I am secondhand smoking...
By jayceeg1987
@jayceeg1987 (293)
Philippines
April 12, 2013 8:29am CST
5 years ago, I decided to stop smoking. But my challenge now is when I go out with friends at work, I tend to inhale all the smoke every time we have a chat or spend time during breaks outside our workplace. I love to go and chat with them because we laugh and have fun altogether while chatting. Funny but what I do is I hold my breath to avoid the smoke. Do you any better suggestions?
11 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
13 Apr 13
Hi friend, sad to hear that you are smoking passively. This kind of passive smoking will give more health issues compared with active smoking. Better to avoid your friends while they are smoking and have fun with them after their smoking activities. As you mentioned you stopped your smoking activity, really it is a good thing. Keep it up
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Vidhap said it very correctly ! You're at risk more than the smokers themselves.. It means then your more pron to Lung cancer than them. So come to think of it , what do you prefer having fun talking with friends or preventing yourself from cancer. You better set a good timing in having fun with them .
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
That's true. I hope to come up with a plan where we can have fun while they aren't smoking. Thanks for a very nice advise.
@imaging_1 (64)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 13
I can not but admire your grim courage! Because my dad smokes a lot, and he used to quit smoking twice before, but both failed. Everytime I ask him why failed, he says to me:"Oh, my friends and my co-workers are all smokers, you know,and the most importance is that they always invite me to smoke with them, it's strange if I don't smoke, and BALA~BALA~" and at present my dad is still smoking I would never expect him to quit smoking again!
And to you , my suggestion is to reduce your chat with your smoker friends, if possible you can persuade them to quit smoking, but it's would be very diffcult. You can also make new friends who don't smoke. Otherwise, you can wear a mask when chatting with your smoker friends! LOL~~~
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
sounds like a good plan.. i hate to avoid them because they are really good friends to me.. the only thing i jave against them is their smoking but everything else is good. maybe in time we can come up with an agreement that will benefit both of us in such a away that they do not jave to give up what they crave to do..
@marguicha (222692)
• Chile
13 Apr 13
I don`t know how many times do you go out with your friends. If it`s every day, they you might consider in talking to them anbd asking them to not smoke for the first half of the breaks so that you can be with them and then you can go away as they start to smoke. I`m sure you can reach an agreement if they like you.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
sounds like a good plan. thanks! if they understand me.. as a feiend wwe should agree and respect each others health.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
good for you, to give up on smoking. too many people find it hard to quit and stop so congratulations to you. inhaling second hand smoke is more dangerous to the person than the one who does the smoking,. i think if your friends or are around people who constantly smoke or don't quit there is no escaping the smoke. well, just try not to inhale too much smoke, that is hard to avoid especially being around smoker friends, u cannot also control and stop them from their vice. i think for now, that is the only thing and choice you have. hold your breath.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
that is right. that's the plan i came up with and is a little hard to do.. imagine holding your breath everytime they blow the smoke.. i don't find it comfortable but it is somehow working.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 13
It is better to reduce your meeting up with them if you really care for your health (if you cannot stopped them from smoking) . The person who inhale the smoke beside smokers could be more worst then the smoker
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
i agree. i hope i come up with a better plan to avoid their invitation and plesantly say no..
@sshdage (30)
• Beijing, China
13 Apr 13
Hi,jayceeg1987! I am suffering from the same situation.Usually i raise my advice directly.My father smokes a lot and never seems to give it up.But every time i found him burning and inhaling i still try my best to stop him because i love him.I think it goes for your friends.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
i have given them advise several times and majority of them still refuse and find it boring not to smoke. but other than that i still want them as friends.. they are kind and approachable. i wish your father will stop smoking soon for your sake as well.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
12 Apr 13
It's too bad that you quit smoking and none of your friends did. I know from experience with family members that second hand smoke is as bad as if you smoked yourself. I've lost family who never smoked a day in their lives to Lung Cancer and it's not fair. You might think about making new friends or just ask them not to smoke when your around. That's the least they could do for you.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Thanks.. that's true, second hand smoke is a risky a the main smokers'. It is just that they have been close friends and I find it awkward to always ask them to stop or avoid smoking when I am around so what I do is just hold my breath every time they blow it. :-)
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 13
When I worked in an office at 18 to 20 years old some colleagues smoked whilst at their desks. This was annoying and it affected my friend more than me. I hung around with non smoking friends at lunch time. On the Saturday nights I liked to go to pubs and nightclubs. People smoked at those unfortunately.
These days there is thankfully a smoking ban in all public places in my home country. Therefore I don't go near people that are smoking all that much. I hope that you find some new friends that don't smoke. You were very sensible to give up smoking five years ago. You don't want the danger of second hand smoking or passive smoking. Good luck.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
If your friends love smoking and you also love to be with them, then you need inhale those smokes. You cannot easily ask them to stop because first of all, it is their hobby and maybe obsession. The only thing to avoid those is to stop hanging out with them which I know you wont do.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Don't they impose a No Smoking policy in your office?
In the mall that our company manages, we have that. That's because the province has a No Smoking policy being imposed. In fact, we have a permit for a smoking area, design of which was subjected to their approval.
That way, the non-smokers avoids getting the smoke from the smokers.
@jayceeg1987 (293)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Hi thanks! No. Not in ours.. once outside the office, you can smoke anywhere.
@richa09pandey (115)
• India
13 Apr 13
you should make them understand that this will effect their health. i think they will not listen to it so you should tell them that you feel uncomfortable. moreovr whenever they smoke you act as if you are coughing. . i am sure it will work.