"It's about who is older, not who is right." - Is that so?
By hiamAJ
@hiamAJ (25)
April 12, 2013 12:23am CST
Of all things, I hate raising my voice. And I don't think that anyone should ever raise their voice just because they have something to say -- whether it's to defend themselves or whatever that may be. So, this kind of scenario happened to me when I was a bit younger. I realized that they are fighting for or defending something that's not even the right mentality on how to defend it. It's like when it's clear that you've made your point, they would say "It's about who's older, not who is right."
I think I get the point that RESPECT should be there. And I don't think that telling them what do you think went wrong is bad especially when you're not raising your voice or whatsoever. I think it's healthy to speak what's on your mind as long as you do not violate anything that disrespects them. I mean, if we won't be given freedom of speech then one day we might just explode because we kept it in our hearts for as long as we can. Isn't that how it's supposed to be?
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@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
13 Apr 13
those who say "it's about who is older, not who is right" says this because they know that they are wrong but wouldn't admit it so they take refuge in this argument.
when my son was still a minor, we seldom raised voices whenever we had a disagreement. i believe that every misunderstanding can be settled faster if everyone keeps their cool. whenever i found fault in what he did, i would reprimand him in a stern voice and i would also listen to his reasons for doing it. i have always made it clear to him that he could tell me anything that he wants, even disagree with me, as long as he doesn't raise his voice and curse.
i always tried to put myself in his shoes for i was aware that the generation gap between elders and children can cause damage to a relationship if one is not willing to listen to the other.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 15
it should be about who is right no matter what age eitter one is. older p eople sho uld be resp ected but if they are wrong on something they should be graced ul and admit that they were w
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@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
For me, age is just a number. There are young people who are gifted with the wisdom of so many things that even older people could not fathom. Just because you're older doesn't necessarily turn you into someone wiser. Respect is not given automatically at all times. There are instances when you should earn it, by your attitude towards people. However, I agree with you when you say that raising your voice isn't good at all. Surely, you can make a point by speaking firmly. The bottom line is that people get what they give. Respect, and you'll be respected, too.
@hiamAJ (25)
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13 Apr 13
Exactly! Also, it's nice of you to point out what other people miss out when it comes to respect. I know that we should respect people who is older than us but we should really keep in mind the fact that respect is something that we somehow gain in the process. Happy day!
@sonusd (1547)
• India
13 Apr 13
If you want to be diplomatic then keep silence although older person are saying wrong but I think in some cases there should not be any age bar to speak about the right things, that may look like disrespect to older person but truth is truth and every body has to accept that now or later. So I dont mind to speak right things infront of my older person.
@kixsh101 (2105)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Being who is right doesn't matter how old the individual is. The important thing is respect. Sharing a point or explaning something needs to be delivered in a nicer way. Emotions must be controlled in avoidance of having a conflict. Arguing doesn't do any good at all.
Speaking with respect will give you respect in return.
@jonnagirl (322)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Everyone has the right to his opinion. I think its not a sign of disrespect if you will ought to reason out and voicing out your opinion to someone who is older than you. Maybe when someday we can have family of our own , it is better if we let our children talk and express themselves. And as parents, we must listen to them and guide them with the advises we can give for them to be a better person with dignity and respect to everybody.
@MarkAnthony20 (73)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I always did raising my voice when I am doing a reason to anyone. Your discussion makes me realize about my wrong attitude. There's nothing wrong to argue but, we have to respect anyone especially if the one we argue is older than us. You made a wonderful discussion that anyone to correct this kind of attitude. Thank you and God bless!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Apr 13
You say it's about respect.. but respect also means you have to respect people who are younger as you are, who have the right as well to think, to speak. There are plenty of young people, even teenagers who have way more life experiences as many 80 year old people have! It's not Always about age but it can also be about who is right. A teacher is not Always right... btw there is no teacher without a student.. there is no king without people. You hate it if people do raise their voice but there are also people who hate if if there are stubborn people who think because of their age or .... they do not need to listen to others. They Always are in their right. Everybody has the right to speak, also women and children. Sometimes you need to ask for attention if people refuse to listen or if you need to fight for your rights. Although to my opinion it's wise too to listen to other people.
@anujkumarkumar1 (721)
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13 Apr 13
Yes I am totally agree with You We Should always respect our elders becasue it hurts them when they try to say something and we ignore them or do not heard what they are saying, We always respect them and first we should heard their opinion. But if they are wrong then we can tell them that this is not right.
We want respect from everybody, it does not matter he/she is younger or elder, so we should give respect to everybody and should heard to our youngers also...
