Marriage or Live in ? What's better?

India
April 12, 2013 12:27am CST
Its been a discussion for a while that marriages suffocate your love for each other.It does not last forever. You get stuck to 1 person for your life.You should not be trapped forever.But what about the insecurities of live in?What if your partner gets over you and says get out some day? What's the security in live in? What would you prefer?
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@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
In both cases, the couple lives together. I do not understand how marriage can suffocate your love. If your love is true and genuine, then it can never be suffocated. If your love is not genuine, then it can be suffocated whether you are married or are in a live-in relationship. Whatever the case, the main question to be asked is this: Do I really lov emy partner?
• India
12 Apr 13
absolutely! i totally love your answer!!
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
12 Apr 13
I think for me, i would still prefer a marrige. I do know what you mean when you say marriage suffocate your love for each other. this is becuase when people get married, they become complacent and then they take each toher for granted. they think that since they are already married, they can shift their focus to something else and this is very detrimental for a relationship. However, i think i'm still quite traditional. I think i would still like to get married to the man i love and set up a family wtih him. HOw about you?
@GreenMoo (11833)
12 Apr 13
I don't believe there is more security in either set up, at least where I come from. The ties of financial commitments are more difficult to break than those of a marriage to be honest. That isn't to say that marriage is not a good thing. I still think it makes a statement to the world which a live in relationship doesn't.
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
12 Apr 13
It depends on the couple.If two people don't believe in institution of marriage and they trust each other enough that neither of them will break the commitment then its nothing wrong to live in.As far as i know live in relationship has security by law in many countries.Some people have lot of faith and belief in institution of marriage.Both arrangements are good ,i would prefer marriage though.Best wishes.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Living together or getting married -- it all depends on the couple and what they think works well for them. But for me, it's much better to get married before anything else. Not just because of security, whatever that is, but also there are a lot of legal implications that go about it. After all, you wouldn't want to marry someone you're not sure of right?
@gljcleeve (147)
12 Apr 13
Hi there, I'm not sure what life's like in your area to be calling it a trend, but over here in the west, it's been happening for many, many decades. It's hard to say how long it's been going on or how often it happens, because it's not really the first thing you ask if you encounter people who live together but I'm sure that it has risen in popularity since the "permissive revolution" of the 1960's. And as to the merits of "living in sin" as opposed to getting married, it all depends on the sort of a relationship you have and the kind of people you are. I've heard of many who have lived happily together for years and then decide to marry and are separated within a couple of years. As to the security, is there any security in marriage these days either? I personaly am on my second marriage and we are approaching our silver anniversay, so I've had the good and the not so good ends of marriage, but I've never tried simply living with someone. As humans, we are so diverse a people that there are no easy formulas to life, but that's what makes us so interesting.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
I prefer marriage. With living together, I would get the feeling that he is trying me out and if I do not measure up - i.e. not smile at the wrong time, not keep the place spotless, not perform good in bed, I would be kicked out. With marriage, you love each other and you forgive each other, their little faults.
@Archie0 (5652)
12 Apr 13
I have never experienced or seen much of live in relationship in my country. I too will go with marriage. It is not about marrying a wrong man and how would we really know that in a live in our partner won't break trust. And we can never be just going on trying new men/women every time. After all we have to adjust somewhere in life. Marriage is just not tying knots and living in disguise. But also it teaches one how to live your life. Live in is a method that has taken up in recent times, but marriage has been there since mankind. So how it would be a wrong thing?