What? he wants to rent a housemaid who will live in his house...
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
April 16, 2013 4:04am CST
Currently i am not happy whenever i think of...my boyfriend wants to rent a housemaid.
He lives alone and he wants to find a housemaid. The problem is a housemaid will stay in his house. I told him, i don't agree with it, i am not comfortable whenever i think of his living with a housemaid. He told me please understand... he is so tired after working whole day and he needs a housemaid. I told him find a housemaid who can clean and cook but don't stay in his house. He said, there is no housemaid like that in his place...he promises he won't do nothing wrong with me, he is faithful with me, but i am still not happy if a housemaid stays in his house while he lives alone now...
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7 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 13
First, you dont seem to trust your boyfriend. Sad. Secondly you dont seem to be concerned about him - his point seems valid to me - he is so tired after working whole day and he needs a housemaid - not because he is a man or even a working guy, I feel when you stay all alone, you do not feel like doing most of the household chores every day.
I do agree with what you suggest - he is so tired after working whole day and he needs a housemaid - but think this - if he had to do any wrong, there are a lot of other ways to do wrong and cheat upon you, and even, if he wanted to do a wrong, he can do it even with a non-resident housemaid.
C'mon gurl, you need to trust your boyfriend. And if not, why not shift to his place and stay together? That would make many many things easier for both of you.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
i have to agree with you sids..
she has to trust him more and i don't think he is insane enough to go and have an affair with a house maid! if he wants to have an affair he would have done it a long time with anyone else..
and he can look for a housemaid as old as his grandma even! 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Apr 13
i was going to say all the same thing as thesids
so why can you not move near him and go over and house maid for him when he gets home? 
you should not be unreasonable. 
so why can you not move near him and go over and house maid for him when he gets home? you should not be unreasonable. @ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 13
There is a story that makes me don't be happy when heard that he wants to find a housemaid who will live is his house. I just don't want to share that story. I just don't want to be betrayed...I told him finding an old housemaid, older than him. He did promise to me, but I feel ok when he gets an old housemaid only.
Currently I can't move to his place, I don't live with him before getting married, he understands this.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
LOL, there's a simple solution. Find a male houseman (whatever they are called)
This way he won't be cheating on another woman for sure and you won't feel uncomfortable. And make sure this guy is NOT GAY.
If they are no men available for the job, find a housemaid who is older(40-50 years old).
Why do you both have to complicate things?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
18 Apr 13
hihih, there is no male housemaid.
I told him about finding a housemaid who is older than him, around 45-50 years old already, but he said he is finding.
i don't know whether he can find an old housemaid or not, that's why if he finds a young housemaid, sure i am not happy with it.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Apr 13
Last night he told me that he couldnot find an old housemaid yet and he may hire an young one, I said no, a housemaid should be older than him.
To be honest, I am tired with this problem, I am thinking... If he finds an young one, I will say to him, it is up to him, I don't care anymore...
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
As long as it's a trustworthy person he is hiring, he will be fine.
LOL, I'd hate to be in your situation if he manages to find a young attractive maid. Don't worry yourself over it. You'll only get wrinkles and you'll annoy him. Don't let him think you are the bad guy. What you are feeling now is natural and you are only looking out for him.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Apr 13
I understand your worries. I also think that your boyfriend should just hire a housemaid which doesn't live there. I wonder whether it is possible for him to find an older housemaid so that it will be better for everyone? And actually an older housework shall work for a longer time which will not quit easily. You can not expect a young girl who likes to be a housemaid. And an older housemaid is also much more experienced and responsible and she shall make everything in a good order.
@rage35 (344)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
that sounds funny! if i were you in your situation i won't let my boyfriend to hire a housemaid even if i love him, i trusted him because i cannot tell if he wouldn't do nothing with his housemaid..if the intention of your boyfriends is to find somebody to assist him in the house so why not suggest him that you can assist but he should provide service fee for you?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
17 Apr 13
No, i won't be his housemaid. Currently i am his girlfriend. I trust him but i don't like a woman, especially young woman living in the same house with him daily. We both know that i won't live together with him before getting married. I don't mind if he rent an old housemaid since a housemaid just clean and cook only, not do heavy works.
He told me he still finding now...
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 13
yeah, it is what i was thinking and i told him about it. I told him finding an old housemaid, but he said he has to find...i don't know whether he can find an old housemaid or not...
i am not happy about this problem from yesterday...why suddenly he has a thought of finding a housemaid..
