Is that okay to "MOCK" your child by saying she's UGLY?

thanks jadoixa, you're right this kind of words really affect child's self esteem and confidence. They might also feel insecurity from other kids who raised in a positive or good way. They may also feel self pity because their own family treat her/him not in a proper way. We should really more careful for what we are going to say to our kids even though sometimes they're so messy and stubborn. Yes the earlier the better right?,even if the effects is not showy instantly but sooner or later we may notice that it turn into a big problem which is more difficult to resolve.

yes, i have been there myself..i was bullied and told that i was ugly as a child and as i grow up i come to believe the negative words i heard a lot.,sometimes i can hear negative from my own mother and siblings too..as time goes by i developed inferiority complex and once your mind is conditioned into this kind of mentality it becomes embedded there and when you're older it becomes hard to break it because your mind has been programmed with all these negativity.

oh sorry for that jadoixa.I experience that too but I almost forgot what really happen and how it's start, I've been grown up overweight and that is one of the reason- of course when you are fat your physical appearance is affected too. Sometimes my siblings told me that we are not lookalike and I have a different look unto them, but I just ignored it because I look like my mom- i think But still I find myself that has a low confidence and constantly have self pity, additionally I'm always insecure to others- I really don't understand why. And now I already have my son I don't want him to experience those kind of treat. And as of now I doing great too,actually it's because of God:) when I knew God thoroughly and became a christian everythings became different I always feel lucky, happy, and God's protected my heart from those negative words I hear from others until now. Because I always know that God loves me so much and God never look at me the way others do,and that is important to. My past now is just a past and I already forgive those who hurt me. I hope you will also overcome this struggles of life:) happy day!

Hi trinity, actually I don't know either, simply just for fun? I have no idea where she gets that. Maybe its not her intention to do hurt her child.

If it is just for fun then as long as the child is aware that it is a joke then it's okay. But seriously mocking the child by calling she/he is stupid or ugly then it is a big no.

yes I agree but my niece is just 2 years old and 9 nine, I doubt she know that it's just a joke. by the way thanks:)

Thanks ctryhnny, I agree with that. As I observe my niece, I found that she is really active- I mean when you saw her it seems theres nothing wrong. She is also a very sweet girl, funny and very talkative. So maybe they think there's nothing wrong the way she treat her child.

Yeah your right jenny, I suddenly remembered what my husband always say to me about being a parents, he always remind me that our child is like our mirror- what they see to us is what they also doing to others, most like it's true because we are their first teacher, and lots of people don't get realize that-it's not a subject that teaching in school but that is molding their attitude, behaviour, and how to deal with other people. Actually I want to warn my sister about it but because I am the youngest they will just ignore me or get mad to me by correcting their wrongs even though it's obviously not good for our child, it make me annoy too when he also said those nonsense words in my son.

My sister in law would sometime call her kids names. And sometimes, I do tell her to stop coz she is giving out a wrong signal to her kids.

I really don't know if they will listen to me once open those kinds of topic to her. But for the sake of my niece I need to do tell my sister that saying negative words in our child would not helpful for them. Good to hear that you handle these kind of matter to your sister in law. :)

Hi imaging, very well said:) you're totally right. Its better to deal with the children in a positive way than insulting them or using nonsense words which lead them in misserable life by thinking they are not good enough or worthy.

Hi lizziegee, I also love playing around with my son, and surely I will not treat my son in a bad way. I also notice that some of parents did the same thing because they think that their child is too young to understand it

thanks youless, I agree with you children really think what the elder say is true,especially if they will hear that words from their parents. But sometimes the truth is- lots of parents have no idea how they treat their child in a right way.

yeah I really found it unhappy words or unhelpful words for her daughter, or to any other kids. What I do to my son is reverse to what she's doing, I think that it is far better now as early as my son is to invest- invest lot's of care, affection, understanding,confidence and most of all Love. Because I believe that "What you sow is what you reap". Same in our child, even though there are lots of negatives outside the house which makes them down at least st they will always remember that they have a loving and supportive parents/family.

I just saw a show on TV about an extreme obese person. It seemed that what triggered her overeating and addiction to food was her mother saying that she was fat and ugly. I could see that even while they were filming the show. The mother did not say she was ugly in front of the cameras but mocked at her size and doubted that surgery would help any.

thanks marguicha, yeah I don't get it too. Mostly when other people say this kind of words to our child- our first reaction is we feel sad and we really hurt too. But in this case I have no idea why she do that.

thanks LovingMyBabies that's right, even though sometimes we didn't mean what we are saying to our child, particularly when we are mad and totally out of control. We must still considered their feelings, and as their parents or guardians we must keep in mind that they are sensitive too. And they are not deserving to treat like that.

Hi there again! Hopefully your sister is more open to changes in parenting. It is helpful to mix up methods to better know which one is suitable to their children. Have a good day friend! :)

Thanks joizee, I hope she will notice that too, that she need to stop dealing her child in that kind of way.

Thank you so much joizee, were on same case but not my hubby doing that in our son. He is more sensitive in that kind of issue. He doesn't want our son to hear any bad words or mostly negative words for the reason that he might also adopt this sort of attitude, and when the time has and he needs to interact with other kids there's a big possibility do the same thing to others. By the way thanks for the advice, I hope I can tell my concerns to my sister regarding with this and considered my suggestion to stop it..

Sorry for that sybnann, I know all those kinds of negative that happens into our life give us also reason to avoid doing it in our own child because we already get into that situation. What is the best now is not to do it also in our child because they are all innocent and undeserving to treat that.. there's a lot of ways on how we can play with our kids without hurting them, physically and emotionally. my sister is lively and have a positive attitude so I have no idea why she's like that in her daughter.

thanks cgalavia, I feel same way too. As a mother we must known how to deal with our child especially they are so sensitive, it's much better to compliment them always and praise in whatever they do.

I also think that most parents do joke around their children and at the same time I think it is good to say positive things to the children.