Advice to grown children

I do agree with you that majority of the growing children are like that. They always think that they are grown ups and able to handle things by themselves. Whenever, we give advises they will think that we treating them like a small child. So, I learn to be their friends and at the same time keeping watch over them . Especially when they are really needed me, I will come in as a parent and sometimes as a friend to them. So, they feel more comfortable and have more listening ears

I agree with you on that. I was so sheltered when I was young and since I am the eldest, my parents were a lot stricter to me than my siblings. So I grew up not enjoying a typical teenage life. Now that I have my own kids, I do tell them things that they should avoid doing, but I also let them to decide things on their own.

That's so true. I have made the mistake of trying to give advice. It's hard to see your kids, no matter how old they are, make wrong choices and not say anything, but speaking up doesn't seem to change their minds. On rare occasion, they will ask what I think, then I tell them, but I don't push it.

That kind of what mum does, she won't poke her nose into my business unless expressively asked and I know my mum never tries to interfere in my life, she is always there for me and I can turn to her when I need to, just the thought of knowing that she is there for me is a great comfort. I guess for some parents it's very difficult to advice their children when they know what they are doing is wrong or they can see them heading for a big fall. It's the only way they can learn.

Hi savypat, I agree, that is the way to go and it's the way I've always handled things with my three grown sons. We should never give advice unless it is asked for. Blessings.

Since I have become a parent, I realize parenting is a lot more difficult than I thought. Consistentcy is very important as I learned from my husband, the children won't listen rto you if you don't keep things consistent, if you tell them to do something, they gotta listen to progress it. I am still trying to work hard on it.

That is absolutly true, savypat. I remember the last time I gave my youngest daughter and advise she hadn`t asked for and she looked at me in a nasty way and reminded me that she was 44 years old. She asked me to excuse later on for the way of speaking to me and I replied that she was right and I was wrong. I always try, but sometimes it`s difficult not to be nosy with the people you most love.