Oh I really goofed.

I had to laugh Hatley because there is a funny side to your story but I am not laughing at you or the situation. Things like that happen and people should understand so or there is something wrong with them. If it was me, I think I would have tried to replace the card but now that it is done all you can do is explain exactly what you wrote here. The main thing is don't you let this bother you. I know just from reading many of your things here your heart is in the right place and you did not mean anything evil. You know it was George that said, "you don't have to worry about dieing when you are over a hundred because few people die over a hundred". He had a wonderful sense of humour and outlook on life. We should honour that about him and think of poor Pearl not poor anymore but in a joyful place. Smile Hately and don't worry about embarrassment. I think if something is said to you, you can respond but otherwise just let it go.

Please don't feel embarrassed as it was not your mistake. Those employed by this Home should should say when people die. How were you to know if no one told you? They should be embarrassed - not you. Don't bother to say or do anything.

If they don't tell you, how would you know? Sounds like its THEIR problem!

Oh Hatley, that's so wrong that you're not told of any deaths at Gold Crest. If no-one said then it's not really your fault that you thought the card was a Get Well Soon card. Hugs to you my friend...and don't feel too embarrassed about it.

It was an honest mistake. If they didn't tell you then how were you to know. I would just leave it as it is. I am sure everyone will understand.

Dont feel bad, things like that happen. They should have told everyone before they passed the card around.

Hatley, your were not stupid, the director should have said what the card was for. I am sure if you explain to pearl that you were not properly informed,she would understand..

I would give a little bit so you aren't so upset. If you feel going to Yara I would just tell her the truth. Can you re-sign it? I would feel better about it if I tell Yara my mistake but that is up to you. Pearl was an oldster wasn't she? I hope I live that long.

Hi Hatley, I would contact the activity director about this and let her know that she did not say it was a sympathy card. It is possible that maybe she could remove the comment and you could jot down another one. If not, you could send your own sympathy card. That is such a shame that they don't tell everyone that someone passed away. What do they think that you won't notice when the person is no longer around.

If they use the right tippex, you can write over it, so there should be no difficulty putting it right. Tell them that if they don't even try to put it right you'll have to act consistently with the role they've forced on you and call a faith healer to try to bring her back.

its really bad they wont tell you who has passed away so such misunderstandings as you had can occur. I would think that in Senior Citizens Homes they would post important news like this on sort of a board so everyone can read or put it in a weekly bulletin for the residents. Shame on them for not doing that.

Oh my that is a hard one. I haven't done this sort of thing yet, but I am sure it will come in time.

omg Hatley, I don't know what to say to you for that is certainly a bid boo boo..can you get the card and just tastefully totally cross out that entire remark and just sign your name...It would be better if you had a marker and make an long thick cross out... I just can not imagine what else you could do...I feel bad for you...

Oh Hatley I feel so bad for you I hate when things like that happen, I would ask for the card back (if you can) and try and correct it that was stupid of the activity director to of not explained it to you. Just tell her you thought it was a get well card maybe she will understand.

I think it's a great shame that they don't inform you that she had passed away, and you are not expected to be a mind reader! It was an easy mistake to make my friend, don't beat yourself about it, these things happen to the best of us. That was a grand old age though 101! In the UK if you reach 100 you get a telegram from the Queen!

Oh my gosh!! That is terrible! I would have been so embarrassed as well. Well maybe even more than embarrassed. I would have stopped them and told them right away that I needed to change it. I am very emotional though, so for me I would have had a very difficult time in letting it go, then I would have created a big scenario in my mind on how things went when they read the card. The comfort in this is that, usually I over-exaggerate by a large margin.

it seems to me that they might have told you what the card was for....

oh dear. its not your fault. if they didnt tell anyone then im sure a lot of others did the same. maybe in your perception you noticed another one saying something similar . sometimes our minds see something that doesnt register fully. so likely there were others on the card like that. its terrible that they dont inform of someones passing to others. they should have a bulletin board or something to put up in loving memory signs you should suggest it.

Oh, sorry to hear about this my dear Don't feel bad, we all commit little mistakes. I can't remember the last time I did the same thing. Take care always mam

don't be so sad or feel embarrassed. cause you know? all of the people always do some mistake and we can't avoid it. so just take easy.