hiding inside myself

Okay, I will be frank. If you want people to understand you, you have to open up and not wait for them to ask you how you feel. You are entitled to share your thoughts and emotions as long as the time is appropriate and people are willing to listen. people are mostly self-absorbed that they often won't notice you or even care to know your feelings. So don't expect that they will understand you. Only you can do something about it. Talk about your feelings, even when people are not listening or don't want to listen. A good friend will be willing to listen. Strength is not about bottling all those feelings up and not letting them out. it's unhealthy and it's one of the most annoying misconceptions ever in friendship. A person who opens up without fearing judgment and being completely honest it a strong person. Figure out what is keeping you from opening up and eliminate that factor. Also, if you ever want to let those feelings out, write about them on your laptop, on a piece of paper or share it on mylot. (trust me, this works) And if that's not enough, you have me here to listen. I'm rather frank and my words can hurt, but I will do that not to comfort you but to make you a stronger person. (plus I'm evil )

That is the way I am 90% of the time. I just keep things to me and go on with my life. This so reminds me of when I would call mom and she would talk about all the other kids but never asked how I was doing. She used to tell everyone that I was her strong one so I guess I had to live up to it. Seems like I carried it on through my life. I was with a guy for almost two years and there is so much about me that he never knew. It was always about him.

I really hope we're working in the same office so I could listen to you. I have a colleague who often tells his problems, even if it is just a simple one. If I have knowledge about it, or I know I could give a good advice, I speak but if I think that it is something that I have no knowledge about, I just listen. Normally, if I have this huge bag in my chest, I tell my friends about it. Well, many of my close friends were living far from my place so we just talk about everything over the phone or online. But it really helps. I hope you have someone whom you can share your thoughts. Someone who is willing to listen. Well, we're actually here to hear you. You can share us what's bothering you.

Most of the times, I'm like this, I usually keep feelings on myself, especially problems.I usually hide it from my family to protect their feelings.If have problems, I usually share it to my close friends which I only have a few,and I can't even go into details.It's not that I don't trust them,maybe I'm not just that open.The irony is I'm even comfortable to share my thoughts to strangers,and Mylot has been a therapy for me.Well, maybe Mylot community is just more open minded that the environment around us,plus the excitement of having different opinions from people of different backgrounds.

I have learned to figure things out on my own because most of the time people don't understand me. Since it's only me who understands myself I learned to be self-reliant nowadays not being so dependent on others for comfort and inspiration. I want to discuss some issues and problems but no one seem ready to listen. You obviously have some problems but no one would dare talk to you, you would even be insulted or ridiculed if you look down and depress. I learned to cheer myself up nowadays on my own.

i will hide my true feelings when i realize my true feeling might hurt the others.Sometimes we hide ourselves not because no one understand us,it is our nature.

I think most probably it do happens in everyone's life that people does not understand them. I think most probably one should forget about it and most probably try to carry on with the life. I think most probably you should not try to stress yourself too much in your life.

Hi cherigucchi, I think that I may be something like you but there are a few people that I can be open with. I have a brother to whom I can tell my inmost feelings. In most cases though I am the one that others come too. The strange thing is that I seem to be able to help others but not myself. Many have told me that I have helped them and I am humbled by that but I have often wondered why I could not help myself. Blessings.

I'm a very emotional person, I can be there for my friends and family, but can't really shut off my feelings. If they are crying, I cry with them. I do my best to comfort them by feeling their emotions and giving support. So, to answer your question, no I can't absorb everyone's drama without feeling it myself, but happy to give my support when it's needed.

I am like you. I never liked to talk about myself. I always throw back the question to a person asking me of how I am. It just does not feel right that I talk about myself. I opened up once to a not so close friend and she was so surprised how open and how colorful my background was. She said, I could attract people more and gain more friends if I was more open. My director also asked me once if I was with someone at the moment. But I just know that I am better off when I am alone solving my problems inside the four walls of my room. I had so many friends in the past. My x always got jealous coz I seemed to be too close to everyone. I indeed attracted too many people then but I could only say that I had 2 real best friends plus of course her who was both a lover and a best pal. You might need someone who just could say the right words to calm you down. That could come from one of your family members or from one of your friends. There must be that specific person in that circle that is able to define you somehow. It is not that you need to open up entirely but at least be able to listen to what he or she says coz he or she has your respect.:)

I think it's normal you know yourself the best. I also don't see the need anymore to prove to others I am not the one they think I am. I am me and I am happy I am. I feel great if I am alone and can do what I like most. Something wrong with that? I am not hinding myself anymore btw, I also don't see the need for that. The good news is since I do so I only meet people who do respect me for who I am.

Yes. Many times. In those situations, whenever i an alone in home, I just goes in front of God and tell them and cries whenever necessary. when someone COMES I JUST SHOWS-OFF AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED