Many women live together with their men before marriage - recent study

Over the years, this has grown a lot in different countries. Testing the waters, perhaps. Coz some people just don't seem to be that comfortable of getting into that marriage level thinking that when they decide to get out of the relationship, it might not be as easy.

I totally agree with that report. I don't need any proof, or statistic report to make it verified. I knew many modern young people are doing the same. First, usually they move in together, and get to know each other, then they might decide whether or not spend the rest of life with each other. That is a smart way to do so, better than rush into marriage, and then later regret on the whole married thing, because they both can't be compatible. So, it is our way of testing the water before dive into it.

People actually get married before living with eachother? I don't think I know anybody who got married first, then moved in together... that really sounds crazy to me! What if you two get along great when you're out and about, but when you live together each of you have your own rules, doesn't that lead to more problems? I'm not married, but talking with my girlfriend, living together is far above getting married to eachother. I can't imagine doing that... it sounds kinda crazy, if you ask me... Maybe it's just because I'm a Canadian :)

hello ravi, I don't consider this thing as a "trend" sir. Maybe this is not common in our places, most especially here in Asian countries. But live-in, living together before marriage is not a trend, rather another fact of life. Some countries opt to live together before marriage to know each other. I do not agree with living together before marriage- but in my opinion there is nothing wrong with it. Those who choose to live-in before marriage thinks more practical than those who get married and later resort to divorce. We know very well that even the most conservative country/people indulge in an elicit affair. So, this living together/live in thing is not a big issue if we only open our mind about realities of life.

Ravi bhai Such things are becoming common in big cities in India, in my city there are some such couples too, they are not liked by many.

Actually,My boyfriend and I are living together now,which is not a test like they say. We share the room and study in Australia, and it is sort of cheap.If I can choose,I prefer not to live together before getting marry. Love need distance,but to some extent,I think it is not too bad. Marriage makes two different people live together, and share their love to both side of family and raise children.The question is they are different, they do have lots of conflicts exist,which may cause a series of problems,such as argument.How to make it campatible for the rest of life.It takes time to adapt and moving together maybe a good way to solve this problem and understand each other. You may not accept their behaviours,but the true is everything has two sides.If women can think rationally,then the situation may be changed.

It is quite popular in cosmopolitan cities of India like Mumbai and Delhi, where most of the people are not known to each other. Girls and boys come from other places either for their job or study. They do not get house to stay because most of housing societies do not permit single or bachelors to enter in their society. To overcome this problem they make suitable pair even before marriage and stay happily.

ŸThat kind of trend used all over the world especially those modern countries like America/Europe. We are living in a far away Island of the Globe but still we reached by the modernization of riches countries. maybe it is because some of our countrymen lived there and adapt the trend and come to home for some are see it as new trend and set themselves also free to do modern culture. Only just for a try. Since we are in globalization trend mix culture comes way. But I believe, if you really love your country you must do your very own way. Well, everybody are free for opinions.:) Happy days! :)

That's true and probably also true about the pregnancy. They have more opportunity for couple time because the relatives aren't there to interrupt which is probably the biggest reason for them to move in together. Some people say its to "test" how well they can get along residing in the same house. Is it just me or does it bother anyone else? I believe I'd have to kick my partner to the curb if they asked me to move in for "testing". They shouldn't be asking for marriage if they aren't sure about me.

This system is quite common in America,stats you provided are correct.In India its still limited to metro cities.My personal view is that I like this system of live in relationships.Actually when you get into a relationship,you try to present yourself in best possible manner to your partner but slowly your true side comes up which can be both negative or positive for your partner.If its negative then compatibility issues occur and it results into divorce.In live in relationships a couple get to know each other and if they realize that they can spend their lives together then they marry.This is one of the factors though,other than this many people dont believe in institution of marriage so they live together without marriage.About India, well here people have not yet accepted the system of love marriage fully,many people dont consider having bride or groom outside their caste.So i think its highly probable that live in system will remain as rare as it is now in future too.Best wishes.

Well, even in the country where I live (Italy), couples tend to live together for several years and, as you said in your discussion, it sometimes happens that they have children before marriage. Probably the cause of this growing phenomenon is that unfortunately the future is something too uncertain. The lack of work, the job insecurity, the money is never enough, and so on. I personally am also single and unemployed and I live in Italy, where the crisis has been felt very deeply. At the moment I am maintained from my dear parents, but what will be my future?

Hi, You are right. This trend is going on in western countries. I don't like the trend of live in relationship before marriage. Women become pregnant and then they get separated from their partner. Their kid has to face difficulties with single parent. In India such types of relationships very rare and many couples are spending happy marriage life.

I am from the Philippines and I know a lot of women who practice living in with their partners prior to getting married. I think it is somehow helpful since you get to experience living together first, see if you can really stand being with that someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year! It is also advantageous since we dont have divorce here in our country, so if you can no longer stand your partner, you can just simply walk away without the bond of marriage.

marriage is not an easy thing it should be done when both in the relationship are ready in terms of financial,spiritual,physical and emotional.. so i guess they choose to live together than being married simply because they are not both ready.. i personally living in with my boyfriend and we already have a son and it doesn't bother me because my boyfriend and i both know that this is not the right time for us to get married because we still have an issues regarding our financial matters.. i know there will come a time for it..

Dear Ravi, I think those statistics are more or less correct. I think there are fundamental cultural differences between customs in India and Western countries. Unless I am mistaken or things have changed in India most marriages are still arranged between the two sets of parents and then the bride moves into the house of her hunsbands's parents. There is also the dowry and the very expensive jewellry that puts a strain on the parents of the bride. Correct me if my information is not correct. In the West people mostly marry for romantic feelings called love. The young couple finds each other, at school, at work, at university,at clubs, at sports. They date and these days they then find a place i.e. an apartment that they rent together if they think they will be happy together. Each party, that is both the man and the woman are on the lease and each party is responsible to pay the rent. If the arrangement works out well they might decide to get married, if not they split up, sometimes even after a child or children are born. At least this is cheaper than getting married and then getting a divorce after a time. Sadly the divorce rate is very high. Part of the reason is that most people believe that both men and women should be able to be independent, have a skill, be able to earn a living by themselves. Since most women strive to be able to do this and keep on working after marriage, they split up if things do not work out. Women have the economic means i.e. their own money, bank account credit card etc. to be able to leave an unhappy situation and make a new life for themselves. Maybe couples are not trying hard enough to work out their differences. The positive side of this is that no woman has to stay in an abusive situation.

Hi ravisivan: I think that the usual roles on how relationships should be and take place have changed a lot in western societies. Now it's more common to decide to start living before you get married because relationships are more based on a mutual contentment rather than a ceremony. At the same time, many couples get divorced for the most idiotic excuses. But it's up to you to decide how much you want to give to your relationship to have a healthy relationship with your partner. And that's more important than a wedding ring or a ceremony. ALVARO

It really depends on the culture of the country. Lets just say in America, they are open to that idea and its not a big deal for them since that teenager in America when they reach 18 years old can decide on their own already. Well, there is an advantage for that, you won't be committed to the person forever if you started to live with your partner before your marriage, this will give you time to know the real attitude of the person you'll gonna be spending the rest of your life. If things won't work, then you have the option to decided not to continue with the marriage if both of you agreed that things will not work out for both of you.

That is there nature. In india We are forgetting our traditional values and wants to implement the foreign culture like sofware industry in inda. If this spreads like the company no one wish to marry. They will live with their desired peoples and act whatsoever you told. Man desire to achieve to all in short span of time leads to all these things happen suddenly.

since we're on a new era it is already accepted in the society . and I think there're no problems with that . I guess couples needs to test their compatibility by living together even though they're not married yet . I think its more clever than to get married and soon realize that you're not compatible to each other and just decide to divorce . it will just affect your family if you have children.

Although living together first has become common in America partly because of financial convenience, it has also ended in many divorces more so than not. Not sure why it has been a problem, but many couples I have noticed have admitted that they were too comfortable to move forward into marriage as if there was nothing left to do once they got married. Some actually had regrets of moving in before marriage. It's not really a trend, though it is common.