Have you ever been lonely?

Of course I have/do/will-until-she-finds-me ; and yes, I blame others. First I blame the drivers today & their lack of caution. But "it's not their fault" that 'the system' (the DMV etc.) doesn't ENFORCE CAUTION! That's PART of the cause of my loneliness. The other part is that NO ONE CARES HOW BAD I HAVE IT UNLESS THEY HAVE IT BAD BECAUSE I DO. Seems that a girl doesn't want a relationship with someone who really 'can't live without her' (`ts why those "can't live without you"-lovesongs make me sick---in the real world, you're just S.O.L. if you're single but you can't "survive" without a spouse.) I haven't exactly "overcome" my loneliness, but I sort of 'treat' it (the way they 'handle' cancer & 'manage' diabetes ... because "curing" them would lose customers for Big Pharma). I 'treat' it by ... mostly by 'distracting myself with busy-work' (like church, writing, watching TV & movies, playing games, eating, myLotting). & I quiet my mind by imagining ways to 'enforce caution' & 'make it bad for everyone who lets it stay bad for me' ... vengeful-sounding? maybe, but "whatever works"

of course there were days where I feel terribly lonely, I noticed when I'm not busy I always feel lonely specially when I don't have a work. But I do realize it's always a matter of choice, so I tried to get busy when I'm lonely, and write a diary. I also pray a lot. I don't know but praying helps me a lot.

I want to come back to this discussion because I want to make a short comment and then later read the article. To answer your question, yes. I find that people are busy and/or have life's that do not include you. It varies it could be work, family, some event or they are in a group you are not but you are excluded. I respect it but it makes connection with other people difficult.

Everyone has experienced the loneliness bug at least once or twice during their lifetime. Some people have a natural propensity for being alone - and there's a difference between loneliness and 'aloneness.' Loneliness is the dark, unhappy feelings you have that make you want to cry at the unfairness of life and having a problem coping. And aloneless is an acceptable way of wanting to be alone with your coping tools and working towards recovery. It is not about giving up; at least you do not want it to be so. Choosing to be happy or unhappy, or alone or with someone or no one is entirely in your hands.

I've been lonely for so many times in my life already. Sometimes I blame others, but most of the time I blame myself. Most of the time the causes of my loneliness are the "what ifs" in my life that never happened. To address this loneliness I usually try to distract myself and indulge in things that make of happy. Sometimes I just think about it for a while. Sometimes I read. Sometimes I write. Sometimes I just eat chocolate and everything's alright.

I suppose that sometimes we really don't feel how lonely we are until we are made aware of it by other people. It may be crazy but I think that this is true. There have been a lot of up and downs in my life. But what really shook my world was when my mom got sick. I honestly didn't know what to do. It was crazy. It was like I couldn't accept it. My grades hit rock bottom. And that was when I was made aware of what I have become. This may sound like a cliche answer. But at the time, I felt like the only one who could understand me was the Lord. And so I went on praying and talking to him. I prayed that he made me stronger. And the Lord, he saved me. After the experience , I came out to be a better person.

I am an agnostic, so God is not an answer to my loneliness. But I have many friends, a good family and grandchildren. It helps to be useful, sometimes. Others , I like to read or to converse.

I have felt lonely in my post break up days.When you are in serious relationship you feel that you are happiest person in the world ,but when the trust breaks you feel as if the world has moved and you are standing alone at your place.The best way to overcome that is to get engaged in something constructive,books can be your best friend during such time.Best wishes.

Loneliness could probably brought by disappointment from too much expectation or just simply being unhappy being alone. I have been through this kind of situation. And I admit that some have been caused by getting frustrated over something. I am sure that i don't want that kind of feeling. But sometimes, even though how much you would want to stay away from such thoughts, it is impossible not to feel lonely and blue.

I never felt alone until people entered my life that I could not get rid of. Seriously. I am fine alone. Never felt lonely. You become alone and feel horribly lonely when the wrong people enter your life. it's like a living hell. Some of the worse ones are the ones that will not leave, no matter what. I had this happen in real life, as well as online. Being alone with myself is like when I am with a good friend. However, people trying to enter your life, or who have taken it upon themselves to be in your life without your permission? Nothing is lonlier that that. The most horrid people out there, are those who refuse to believe you like solitude and continue to hammer away at you, to be let in. i've had that happen and it is a nightmare. Fun convo :D http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/being-alone-is-healthy-206447/

It's good that you have found out that your life is not in order being the cause of your loneliness. You can start managing your life better. It helps to get involved in positive social activities and surround yourself with good company. Soon you will no longer be lonely and become helpful to others too.

i get lonely once in awhile because of others my attitude sometimes is a big azz blame seeker probably because its easy to blame others since its acceptable to my ego but as i made my own realization the only person toblame is oneself as we are the only one in control to make ourselves happy and make our day meaningful

I think loneliness is just a state of being. We feel lonely because we have reasons to feel it. Sometimes i do feel extremely lonely especially when I have nothing to do or nothing occupies my mind. I think it is just fine to be lonely but what you do about it is different. Our emotions are quite strong and if we do not try to overcome it, it will overcome us and later we will find ourselves doing something we should not supposed to do.

Always, we all feel lonely sometimes. When ever i'm alone i think of all the fun my friends maybe having and then i get depressed. I have a really boring life, hopefully i can get more active and make more friends.