Starting over again

hi cvodrey, I am so so sorry that you had to go through that.. what an abusive situtaton...but you should not be worrng about\ having to start over...what you really need to be thinking about is safe haven for you and your children...starting over is the least of your problem...take care of yourself and your children...just remember as long as there is a will there is a way...TC

you will have a hard time during the first few months but everything is bound for the better. you're free from an abusive hubby. i just hope that you will be strong enough to go through the ordeal of filing a case against him. the courtroom is a battlefield and you have to be prepared for this. you are still young and i can see you are a courageous woman. lots of women have gone through the same experience as yours and they've made it. if your husband is a good father to your kids, i hope you can have an amicable agreement regarding them. from the way you told your story, i got the impression that he loves them very much. kids are the ones who suffer most after the separation of parents. if i'm wrong about his treatment of your kids, then you'd better move to a place as far away from him as possible. good luck.

Sorry to hear about this. This is not really fun anymore and hope you will get to start a new life soon. Your kids deserves a more peaceful life away from that man. Good luck and take care of yourself, your kids needs you more.

I am sorry to know that you're experiencing such hardship in your married life. I too would not really know if I can still live with a guy like that. My father never hit or hurted us all our lives so I do not know if I can stand any physical abuse from my husband. But thank goodness that even though I have this tendency of talking so much, he still calm and in control. It would be difficult for the kids to experience this so I hope you could explain to them the best that you can. They may not understand fully right now but I hope sooner or later, things will get better. I hope he isn't hurting your kids.

Well there are people way over 40 or 50 years old or even older and they have to start all over again too. And not for the first time but might be even for the .. time. I started all over again at least 15 times and made it all times, although I had to hide and there were periods in my life I had to move within 1 year again. All my children turned out into great personalities, strong adults (except for the youngest two who are still too young but are great, strong, wise people already). Home is where you are, it's not a house but the feeling you give to a place. So take this challenge and you will see what great opportunities it will bring you as well. What you will find out about yourself. Life is about moving on, about gathering life experiences not about being stucked into a never ending situation.

sorry about your situation but there is a point i life we must make a hard tough decision and move on.its bad for kids to see you people fighting and with such threats you never know when he will act on them so to avoid regrets its best to move on and have the kids grow in a peaceful environment.

I think that is a very good decision, to stay away from a person who is destroying your life with his immaturity. Yes, you really have to do this now and not wait for anything tragic to happen.

Ow.. Sorry to hear that.. that's so serious...and I agree you should look for a new place for new life.. I think it would easy for you and for your kids to move on when you move to other place...Goodluck to your new life with your kids! Hoping for your happy and peaceful life!