..shocking it happened with my sister n we never knew about it..
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
April 18, 2013 11:38am CST
me and my mother went to my sis place after 5 months and were very happy to see her. but i could see that she was not happy from within. I asked her constantly and she said that she is not happy with her husband's behavior as he has been neglecting her n his kids. Not only this, she emotionally said about various incidents where both had shared violent arguments and that too in front of their children.
She said that she had lied to us about the black spot on her arms which was actually a mark created on her arms when she was pushed by her husband, she had earlier lied to us and said that the mark happened on its own. He even had spoken several times of disowning her but she had always kept her silence as she never wanted to make our family embarrassed due to these incidents. Though he is not harming physically now, but by his actions he is hurting our own family and her. Apparently, my sis's elder child, does not like his father much and is closer to her mother. I hope that my niece does not grow up hating his father. Hope things would change in the coming days.
What r your thoughts about this? Why are women always underestimated by their husbands due to which they have to bear the grunt of their husband n ultimately digest the pain in them? Please do share your thoughts!
3 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
18 Apr 13
I understand her, to tell lies about that. No one ever wants to admit that their husbands do things like that. I hope she is ok now.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Apr 13
I am really glad to hear that u could understand her situation very well. As u have mentioned it is never an easy task for a lady to admit her post marriage ordeals as by admitting such, she do not want to earn a bad reputation for her family in the society. Yeah she is absolutely fine now and we are all with her every time.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
24 Apr 13
Its good for everyone to talk about ones problems. I need to learn to do this. have a great day there.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Only your sister can decide if she wants to stay and hope that her husband will change or if she would finally end the marriage. We really do not know the extent of her husband's rage. How did the rage started? What triggers him to act that way?How long has he been this way? Ask your sister if she can still hold on to the marriage. Reassure her that you and your parents will always be behind her no matter what. She should not think of being ashamed of her situation. She should think of having a safe, peaceful and loving environment for hr and her kids.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Apr 13
Yes u are absolutely right, we have given her enough freedom to think what she would be doing next and i can see that she respects the institution of marriage very much so she does not want to end it. She wants her kids not to be deprived of a father's love and support. Her husband has mood swings, it is very hard even for my sister to gauge his mind. No matter what, our doors are always opened for her.
@nishant5n (1067)
• India
18 Apr 13
Dear friend, this is very disheartening...another sister is not happy...
you can complain against him and teach him a lessen. You could have strictly made him understood...
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Apr 13
Yeah of course we were taken by shock when she explained her ordeals post marriage but then i think it is too late to take any action against him as we do not want to mess with him and create a bad reputation for our family, we have always constantly tried to pacify the matter and keep it within the four walls of a room. I hope everything would be back on track.
