to go or not to go?
By Cutie18f
@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
April 15, 2013 11:31pm CST
That is the question that is going on in my mind right now. On my way home this morning I received a call from a friend, the one who recruited me to this insurance company, who invited me for dinner tonight in preparation for the opening of its local office tomorrow. They will have the president of the company to grace the show and I voiced out my concern that I am not really a real member yet as I did not take the test, and I even told her that I am no longer interested to continue with what I had started. But she insisted that I have to be there and my answer was just a lame, "I will try to see if I can make it" or "I will do my best to attend."
Do you think I should attend this dinner-party? I am not a member and I have no intention of pursuing my membership. Should I go there just to eat or what?
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10 responses
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 13
As long as you have make up your mind just be firm about it and she will not be able to force you into it. These insurance people are like that. They will not give up the slighest opportunity on you easily 
. They will continue to go after you until they are satisfied before they let you go...
.
So, since you are being invited you may enjoy the show as well as the food. One food for thoughts - if you are in this line, you will probably be like her trying out all means and ways to recruit people as downlines are very important in this line in order to be successful.
. They will continue to go after you until they are satisfied before they let you go....
So, since you are being invited you may enjoy the show as well as the food. One food for thoughts - if you are in this line, you will probably be like her trying out all means and ways to recruit people as downlines are very important in this line in order to be successful.@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 13
Oh yes, you need to. And they have a certain number of course or something like that which you need to attend within a year. It seems it is compulsory 
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. It seems it is compulsory .
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
Hi Cutie
I won't go if I were you, obviously that dinner invitation is still part of their recruitment strategy. If you have no plans of getting a membership better not go, they might interpret your attendance as being interested.
I won't go if I were you, obviously that dinner invitation is still part of their recruitment strategy. If you have no plans of getting a membership better not go, they might interpret your attendance as being interested.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
16 Apr 13
I agree with Lovegreen, I would not go either..you are already
feeling pressured into attending the party by your friend..why
put yourself into an uncomfortable situtation...and what are
you going to do during the discussion about the company especially
when you have no intentions of joining...are youn going to feel
pressured again and end up making a decision that you are not
willing to do...
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
If you feel comfortable going there, then you should. But if you think you were invited to convince you to be a member, then I think you shouldn't.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
Well, I think that if you don't really feel like going then it is better not to since I know how it feels to be in a party or activity that you don't like. I also think that if you go, then they would definitely encourage you to go on pursuing with that career. I know these kind of people and they would definitely talk about many good things you can get from being one of them. Well, yes it is true that you can really earn big there. In fact, my mother in law was able to complete one of their house from the money she got from working in an insurance firm. But of course, only you know where to go to be happy.
@coxjoseph5 (209)
• United States
17 Apr 13
dont go its a trap. then you wonnt be able to get out gracefull
telll your friend joe has an infected, leg and is in great pain,( truth)
never lie, but my leg does hurt and your mind willlbe with him,
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 13
If you do no feel good about it then make your decision not to go.
However, in my case I will go with an open mind and enjoy myself
with the food and see what are in store in this insurance industry
to widen my knowledge. BUT, you need to prepare yourself what to
answer when they ask you to join. Be polite and just know what you
want in your life. I think this type of even they do not force you
to commit.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
Hi Cutie18f! You have answered your own question - "I am not a member and I have no intention of pursuing my membership". But for the purpose of free food, I say GO! :) I usually have that icky feeling of not wanting to go but "for the sake" of something or someone, I'd still go. I always end up just eating and try to crawl away unnoticeably. I sometimes feel ashamed of it but I try to take my mind of it and go to another place instead. When the person invited me asks what happened to me or did I ever go, I say yes and told her I had emergency so have to leave earlier. Just a little white lie. Hehe! :)
@tinayu (214)
• China
17 Apr 13
i would go if i were you.that seems not bad for you to go there.you are invited and you can eat for free. there are so many people that no one will notice whether you are a real member or not.even if you have on intention of pursuig your membership,you have a chance to make more friends in this dinner tonight.don't condsider too much,just go.
@louilmarces1986 (65)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
For me if someones invited me to some occasion i will say yes, even if ill not be a member of their association. The reason why i go because of interpersonal development and socialization in that event held you can learned so much information with regards to their groups and if you will be interested then you will become a member sooner its the way of "pakikisama" one thing that most filipinos dont have is the camaraderie they tend to not socially active i dont know why? but not all filipino like that i really appreciate those people who are socially inclined its the way of giving new thoughts to others and you can also acquired new ideas.
