

well, i think it's not. you are really kind, and on top of that the cold guy and you have a nice time, right? i think your kindness is necessary.

Being kind to other people is necessary and a good thing to do. It takes time for him to know you vice versa. Stay kind and friendly, I believe a good friendship will develop between you two.

Yes, it absolutely normal. I would not say that it is confusing in any way. You are just giving a ride to office to one of your colleagues. It is not important how he treats other or how does he behave in office, it is only important how do you feel in his presence. If you are comfortable in his presence then it is the most important thing, you can be friends and enjoy your trip to office. I am sure you can also make him open up a bit and find out if he is an introvert or does he have any problem in life due to which he remains aloof in office.

Maybe he's not comfortable with that set up, so I think let her initiate if he wanna join with you or not...

I think kindness is never unnecessary and you're doing a really nice thing. Not to play devils advocate but I kinda agree with you about it being a little strange. If a person is open and friendly to me on the way to work I wouldn't expect that to change once we get to work. Even it's a serious work environment you can still be friendly. Obviously he's comfortable enough with you to ride with you so that is a little odd to me. Guess I've just never seen that before.

It can be unnecessary if he asks you to give him a ride. If you don't feel good with his company, try to leave home earlier or later than him so you won't be able to feel the need to help. Or if you want to develop better relationship with your colleague, continue your picking up routine and perhaps he'd open up one of these days. We don't know until you see for yourself. Good luck sharryCD! ;)

I think it is good to show kindness to others. I think most probably he will become a good friend of yours. I think most times it is always good to help others.

Being truly kind to someone is always a good thing. Perhaps he feels insecure at work or with that many people around. Maybe work is just a job to him and he feels he has to be all business there. When it' just the two of you he may just feel more comfortable, more free to be himself, relaxed. Would it be so bad if he feels he made a friend? No sense reading more into it. I get overwhelmed with large groups or in public, but I'm more comfortable with people one at a time. I also live alone and have no means of transportation. If someone like you noticed and offered me rides to somewhere we both go I'd be grateful. it would take some of the stress off my life and I'd feel more relaxed and therefore chatty too. Take a breath and enjoy the pleasant company.

All of us could use all the help and kindness that our friends or colleagues can bestow upon us. Only you can answer your question. Doing an act of kindness should make you feel better about yourself and the act itself. BUt if it leaves you feeling confused or even forced, then I think you should think twice about "being kind". Sometimes, those who have nothing but good intentions tend to become the bad guy when someone is not really needing or grateful for the help.

I think your friend is a people who difficult to trust somebody else, he requires several time to receive you be his friend. Usually, when he was trust you he will talk much to you, even some of his secret. I think you are a kind man. Have a nice day.

That's okay. You are doing the right thing.