I just had a fight with my colleague...

I never experience any fight with anyone in my working life . However, I used to give in to people and be patience with them. Even though sometimes they may behave unreasonable, but I will not let them drive me up the wall. I know how to control my temper and keep a distance .

fighting is to be expected anywhere. one may not have the same inclinations or beliefs with another, so diagreements could arise. anybody would have had fought wth someone sometime. disagreement is one thing. but personal attack is another. maybe when both of you have calmed down, you try to ask him whatever his/her problem is with you. you are right that being drunk is not an excuse. but by being drunk, s/he has said whatever that s/he really thinks about you, or your ideas. so there is something that is not said during sober times.

i had fights before, with classmates too and i am all for those things so long as we confront each other. i hate people who would back bite me and would make my life miserable by telling me things behind my back so im all for the fights face to face. at work, we had such before but it was not an outrage, and it was more of a confrontation that we had raised our voices just to be heard.

So you curse at this guy for some minutes, and then you went home, how is that constitute 'fight', let alone a 'big fight'? I thought that you gave him a few quick fly kicks and chop-chop, left some bruises on his face and taken out one of his eyeball when i read your title of your discussion, only then realize i am wrong, you are just angry at him, not having a big fight with him. I am sorry i misunderstand you. No, i never fight with my colleagues or co-worker or my boss in my entire working life, there never have any issue i can't solve through talking with them. All of us are very professional people in my work place.

Yes, I had one in the past and hopefully, it will be the last. I was seething with anger that time because he repeatedly embarrassed me in front of other people. I was trying to control my emotions that time but when he did not stop, I had this urge to defend myself with all his dirty talks. But the thing is, since I was holding my emotions for quite a long time already, when that big moment came, I was already very angry and almost crying while I was defending myself. But not an hour had passed, I went to him and said sorry for behaving like that and explain that I was very disappointed with what he said. He said that he didn't mean everything and was just kidding. But the topic was too sensitive and I don't think he can even joke about it. He said sorry but after that, as much as possible I don't go near him.

Yes, I also experienced that. actually, she is also my friend. I hate her for having her attitude problem. I can tolerate her as we already been colleagues for a year in our past work and then we are together again. What I hate about her is that even me as her friend , she can show her bad attitudes with me and even ruin my day.

Well, my temper is not really good, but I seldom get angry. And if someone really enrages me, I would blow up. This moment I still remember the fight between me and a schoolboy when I was in senior school. I don't remember the specific reason why I had to fight him but I am sure he must have said something of offensive language, because he always talked in such a way that all my classmates disliked him. So when he enraged me, I just can't help hitting him and then we got to fight each other, and by the way I was just a little girl that time.LOL Sometimes, I wonder why I had such courage to fight with a boy much more stronger than me. Then we never talked with each other again, or rather to say, I ignored him. But some years later, he said to me "happy birthday" on internet, which made me felt very surprised, although that day wasn't my birthday. Now, we are just classmates, I would smile and hello to him when I meet him, not much else.

We are just human and there are times that we cannot anymore control our temper especially if the other person concerned is already going below the belt. My job does not allow me to stay long in any place so I don't create a very close relationship with anybody. This is one strategy of our department to prevent corruption (yaay!). To avoid familiarity. But I don't agree much on this. I hope you settle your problem with this person as it is hard for you especially if you are seeing each other everyday. Have a nice day!

I did for some wrong reasons which a colleague started. I confronted him head on and asked what was the matter, did I overstep on something which made him mad? Of course it doesn't feel good at all when someone talks behind your back but it's not healthy being a work environment knowing someone hates you for your guts or something that might be misinterpreted by others as envy. So to settle our differences, I asked him what was the cause of his raving and ranting against me. In the end, everything turned out fine with us, it's just a matter of diplomacy and being human enough to accept that we all have our flaws, professional or not, we're all the same.

Everyone has bottom line on someone insulting him/her, and everyone has dignity. So don't feel sorry or guilty about fighting with such guys.

l think we all experience this at least once in our lives. Its normal someone bad mouths you for no good reason mostly because they are able.