What will be your answer if your 12years old daughter ask you this?

Well I do think that when your daughter starts asking like that you should be frank and should answer it. If I were the mother I would just say that she is still too young and should focus on studies first. Maybe she could entertain the suitor but with limitation of not going beyond being bf-gf. If the parent would avoid answering it then the daughter can construe it as either they are tolerating it or she may just go underground and pursue what she wants since her parents is not answering her queries. Just do not be harsh and be as normal as you can be in answering it so that your daughter would not be rattled and be afraid of asking it again. Trust should be establish at all times so that your daughter will not keep secrets from you. Keeping secrets can be equally dangerous if that happens since you will be blinded what is happening with her so you should be as friendly and open as you can with it.

Hi, I think it would be a good time to tell her about the real issue about boy-girl relationship. Ask her what it means to have a boyfriend, what she shall do with it, let her explain everything about it. It would be mighty interesting to know her thoughts about it and correcting her whenever possible to put her in the right track. It would not be good to start off on a wrong foot, so to speak. She is about to embark on a journey that could make or ruin her future if left unattended.

12 years old is such a tender age to be in love. Crushes are normal. But to let a girl at her age to be in love might not have a good effect on her most especially that she is vulnerable. I think, that instead of trying to avoid the subject, your friend should talk to her daughter and explain to her that falling in love is normal but at her age, it should wait. There are a lot of things that she needs to enjoy and explore. Love, at a proper time will be a lot beautiful for her.

Hi, It is very strange that your friend's daughter has boyfriend at the age of only 12. It must be very shocking to your friend. The daughter is also very bold and she didn't hesitate while asking this bold question. She doesn't feel anything wrong she is doing. But if I were in your friend's shoes I would not allow my daughter to keep contact with her boyfriend. I would have been told that it is not the right age. You have to concentrate on your career and not on anything else. I don't have any daughter. I have only son.

I understand that. I have been told a girl that age will be interested in boys. id say get teacher or counselor at school to help with this. They are also trained in this kind of stuff.

Refusing to talk about won't help. The kid will still ask questions about that. For me, the best way is to address the question and answer upfront and at te same time, explain to her the consequences, especially since she's too young. Chances are, she doesn't fully understand anything yet so better talk to her properly and answer and explain what needs to be answered.

For most girls at that age, having a boyfriend is very innocent. I would and did say yes to my girls on this. They, of course, had restrictions. They did not go out alone on dates or anything that an older teen would. The boy would come to our place for dinner and they'd listen to music, watch tv etc. They are not long term relationships nor are they meant to be. The thing is that by ignoring the daughter's questions, that mother is losing a perfect opportunity to have an important talk with her daughter. She is possibly building a wall between her and her daughter that she is not aware of. The daughter will sense that her mother is awkward to talk about such things and may not bother asking next time.

I have an 8 year old daughter and lately i know she know what a crush is..but quite honestly i do tell her it is ok to have a crush, it is ok to have a boyfriend if the right time comes. BUT i do stress out that she MUST tell me. For quite honestly it is ok for her to go through all that, given she must be honest. i would rather have her be honest with me and have a bf than have a bf and do it behind my back.. as for her, she could answer her daughter truthfully.. and not turn away from her.. if i was your friend i would say that she could at the right time and age.

This is very simple. I would say "Sweetheart you are way to young to have a boyfriend." "You need to concentrate on school and being a kid. Boys are not necessary at this time of your life." You have time for boys when you are alot older like seventeen or eighteen" that "Having a boyfriend at this age will just get you in trouble." I didn't have a boyfriend till I was nineteen close to twenty. I don't understand the kids of today wanting boyfriend so young. It's really digusting to me.

My answer would be no. And I would really sit down with her and have a heart to heart conversation about her feelings and at the same time her age and maturity. For me when a person starts to court they should be in a position to take on family responsibilities and have a marriage. So I would talk with my daughter about those things and help her to see that there is more involved in a relationship than just being in love and happy, and cheery. It's good for children to know where we stand on issues and why.

If the mother cannot answer the questions herself, she must either speak to a therapist and get advice or a family member who is close and can give good advice. Sons and daughters who are in the midst of a torrid relationship however may not want to hear it. These are important questions for teenagers. The choices they make now will decide the route they take. Please, mothers, don't take this lightly. Even Judge Mathis gives second chances. Speak to a knowledgeable person and make a decision that will benefit your child.

too young to get exposed my niece once asked me the same thing before when she was so young and many suitors since she's a very gorgeous sweet sweet girl, I just told "your too young to be in a relationship there are lot of things to enjoy that won't last that long and there's a lot of time for having such relationships. Even sometimes we feel that it is time it won't help us to grow more and there is a right time for that, after doing your obligation to finish your studies and earn your degree and for sure the best things in life will comes next. Everything will come hand in hand you just have to be patient to get the best for you" and it did worked

If I have a daughter on 12 years old, I will give a bit explanation about love for her. But I will limit our explanation based on her knowledge. She still too young to understand about love, but if we do not answer her question, she will looking for from other sources that maybe dangerous for her. I think, 12 years is enough to understand a bit of love.

say yes but only if she's on the right age. just explain that at her age she cant handle a relationship yet. tell also that she needs to focus more on studies than any other.

Twelve years old is too young for that kind of relationship, but good enough to discuss with sensitive subject like this. I prefer to answer my daughter that, she is too young to have a boyfriend- girlfriend relationship. I will try to explain to her the consequences- in a manner not to hurt her feelings, but to make her understand that she might consider enjoying her child life instead of getting into any serious relationship. It won't be an easy task- and I am sure it will take time to make my daughter understand my point.

Hi friend, i wonder why your friend changed the topic? we must give our answer straight forward to such kind of questions. As her daughter is asking question to her, which means she is asking permission to her mum to have a BF. Your friend must explain the pros and cons in having a boy friend and she is not in the proper age to have a boy friend. It will help her daughter to know about her mother's attitude. If my son ask this question to me, i will give my straight answer to him

Well, I think she was too young to be in love and I guess if I were in her mother's shoe, I would explain to her little by little that she is not yet at the proper age to be in love and it was only for ladies and adults. I'll tell her in the most detailed way that love is so complicated and she needs to learn more about love so that she will not be hurt because love sometimes is so painful.

She should not have diverted the attention of her daughter instead should have explained her atleast in a simple way. Refusing to talk on that topic is not an option this will create more curiosity in her mind. She can take any step to know these things so its better to explain it

very simple i will explain to the child that this is not the age to indulge in such activities. and will tell the child that he is not physically or mentally mature to indulge in such act and that he can love any one after he becomes old. after all the child might be asking due to lack of awareness about what love actually means. if we explain to the child then he will surely understand.