A secret part of me
By jearl02
@jearl02 (211)
Philippines
April 16, 2013 5:42am CST
We all have the right to privacy. A privacy that does not give our partners the access to a part of us -- might be a part of our history. In my case, there is something about my past that I found it so humiliating to tell my wife and I really don't find it necessary for her to know. It is something that I am hiding in the name of privacy.
Do you have something about you or your past that you don't tell anyone?
6 responses
@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
18 Apr 13
There are a couple of things that Ive never shared, nor really intend to in the future, with my boyfriend. Whether he knows about it or not doesn't affect our relationship at all so I don't feel guilty or bad that I have chosen to not share every single thing about my past with him. I'm not "keeping" it from him, if for some reason we were discussing something, and these things from my past were relevant to the conversation, I would tell him then because after that I feel like it would change into feeling like I was keeping it from him, which would feel deceitful. I don't know if that all makes sense, but I hope I explained it well enough 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
Before my husband became my boyfriend, I told him everything that he needs to know. And now that we have been married for 19 years, I try to tell him what he needs to know but I'd rather keep other stuff to myself to avoid getting into an argument. He tends to linger on the past sometimes which I find it so crazy.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
16 Apr 13
what happened in your past beofre you met your wife doesn't really concern your wife UNLESS it would jeopardize the harmony of your marriage if it becomes public. while it is true that we have to be honest with our mates, this doesn't mean that we have to give an detailed account of our past. what is important is that you are honest with her from the start of your relationship.
@mrexcellence (35)
• Mauritius
16 Apr 13
Hi
I think you are right. It happens in life that your present is completely stabilized and a fact from the past can ruin it completely. I do agree that you must share everything with your partner but as you said, we all have some privacy. If you believe there is something which you want to forget, then why would you bring it again in the present to ruin the present and the future. But the most important part of it is to ensure that this does not remain in your mind. You must forget it completely. Only then, it is worth not telling. It will be useless not to tell it, if yourself you cannot forget it.
