I'm afraid of talking again with my old friends ...
By yume11
@yume11 (183)
Romania
April 16, 2013 4:41pm CST
Hi, myLotters!
For sometime a little thing it's in my head and every time I want to tell this to someone it just interrupts me something, someone..or just the thought that :,,He/She could be not understanding me/my situation...'' and I give up telling me..and the thing from my head begins to hurt me again, in my soul ... Now..I hope someone from myLot will make some time to listen tome..and maybe to help me a little, with an advice.
That ''thing'' which I'm talking about it's somehow hard to describe..but I can tell you it's not a strange disease... It's about my old friends.
About 3 years ago I was in gymnasium and I had a little group of 6 best friends. We were all very kind with each other, with no secrets and very close to each other. After one year one of us made some new friends with common interests and began to talk with us fewer...and..we began to argue with him..and he decided that we should not be friends anymore.
After that friend left,our little group began to break...Everyone began to have secrets from each other, they began to be cold with each other and they began to have more argues. I say they because I was that person who was running from a person to other to please them to stop arguing,and to began friends like in the past.
In the same time, I was crying and trying to be again friend with the boy who left our group first, for new friends.
When we entered in the high school, we all entered in different high schools..some of us even in different cities.
At the beginning of the high school I managed to make everyone talk with each other and even to bring that boy back..somehow and apparently...
Because me and two other friends entered to some lower high schools[because we decided to stay in town, not to go away, to a higher high school], others began to make fun of us and from this point many misunderstandings began to flow..and our friendship broke again in many many pieces...
Even tough in passed two years almost,since I'm in high school..I've made some new friends..but..I don't fit in their groups..I fell strange.. The fact is : I miss very much my old friends and my/our old group.
But..the problem is...with some of my old friends I haven't talked for 1 or 2 years..with some for 4/5 months...and with some for some weeks or days... I want to begin to talk with them again on the Internet, on the phone or even in real life..I don't care...but I'm afraid of what I'll find at those friends whom I haven't talked for much time. In my head I still have that picture of them, from 3 years ago. I'm afraid to not find my friends changed a lot ...I'm afraid that they'll laugh at me or they'll refuse to talk to me...
I miss my old friends and I wish I could talk to them again. Do you have any advices for me?
Thank you because you've read my story &
Thank you in advance for advices.
I hope my wish it's not very childish/spoiled and if it's...please don't laugh of me .
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3 responses
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
16 Apr 13
there's no harm if you contact your old friends again. maybe they also want to hear some news from you. however, please bear in mind that people change. you and your friends are no longer kids. you are teenagers already. don't expect them to be the same persons that they were three years ago. like you, they have learned a lot during these years and maybe they have developed certain interests that might not interest you so reconstructing the old group would be hard.
try to be open to the possibilities of having new friends. you meet new people everyday and i'm sure you'll find someone who shares your interests. don't limit yourself to your old group even if you recover the friendship with them. a few more friends wouldn't hurt.
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@yume11 (183)
• Romania
17 Apr 13
Well... That's the thing: when my friendship with them has broken I was hurt a lot and after this I was and I'm still a bit afraid to not be hurt if I would start a new friendship with someone.
However I'll try to contact them at the end of the week, maybe you're right about them wanting to hear some news about me ^^ This gives me some courage :). Thank you!
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
16 Apr 13
First, if you really want to see them then go ahead meet with them and have a reunion. Second, do not be ashamed of who you are because of them. True friends understand who we really are, just be yourself and it's their choice to accept the real you. Finally, don't cling to all of the people or friends that has been part of your life. People come and go. There are just few people who stay and they are your true friends no matter what.
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@yume11 (183)
• Romania
17 Apr 13
I think you're right, sometimes I just forget to let people from my life to go, but I was thinking that's not right to just let go to a person..like when you loose an object and you forget about it, but now seeing your advices I begin to think that's not very bad to let some people from my life to go. I'll try to contact them and see how it'll go ^^. Thank you for your advice!
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
Thanks fro sharing Yume11. I do have the friends that I've haven't seen for a long time. I am quite anxious of what we'll be talking about and how much change we've had from the past years.
My advice to you is try to reach out. In any way you think you might reach them: email, phone, text, SNS (facebook). Just try to reach out and wait for the response. Try to know how each one is, like asking how are they and what have they been doing. If you get positive replies, then why not invite them to meet sometime, to bring back the old times. Meet them in your old hang out or new places in town or perhaps a home party instead? :)
I have to warn you that some of them might not have the time to meet up or answer to your messages. But don't be disheartened, just be more understanding since it has been a long time you all last talked or met.
Good luck Yume11, I hope I helped even though just a bit. :)
