He is earning money and his family miss him lot

I am a landlubber, the thought of spending any time at sea fills me with dread, I hate the thought of being surrounded by nothing but water, even those cruise ships you see, the luxury liners, to me are floating prisons! I like my feet on terra firma. Is it worth earning all that money and not getting to spend much time with loved ones and to enjoy your home? There has to be a balance.

What is with people? some complain about not having money and some complain about not having their loved ones with them! but I ask myself would he be missed that much if he was to stay at home with not money?...I wish when I was young to have such an opportunity...I really wish him the best!

It is the career they chose therefore they know that missing the family and vice versa is part of the consequences of that job and earning that high. My brother is a seafarer as well and he earns big but most of the time he is not inside the country and he did not see his children grew up but he was able to send his kids to private schools.. it is something he learned to accept because he knows no other job but that.

My two cousins are both seafarers for they love to travel that's why they took up maritime course. But now that they have their respective families, being away with them most of the time is their only woe relating to their job. One can't have the best of both worlds and although they wanted to be with them all the time but finding a land-based job that would aptly provide their families' financial needs is not easy.

It doesn't feel good when your family misses you and worse is not even supportive. I worked overseas for a short period and my mother was against the move, even when I was overseas she was always telling me to return. In contrast my neighbours who were also expatriates had parents who too missed them but understood why they chose to work overseas and were supportive, I feel that makes a big difference. As a result I am no longer considering any overseas postings, regardless of how I myself feel about it. But for your cousin it sounds like he himself doesn't enjoy it and he seems to have earned enough anyway, so it may be time to consider a regular job that allows him to spend time with his family.

this is a good job. most people who work on ships do not pay for rent and food so their salaries are intact. they can save a lot and plan on an early retirement so they can stay with their families always in the future. his family misses him a lot and so does he. i'm sure that although he likes his job, he's not happy about being away from home. however, he chose this profession and his wife has to live with it. she must have known before marrying a sailor that her life would be like this. three months in a year is not bad considering that some others work abroad and get to see their families only after they finish their contracts. if we want to achieve something, we have to make sacrifices in order to reach our goal. your cousin and his wife want to save money for their children, living away from each other is the sacrifice they have to endure since it's part and parcel of his job. if and when they have reached the financial security that they envision, then he can retire and stay at home to be with his family.

I also does not like the work that makes me lots of money and does not give me enough freedom and I think most probably I might get home sick. I think it is good to spend enough time with friends and family.

No, I wouldn't like it either. But we have to choose whether we want the money and the negative that goes with it. Maybe he can retire early.

We always have the freedom of choice, anywhere. And the known adolescence, when selected profession, about families still do not think. Later what to change is difficult. I would rather chose the specialty with freer schedule to work. Would rather be with my family.

Hi, He is having a dilemma between a good life and how to achieve it as most overseas workers have. Work all the time away from home, building a good nice house but having lesser chance to go there is such a bad arrangement no one can scape. Staying nearer to home and earning a good income is elusive to most, it can only be had by going elsewhere leaving family and friends for the purpose. By the time enough money has been accumulated, one is too old to enjoy it. For me in such a situation, I'll try to find happiness in my work away from home. Going home is only an extension of that, a sort of an added bonus while on vacation. The enjoyment with family and friends could be the same as the enjoyment while at work, but the sense of accomplishment, the camaraderie, the different countries seen, cultures learned far outweigh what is experienced at home. If an overseas worker cannot find such things while abroad, then homesickness comes in and his career is doomed. Then there's no other way but to go home and linger there until old age missing all the opportunities of the outside world.

I am sure that if he could have a choice to earn similar salary in a job in where your cousin stays, he will take it so that he can be with his family. But then he may also like to travel on a boat to see the world. Sometimes we have to sacrifice some in order to earn more. Maybe after a few years when your cousin has earned enough then he would think of settling on a land job.

Sometimes one has to sacrafice to take care of their families.Sorry to hear he has to go so far. But its well worth it, in the long run.

In life we do a lot of bargaining. We just cannot have everything no matter how we work hard for it. there is always a trade off. It is a difficult choice to make. My husband does not want to work abroad though we know both that there are greater opportunities out there and there is a high pay off but he just cannot bargain the exchange of it which would mean that he's going away from me and the kids. I share the same idea that was why i did not accept the opportunity abroad when it came knocking at my doorsteps. I did not regret it. We both believe that when we raise a family, it is both our responsibilities to provide our children a good life including education but there are some consequences that we just cannot deal with.

Since he earns a lot of money he could have more savings. Works towards his goal of early retirement so that he could spend more time with the family. I used to have a job which took much of my time. I had no choice but to work as my family needed my income. I had very little time for the family but I managed to save for the future. That is why I opt for early retirement as I do not want to have those stressful life. Now I have a lot of time for my family and this is the reason I came to mylot for my spare time

It is true that the family will miss us a lot when we are on such travel jobs, but money is very important, even if it means missing the family. If you are always with the family, then you will not miss them, but you may become tired of them and their company will suffocate you. But when yu are on such overseas jobs, you will understand with your heart and soul the importance of family.

Well, although at the moment I have to admit that I really need a job like that where you are short time at home and especially you earn a lot of money, I have to admit though that I do not know if I could I with time to hold such a rhythm. I, for the most part I am a person with psychological problems. Of course, my doctor does not recommend a similar job! However, in general in my opinion, this work is the "good and the bad weather."

It would be lonely if we try so hard at work and make the life really bored.So i'll try to balance time with family and my work.Thus my life to be content in some way.Find some other skills and interests and work somehow.Maybe such job does not suit me as well.

Yeah I feel bad for him and his family. It is nice that he is able to provide for his family but sad that he has to be gone for such a long time. I hope that things will some how change for the better for them. That he will still be able to earn could income but come home more.

i believe that we should earn for happiness of our family but not to losing of chances to be with family.. if he has earn enough money then it is time that he would do something else to be with his family.. these are valuable time we should not waste that just for earning a lot money... i like happiness of family and that much money to have a happy life only... being with family values is more that any other thing... it is good to remember always why we work.. we work for our family happiness but if they are not happy then what is the benefit.?

It is true guy's. People get jobs and earn money with a wish to make their lives cheerful, comfortable and happy. But when they start earning after getting the job, they get so involved into that job that they forget their happiness and comfort. They forget the reason for which they started doing job.