do your kids fight?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
April 14, 2013 8:44am CST
I hate it when i play referee between my kids who always on a fight over small things. they shout at each other and sometimes they hurt each other. Sometimes i am wondering what is going on inside their little heads. Although I also see them playing in good terms, they usually end up fighting. I cannot help but to hit them once I cannot hold my temper anymore. They can turn deaf ears even how many times I tell them to stop.
Do your kids do the same?
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11 responses
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
15 Apr 13
Hey cherigucchi,
i'm not a mother but i have a younger brother and i do fight with him all the time. ANd you are right, it is over very small stuffs.
i'm currently 22 and my brother is 12 years old this year. My mum also hates it when we quarrel because in her words, siblings should always be loving to each other. However, i cannot understand why she does not like us to quarrel. it think fighting and quarrelling is just a way of of brothers and sisters communicate with each other.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
16 Apr 13
i think i should stand in my mum's shoes and try to think of things in her perspective. Just like you, my mum really hates it when my brother and i quarrel. However, i feel like this is just the way how we communicate. Or would she prefer that i not talk to my brother at all?
It might break her heart, but i think all mothers need to knwo that there is nothing wrong with them and there is not issue with how she raise us. This is just the way how siblings interact.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
Mothers always love to see their children in good terms. It breaks her heart when she sees her children always have misunderstanding because she comes to the point of questioning her way of raising her kids.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
I juts have one now by my brother has a twin boy and girl. They usually fight over things that they would like to play with. What my brother do is to shout and hit them, too. However, whenever I have the chance to be there and actually experience the twin's feud, I always talk to the sibling who wanted to take away the toy and tell him/her to give back since he/she was the one first to play it. If it doesn't work, I gave them different toys and sometimes put the other twin in another room so they wouldn't fight. You can try removing or separating them from each other instead of hitting/shouting at them to stop. Then also try talking to them calmly (or as much as you can) to tell them to share instead of asking why or what happened. Children know how to lie and blame to avoid punishment. So instead of having the long story, cut it short by always reminding them how important their siblings are. Sibling rivalry is always there no matter what and will always subside and be gone no matter what. Good luck! ;)
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
May be sooner or later their will outgrow this stage and realize that it is not doing them any good in the end.
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@joizee (502)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
I do wish they can, and actually they are showing little changes now. Now, instead they are fitting with each other, they fight back to their parents (my brother's the dad). For example, he scolds the twin girl, the twin boy immediately punch him wherever he can reach him. Vice versa, when twin boy gets scolded, twin girl shouts at his father to stop. That was pretty funny because those little tykes already know how to protect each other even though they were not taught to do it. :)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Apr 13
I honestly believe that our children would not be normal children if they didn't do this. In other words, I am telling you that my children fight as well.
In fact the last fight that they had was just this evening when they were playing in the basement over at my mother's house. Paul decided that he wanted to play a computer game and Kathryn didn't like it so she pushed him away from the computer and hurt him. Me, I don't really smack my kids but there certainly are some times that it is something that I would really like to do.
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
i have 2 kids a girl and a boy ages 3 and 2 they also fight sometimes and playing together after the fight, i just talked to them after they are fighting to tell them about what they are doing.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Hi there. I have two daughters. One is turning 3 and the other one is 1. Even when they're still so little, they start to fight. They fight over food, mainly. I always tell them that it's not good to fight but of course, toddlers that they are, they never listen. It can get pretty crazy at times, but my mom said it'll be easier to deal with when they get older and understand me more.
@zohaibsher7 (1)
• Peshawar, Pakistan
23 Sep 14
if kids dont fight then what they are called kids for :)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Yes, kids are like that- now they're playing happily then after a few seconds they're fighting over simple things.
There are times that I do feel irritated- and just leave them fight (it's just a kiddie fight) and for sure they will stop once one of them get hurt and cry.
@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
14 Apr 13
OMG my kids fight so much over the silliest things. It's horrible. I swear they have hundreds of toys and they seem to feel the need to fight over just one toy. Or they both want to play trains and they have at least 20 toy trains and lots of track hello children share, play together. They make me want to pull my hair out sometimes. But then in the next heart beat one of them will tell the other that they love them and I remember why petty fights are worth it.
@Deepak2J (1178)
• India
14 Apr 13
Everyone's kids fight. When we were kids , I and my sister always do fights with many reasons like this, like that etc. But, that doesn't mean that we hate each other. We love each other and to our parents as well.
Sometimes, still we do little arguments and make tense my mom and dad
