My Friend

I only accept active friends - I have had requests from folk that have yet to post

My rules, if within a month the person can get up to 50 posts, I accept. If not, I decline. Well OK, I might make an exception for 40 or 45 or something, but point is, they have to demonstrate that they're going to be active. I mainly don't want to deal with being spammed.

Did you meet your prospective friend here? Have you checked out their discussions yet? I used to let prospective friends stew-months even!-but I finally began accepting them. If they get unruly, I just drop them from my exclusive list! I've never had a pink gin. Come to think of it, I can't recall if I ever had ANY gin before. How does it become pink?

Hi P1key, I would have a look at his discussions to see if he likes the same kind of things as you, or spot something that would at least give you some kind of clue as to why he's trying to befriend you. I tend to be a bit suspicious of people who try to be my friend for no obvious reason! I wonder if they are trying to link to as many people as possible so they can ultimately try to sell them stuff, for example. I would let him stew for a bit. But then maybe I am mean! :)

Do you fear you may loose his friendship if you comments? He may also thinks so.

I accepts everyone in mylot. Is it bad ?

I had so many friends. But now I have few friends. Some of them are not real friends. Now I realized that "A friend indeed is a friend indeed". It is very true .

It depends on if he is a good fit with you. I always check out what the person is interested in, what discussions they create and the ones they respond to. If they are mainly interested only in making money, I reject them. Likewise, if they only discuss sports or other things that bore me, I usually don't approve them. If they stick with one point of view such as if they are adamantly conservative or liberal and won't entertain any other point of view, I don't usually approve them. I want someone interesting on my friend list, maybe someone to teach me something, a different way of looking at things, and who has a few points of common interest with me such as movies we like or causes we believe in. Those are people I usually approve.

Difficult innit? I no longer accept people as a friend unless I know them first. They should have answered a few of my discussions and we get to know each other a bit before becoming friends. In the not-so-recent-past I have accepted so many people who have never once answered any discussions of mine despite my consistently answering their posts. Sometimes with great difficulty. I don't have much in common with a 19 year old from Viet Nam regretfully/ These kind of people just want numbers. The above I said in a post to a newbie today and what did then person do? Request friendship after I had made it clear that I do not accept friendship requests without getting to know the person first Let him stew and stew and stew again before letting him in.

Such friendship is rare, but has its benefits. We can always learn a lot from friends. When our friend is from our own country or city, then there is not much to learn. But when a friend is from a different continent, then one can learn a lot. There is so much to learn from a different country, different society, different culture. I hope you enjoy this rare friendship which is surely a fragrant one.

Sounds like he more like a stranger then a friend.