Should Children Be Seen and Not Heard?

Children sholud be taught to participate. But that does not mean turning them to statues. I don`t accept an answer like "jsut because..." from my grandchildren, but I don`t accept that from anyone. I want to be surrounded by thinking beings. And a child that has been raised that way can understand that sometimes other people will want to talk alone (just as they, also, need that space for their friends and them). Boundaries have to be taught showing respect.

I wonder sometimes why people even have kids. I knoW a lady here she tells her kids all the time. Go to your rooms I dont want to see you. or I could kill you...

That saying is not common hear , I have never heard anyone use it here only on television . I dont agree with it , children or not invisible and we should not treat them that way . Children should be though to be wiser so if the conversation is not a friendly or one a child mind can understand there would be no need for that child to be there . Adult should know how to talk around their child they know them personally all child is different .

well as i see it young kids should be taught to respect adults so yes when adults are talking they should not be heard from and when they get to the right age when they can handle it what ever that age is then they can be brought in

hi dismalgrin, in my point of view. I think as a parents we must teach our child to respect other people whether same age or not-mostly for adults. Thy should know when they must and not to talk. I suddenly remembered my niece- sometimes It so annoying whenever she teased me, up to the point that it really get into my vain hayyy. My niece is just only 2 years old and nine months, I think she get that attitude in her mother who also do the same thing. The kids already adopt this kind of attitude in her mom.

I think children should not interfere with adult conversation but I donot think telling a child to shut up is a good thing either. The child's parent should explain that they are talking to adults and we can talk the subject later if it is appropriate for children.

Children need to know when it is okay to join in a conversation and they should be taught that they are not just grownups in little clothes and they cannot do and say all that the grownups in their lives do.

I was one of those kids that were raised to be seen and not heard and I really think it's a bed idea to teach your kids this. Until I got a lot older I had really bad social skill around my peers. I always let other people have their say without me having mine. With my kids, I let them speak their mind but I also taught them not to interrupt a conversation. They learned to respect adults and be respectful but also that they didn't have to show respect to those that showed them none. I was also brought up to speak only when spoken to and between that and being seen and not heard was like having a deaf mute child that wouldn't speak up for them self. It took me a long time to gain social skills as an adult. Why not teach them to kids when they're young? I also think telling your kids to shut up around other adults is leaving an opening for an abuser/predator to take advantage of a kid because they know this kid has no one to talk to since they're always 'shushed'

I hate that kind of thing where people think that child should only been since. They have every right to talk just as much as adults and its about teaching a child if you need to say something to say excuse me. So what if there is an accident or something and your not listening because you rather talk to an adult and your in an adult conversation they have to say quite and not talk till your done, there some people that just don't stop talking at all and will go on and on. It doesn't bother me if my kids interrupted me while my talking becaus they are more important then some conversation with another adult.

yes, it somehow tells them that they have set of boundaries that they can't do anything they want, it's like training them the set of limitations we put on them and there is a right time for them to do so, taking it slow and wait for their turn, small actions will teach them discipline when to speak and when is there right turn like right action for right age not rushing things up in a broader sense

making noise is the nature character of children. while adults are talking,they certainly don't want to be disturbed.but the parents must see their children so as to avoid some dangerous things. i think we can keep a not far distance between adults and children,adults can talk in one place where they can see their children playing in other place.well,raising a child is such a troublesome thing but great.