Broke up after every month common in Love ?
By ginnimia
@ginnimia (145)
India
April 15, 2013 2:35am CST
This might be funny to hear but i got a friend who broke up with her girl friend after every month. I don`t know what is going in between them but every time i talk to them i only witness topic of fight and arguments.
And then after couple of days they both put the status i am single , i am lonely bla bla bla , this sound me crazy n funny that what kind of relationship they both have ? Every moment they change their thoughts about each and other and i have seen that they are planning for marriage LoL !
I don`t what should i said to them , i don`t want that they face any kind of problem after marriage so that is why i am little worried about their relation. I don`t think Love look like this or this is common in every relationship ?
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10 responses
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Hello ginnimia,
The relationship will be boring enough if there is no fight or argument between the two lovers, having an argument sometimes is good,this will define how strong their relationship and it builds good communication also.They need to talk things what they have argued but when the relationship ends up of letting go, this only means that they are no longer happy with each other or they just need to set apart for them to find what's really good for them.Marriage is a lifetime commitment,they should have planned everything according to each will.
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@ginnimia (145)
• India
15 Apr 13
Well you are right though , fighting or argument is basic thing in love i don`t consider these things that much but having the same problem again and again is really irritating. They did`not settle the argument like they should until the third person came into the matter and try to solve for example me.
I want if they commit each other for the life time bond they should have sense to settle the argument so that it does not effect their love.
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Yeah,your right.Haven't been settle their problem is really frustrating,They are no longer a child anymore,problems will never be settled if they refused to talk about it.Better to talk those unresolved issues first without involving the third person.To get involved to solve their problems is very annoying too.
Well, best wishes to your friends ginnimia, Hope, they can have a smooth relations along the way.God Bless!
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
This relationship is quite dysfunctional... they should be more mature with their relationship and just ignore some petty issues which eventually drives them to break up and then in the long run, they will just cheer and make-up.
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@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Very true! Most likely, the kind of relationship they are on is not really that of a hundred percent committed it's kind of like, having a boyfriend girlfriend relationship that is not taking in a serious note.
Thanks for your response...
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
15 Apr 13
Hello
Gin, I think this isn´t a healthy relationship. I ran many years ago of one of this type unhealthy "love". You should take care, because like a flu, it can be contagious. Step a littel bit aside. I have some biblical references for love:
1Corinthians 13
"If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing.If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated,it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
Blessings Gin... dainy
Gin, I think this isn´t a healthy relationship. I ran many years ago of one of this type unhealthy "love". You should take care, because like a flu, it can be contagious. Step a littel bit aside. I have some biblical references for love:
1Corinthians 13
"If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing.If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated,it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
Blessings Gin... dainy
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
15 Apr 13
Did they keep update their relationship status on Facebook?
If they did, please just ignore them - LOL 
I somehow doubt that they will make it into marriage. But several couples actually made it, even after hundreds of break up. 
But if they rant about it too much on social network, please, again, please, just ignore them
I somehow doubt that they will make it into marriage. But several couples actually made it, even after hundreds of break up.
But if they rant about it too much on social network, please, again, please, just ignore them 
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
It is commonly happening to many couples and I don't think this is love. I think they should not be together and they shouldn't marry at all. They are both immature always doing such thing, arguing and being single on facebook after every fight then get back again.
'Make up your effin minds!'
If they were my friends on facebook I would probably block their news feeds LOL. it's best not to get involved in their business. Don't take them seriously because honestly, they are not being serious about their relationship either.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Their relationship is their business. You can listen to them or give them a little advise but that's it. No need to be too concerned. They might go against you if you involve yourself too much. You have your own problems and things to do which are more important.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Hi ginnimia! I think it's their defense mechanism to break up after each fight and then be together again. Maybe they always want that feeling of making-up-after-a-huge-fight-drama feeling. It might result to something negative so you might consider talking to them seriously. Ask them what their future plans for their relationship are. Tell them the consequences of their actions. But let them decide for themselves so you wouldn't feel regretful of your help to the results of their actions. As a friend, we still have limitations to personal life of the other person. Good luck, hope this helps. :)
@ginnimia (145)
• India
15 Apr 13
Yea , i have limitation with their personal life so that is why i don`t interfere that much but yea this is good point after a big drama of break up they run good for some time. But before marriage this look funny and effective but after it they will be in big trouble specially the girl. She should understand that this trick won`t work for whole life.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
Nowadays, this is very common. People fall in love and also break up.Today’s generation is not at all sincere, as far as love is concerned. I feel that the modern youth only wants to fulfil the lustful desires. Once the pleasure of the lust is finished and they have had the kick, they have nothing to do with the partner.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Apr 13
I think this friend is not ready for a steady relationship. After 1 month everything that is new and exciting is over and is feels like going more steady.. I assume this is scaring or boring.
@orlandofua (9)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Love is unfair, to be honest. You have to sacrifice a lot for love; give and take. Sometimes, in order for a relationship to work out, one must put him/herself down in order for peace to settle in.
@ginnimia (145)
• India
15 Apr 13
Yea i agree , but actually my friend can`t leave her girl friend even she did stupid things. She don`t know the meaning of sacrifice and mostly start the argument i tried lots of time to settle the misunderstanding but i think now they should handle by them self with some good sense because i won`t be with them for whole life.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
28 Apr 13
well, we can not interfere in other people's choice but if they are important for us then we can just advice them for better. you can talk to your friend about that.. if from now that much they argues and discuss then why they want to marry...? is those fights are about getting their marriage arrangements..??? then you can talk to him and ask him and then give your idea and advice..
