I'm newly married and don't want to have KIDS..

I think you should not worry. Just keep saving money. Sometimes kids do not come that easily, so you might not have them right away. Anyway, you do not need to worry if your wife becomes pregnant accidentally because by a year you will have enough save up.

If you're not yet ready to have kids, then don't put pressure on yourself. Just enjoy your married life first and save so that when times comes that you and your wife are ready, at least financially, you don't have to worry. Personally, I prefer enjoying the married life first before having kids. Having kids is different, not that it will ruin a relationship. But it's a pretty big responsibility so if you're not yet ready to handle that, then enjoy your married life with your wife first :)

I think that what you are planning is great. Much better to prepare for the future of the kids plus you get to spend more time together longer prior to getting busy in taking care of the children. Just go to your OB and ask for the best way that you can be able to hold your pregnancy so that you may be able to do the things that you needed to be done in a year. I am sure that there is one option that would be convenient for you.

Talk to your husband. You must have a common goal on when are you going to have a child. That's why it is called family planning because you and your husband is talking about your family's future.

You are free to choose when to have a kid. Who says it's mandatory to have a kid on the first year? Besides, you are being practical, there's nothing wrong with that. If people think you are thinking too much, screw them. You are looking at your future and preparing for it in your own way. There is nothing wrong with that.

I think you're being smart about the situation. You don't want to struggle in life and with supporting your child. You want to have a stable life for your future children and provide all their needs and then some.

Of course it's good to be able to afford kids before you have them but sometimes things happen and you have them earlier. In that case you will make things work. Good luck and happy marriage!

Hi there Sweetychandu7! I can perfectly understand why you would like to settle first before having kids. During that time, while preparing yourself financially, you can also enjoy time with your wife for the meantime and you can also prepare yourself for the responsibility not only financially but also in other aspects like spiritually, physically and emotionally. All I can say about parenting is that it is very demanding yet very fulfilling. This will teach you how to give unconditional love.

the best thing to do is to have kids when they two of you feel like you are ready. it's best to be as financially stable as you possibly can.

this sounds a good plan. one year after the marriage before having the first child is a feasible plan. at least you are preparing financially and psychologically yourself and your wife for future conditions. the time will also allow to get to know more of each other and adjust to the temperaments and individual and cultural differences, if any.

I think is a good idea to establish your self and wife before having children in the mean time enjoy your marry life!

It's better to be ready financially for kids as they do cost quite a bit of money! There's always the unexpected to prepare for, too. Many new parents are astonished at how quickly toddlers outgrow shoes and clothing, for instance. Or a stroller breaks, and a new one is needed. Babies get sick and have to see a doctor and need medicine...the list is endless. While you are waiting and saving money, do some research on the actual costs of a baby during it's first year of life. Once you have that kind of money saved, then you can decide when you are emotionally ready for parenthood.

if you are that decisive not to have a child, then go. your plan is good and that having a child is expensive, as they say and what i observed. but, if in the long run - your wife will conceive a baby in her tummy, you should not be worried for i am sure, it is the best gift given and planned to both of you by God. sometimes our plans will not happen according to what we want to happen. just have faith and everything will be in order. enjoy :)

I see absolutely nothing wrong with your plans. In fact, I applaud them. I am getting married next year and I dont plan on having children until at least one year later. I am in my early 30s and I have heard people tell me that I should hurry up, especially if I want to have more than one child. Not only is this foolish thinking but it is also selfish. None of these people pressuring me will be there to help me financially nor with handling the responsibilities that come with having children. There is no rush and I think far too many people treat having children like they are going out to buy a new pet. Becoming a parent is serious business and should be thought out carefully. Save money, enjoy being newlyweds and get as much sleep as possible...because you won't be able to once the babies get here.

There are many newly-married couples who plan to have their kids in a couple of years, when they think that they are ready to have their kids. I think that it is a good idea when you are settled in many aspects, especially financially and housing settled. This way a better and easier life for the coming baby is created for welcoming their coming to the earth. What do you think?

It is good to plan ahead for your children in the future. I think it is very reasonable if you guys want to work hard on making some money for a year even 2-3 years, it's still not bad in my opinion. It would give you guys a chance to create a better environment or whatever when the baby is born. Because it is EXPENSIVE to raise a child especially once they start going to school and stuff.

I believe when in deciding to have a baby you are correct in waiting a year or maybe even two, depending on your ages. I think if you wait it gives you time to save money but also for you and your wife to have time alone with each other. To enjoy yourselves before the babies start coming. You want to have fun for a year or two doing the things you both love to do together. Once the babies start coming you will have little time for each other, trust me I know. Good Luck!

Your wise planning is appreciable. Enjoy the honeymoon period fully and no matter if it prolongs to have the baby and make yourself wealthy as far as possible by this time. Have a good time always.

seems if you are too hurry in your life.. it is reasonable to give sometime for having a kid... right now it is good time to enjoy the life with your wife.. once that you will get kid then you and her will not be able to be this free. so it is good to give it time and enjoy and make good plans for your life.

Have kids when you're both ready may it be physically, mentally, financially or emotionally. Just talk it out with your wife.