My daughter wasn't in the program..
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
April 13, 2013 7:28pm CST
Today was my daughter's dance recital. This year she took hip hop through the school program.
They've always been just a little disorganized. They do have about 200 dancers ranging from 3 years old up to middle school level. This year they seemed more disorganized than ever!
Among other things, their programs were disorganized. When we were looking through it before the recital, we noticed our daughter's name isn't even in it.
At the end of the recital the director mentioned another child whose name was also left out of the program. Afterwards I approached one of the volunteers with the group who is a friend of mine and told her my daughter's name wasn't in it either. She felt really bad, but told me the programs hadn't even been delivered until the night before, even though they were supposed to be there a week ago. So they had no time to check it to make sure it was correct.
Nothing we can do about it now!
I do feel frustrated though at the disorganization of it all. Not just the program.. but the whole thing. It is fun for all the girls who are involved, but I honestly have to say most of them aren't really very good.. even the ones who are older and have been doing it for a long time, like my daughter whose been in it for 7 years.
When she was younger I just kept thinking they'll get better as they get older.
But now they're older and they still look like they haven't had enough practice.
Next year I'm seriously considering looking into a different dance program. My daughter is a really good dancer, I think it's about time we get her some better training.
Don't get me wrong, I think the program through school is a great one and I love that it's available for the girls at a good rate too. I just think with my daughter's talent she might be better off with more formal training. We'll see how it goes.
Has your kid ever been missing from a program at an important event like a dance recital?
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12 responses
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
14 Apr 13
The way I see it, she has been doing this for seven years and you can tell that she enjoys it, so it is time to step it up a bit and get her into a more organized and competitive program. More professional or polished. Yes, my kids and I have been left off of programs. It probably would not be possible at the school, but one way we avoided this at church is to pass a rough draft of the program around and if the names are wrong, correct them, if they are missing, add them. Several eyes looking at them seem to help the situation. I read the title and though she was not in the actual performance and thought that was certainly a bummer.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Apr 13
They do this actually.. they make every parent check a sheet to ensure the name is spelled correctly, but then they send it off to a company to make the flyers.. and this was a company mess up because I know my daughter was on their list.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Well, the way I see it, they should have looked over the programs and seen if it was all correct they had them for a day ahead of time. Then they should have added the names by telling the crowd that their names were missing..but not to worry they would still be performing. I would also suggest they get a person to organize things.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Apr 13
They've been doing this for 8 years.. each year they get a little better.. but this year seemed to be the most disorganized of them all!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Apr 13
She doesn't even know she was missing from the program.. I never told her.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
15 Apr 13
What a beautiful young girl she is! It would be a disappointment for many children to find that their names are not listed in the programme. If I were she then I would have felt slighted. Yes, if she is good and shows talent then find another programme where she will be taught properly and will make progress. No, my kids were into sport except the daughter who did not inherit any talent for sport like her mother. I could only swim and play netball- nothing else. And the names of the boys were always on the programmes
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
15 Apr 13
This is our first time ever having a problem like this.. very disappointing. But my daughter didn't see the program so she doesn't know and I didn't bother telling her. I just tossed the program out afterward instead of saving it like I usually do.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
17 Apr 13
My son has never been part of a dance recital.
Although their black belt day in taekwondo, which happens once a year is exactly like a recital. It's a day where they get to show off what they learn the whole year, and then they get promoted to the next degree belt.
Anyway, I had an issue with my son's name in the whole studio. Except for the grandmaster, all the other instructors there keep adding an S at the end of my son's name and calling him that. My son never bothered to correct them (his been there for 6 years). This would be a problem as their names get sewn on their belts.
Thankfully I signed off on the name before they awarded him his last belt.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Apr 13
I have those problems all the time.
While growing up, my last name was Wood.. and people kept adding an S to the end.
My oldest's name is Javier.. that gets misspelled all the time.
My daughter, Tristan not only gets misspelled but sometimes people think she's a boy if they're just going by her name.
Aydan was misspelled in preschool and kindergarten.
And the youngest is Mathieu.
The only one of my kids without a problem is Tyler..
go figure!
@tinayu (214)
• China
15 Apr 13
i don't have a baby,but i am going to prepare .according the above words,i know you are a kind and responsible father.your girl is so lucky to have a father like you.tell her don't frustrated,there are more chances for her in the future to show her talent.she needs only more practice,one day she will be the center of the stage whereever.
I'm a girl
@AmbiePam (93920)
• United States
14 Apr 13
If she is good I'd find another program for her too. So many of these programs are going for the participation thing. They just want to get everyone in, and if they are good or bad it doesn't really matter. I understand that, but if someone is really talented, it would be good for the child to be in a program that would actually nurture the talent.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Well if they didn't let everyone in.. then people would complain. You can never win these days! I'm going to look into prices of other dance studios. We have a few around here.
@AnnieHouston (208)
• China
15 Apr 13
That's really a frustrated thing for a mother and it also is hard for the child herself. If u really fel that the dacing class is so disorganized, why don't u quit and choose another better one? There should be many dancing organizations in cities. I suggest to remember to test them before u decide to let ur child in.
@GreenMoo (11833)
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14 Apr 13
It's not happened to me, but my kids don't really take part in any organised activities. I can understand how disappointed the kids who were missed out would feel though.
As for moving to a different programme, I suppose that comes down to how your daughter feels about it. If it's simply a fun activity for her, then maybe she doesn't mind it being a bit disorganised and not being stretched as much as she could be. On the other hand, if she's really good then it seems a shame not to allow that talent to flourish fully.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Apr 13
She does want to try one of the other companies, but says she'll miss her friends.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
My daughter just started this piano lessons, i like its program because she gets to harness her natural talent for music and she is really enjoying herself but of course like you i also want to see her grow.. her recitals will still be this coming June and hopefully she will be in it too..She is still three months in this program and her progress is quite good says the teacher but hopefully she will be included.
I do know how you feel about what happened to your daughter,i would also feel bad about it if i know my daughter was good and she was included, you really should think of looking for a different institution that could harness her capabilities more.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
I think you need to look for another dance school because that one where she is enrolled does not seem to be reliable. Missing out names of participants is big deal for me. They can even be sued for that. I think it is not a good school anyway, so I suggest you transfer your daughter to another dance school.
@micheal123 (184)
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15 Apr 13
My children are not yet old enough for this but if my daughter has a talent,I think I will be doing everything within my power to make that talent grows so she can achieve he best potential in life.
