Doubts
By STOUTjodee
@STOUTjodee (3573)
United States
April 13, 2013 12:11pm CST
Some times we all have doubts about some thing or some one,whether it be in a relationship or job. I also try to believe in the best, but some times it's hard to believe in the best when all you see,hear and personally witness first hand as being doubtful, it's kind of hard to still believe. People can exaggerate, or use their "bad" experience as proof that some thing went wrong, by spreading their doubtful experiences. I tend to take into consideration that, well, maybe that person is the one that is causing their own misery, so I'll give whatever or whomever the benefit of the doubt. When I start to see for myself that maybe this person wasn't exaggerating that it really doesn't work and apply it to my own experience then I begin to doubt.
Do your doubts stem from mainly hearing other people's experience and hearsay, or are you one to "give a benefit of the doubt?"
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11 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
13 Apr 13
You are right there, as many people lie as well.Never understood this. What do they gain fro it.? have a super day there. see you here soon...
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@BarBaraPrz (47274)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Apr 13
I'm always ready to afford anyone the benefit of the doubt.
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
A pleasant day to you,
There are times, I can't help it to feel the doubt as there are some situations that I see fictitiously. As the many people called it and says, "I smell something fishy". Hence, if an instinct arises on me on a certain doubt, there are times, I really do my observations first before doing my conclusion. But, in this regard, I am just keeping it as a secret, hence I am not the type of person who divulge any information. So if a doubt arises on me, it is very seldom for me to tell it to anybody. Most often times, I just raised it on a prayer. As I believed, God knows the best answer.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
13 Apr 13
I always give someone the benefit of the doubt the first time. But once they have done something that makes me question their actions, like if they have betrayed me or a loved one in the past, I will of course have my doubts and reservations before I would take into account her words or intentions. I guess I can't really blame myself for that, I am just trying to protect myself and those close to me from being hurt again.
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@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
13 Apr 13
i almost always rely on my insticts and when i sense something, i try to investigate and ask other people's opinions. i believe that different perspectives can help in resolving the situation. i always give people the benefit of doubt until i am confronted with the evidence.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 Apr 13
I find that my doubts are related to my experience and think that it worked for that other person because she did not have all the stumbling blocks that I had. For instance, she had a large family, but I had a small one, so she had probably more energy running after all her children. She was able to prepare large meals, and plan, because she had lots of help. So on reality it is that i have doubts because life was not that good to me and it took me a while to develop the confidence to get rid of that doubt.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 13
hi stout jodee Yes of course we all have times when we have doubts but instead of always looking at others who have all sorts of trials and tribulations I use my common sense and try to figure out things for myself and how I can handle whatever the problem is
and ask myself what would my son do in this case as he is really very intelligent.Then I start to work on my problem and then if I have to I might ask a friend or my son for some help too.But I will try to do this for my self first.Yes one can see others examples but I tend to not do that a lot as too many times they do not handle it as my own common sense says I should handle it. I think we all have some innate abilities if we will just recognize
them,,.
them,,.@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Thanks Hatley for responding!
You are absolutely right, I think one must use common sense and manners. Most of the time when other people have "negative" attitudes and try to persuade me in the direction of their way of thinking is because they didn't use common sense or manners. They are truly the ones who have made the wrong choices and try to convince other people judged on their lack of common sense or manners. That makes a lot of sense to a situation where there could be doubts. If I use my common sense and manners in dealing with the situation, I'm sure I will be fine. (Finding out that some other people aren't using common sense and that's why they're talking "negative", so they'll make people feel sorry for them.)
You are absolutely right, I think one must use common sense and manners. Most of the time when other people have "negative" attitudes and try to persuade me in the direction of their way of thinking is because they didn't use common sense or manners. They are truly the ones who have made the wrong choices and try to convince other people judged on their lack of common sense or manners. That makes a lot of sense to a situation where there could be doubts. If I use my common sense and manners in dealing with the situation, I'm sure I will be fine. (Finding out that some other people aren't using common sense and that's why they're talking "negative", so they'll make people feel sorry for them.)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
When I was younger, I wold be easily believing what I hear from people. But as i grew older, I have learned to be more cautious on the things that I hear. It is because of a self-defense mechanism I have put up to avoid getting hurt or disappointed.
@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
13 Apr 13
Hi Stoutjodee I really try to have positive thoughts I always feel better for it, I know sometimes we cannot help our thoughts but I do try to change my thoughts (if I catch myself) to a more positive one. I just learned this not long ago that what our thoughts are our body follows, so the more we have doubts or negative thoughts we will surely believe them to come true. I try to start my day by saying I BELIEVE SOMETHING WONDERFUL WILL HAPPEN TODAY! For me this has really helped.@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
13 Apr 13
I also forgot to mention I always try to get the facts first before I doubt anyone.
@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
14 Apr 13
I feel that until I'm done wrong personally, I will keep other people's opinions on the back burner. If I feel that whatever people wan me about might be happening, then I'm sort of intent on believing other people's "negative" opinion so I won't be caught up in it, even if they may be "true" to me.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Being doubtful is one of our human nature. All of us experience this but it is also our choice whether we are going to be overruled by it. While it is true that some people exaggerate things to justify their doubts, it is still us who are going to call the shots in the end.
I know myself that much so I won't be doing things I know that I am not capable of. I have learned from one of my mentors that when you are about to do something in your life and you have doubts, you better stop or pause for awhile and try to think about the decisions you are about to make. I usually have doubts on people because I am not easy when giving my full trust to anyone.
