Expressing Ourselves

I would rather get what I feel off my chest by shouting and screaming when no one is around, and also when calm by talking to someone to explain what it was like and how I felt. But I have a hard enough time thinking what would someone else feel like and think because something just rubs off my back, it does not do that for them. So when I read about an accident and someone writes that they felt sick, are mad at the person causing it, I wonder why they did not suggest ways to help the victims instead of throwing up all over the place. And also wonder why they did not say, "I took the number of the license plate and when the police came over, told them," So I wonder why they let their emotions get a hold of them. I can understand freezing at the horror, but running around like a chicken - sans head. That I cannot understand. True I feel sad and when I hear bad news especially children and babies getting killed, UI cry.

I think many of us are like this, it's easier to think clealy and express outselves in writing than if they were standing infront of us.

I am better as well at writing I am a writer lol. I wrote two books already, and also am a therapist and writing is very good to sort out issues you may have. For example if you are dreading making a decision on something. similar to the pros and cons method you might address the fear directly, as your self the question what is the worst thing that can happen if I do or don't do this. this helps a person to to overcome fear because many times the worst thing that could happen really isn't that big of a deal at all. or the opposite it can be the worst thing to do. example what would be the worst thing that could happen if I buy that pair of shoes I really really want. If the worst thing is you have an extra pair of shoes, then that isn't so bad, but if the worst thing that can happen is that you spend the money on shoes and now you can't pay your light bill and they are about to turn it off, then passing up on the shoes may be the right choice,.

I am the same. I find that writing things down gets me further then trying to speak to someone...and it gets all the frustrations out too!

hello, STOUTjodee ! We are very much alike. I can express myself more through writing. Even if I wanted to tell things to a person face to face, I would find myself really unable to open my mouth and utter a word, I have been this way, I noticed, when I was in High School. I would often write notes for all of my friends. Nothing much to say but just telling them how happy I am to have them as their friend.

Writing really is a great way to express ourselves. I go through a similar situation. I am not so good at expressing myself in front of other people, but I find it easy to get my thoughts out through writing. You're also right that here at mylot we can find people who will respect our ideas. I've seen plenty of nice people here.

I have a 'pretend' dialogue, where I outline everything that I'd like to say to them, as well as how I think they're going to respond. I also hate confrontation, even though I'm quite opinionated! I'm also afraid of someone rejecting me.

I myself feel that writing is really one of the better outlets in expressing ourselves. Although people are social animals, we often still hold back our feelings and thoughts when we have face to face conversations. Most of us probably are yet uncomfortable saying everything we feel either because its difficult to fully trust someone or like you said, we fear being judged. Writing somehow makes us overcome these apprehensions.

I know exactly what you mean! I love writing fiction stories especially, but I think any kind of writing for me helps to get down my true emotions and thoughts. In person I'm usually pretty mellow and calm and don't seem to react emotionally to much. I don't really get angry or act aggressive, and the only emotion I really express is excitement (I will jump up and down and squeal with glee if I'm excited!) but most of the time I just seem very calm. But I think it's because a lot of times I'm not sure how to appropriately express my emotions, or if the emotion I'm feeling is appropriate. And I'm the same way with many of my thoughts - sometimes I don't know how to convey them. If I'm not expecting a conversation and someone tries talking to me, I feel really awkward because I can never come up with decent replies. They'll ask all kinds of things and I'll be like "What? Oh... uh. Yeah?" But man, give me a pen or a keyboard and I will flush out every feeling and emotion and deep thought and personal belief and philosophical question you could imagine! It's weird... but sometimes I wish I was better at doing that in person, because the people I interact with who don't know me as well or don't ever see my writing, might think I'm just kind of blank or plain.

I can understand how you feel. And that just but the most viable way to be able to express one's feelings without being rebutted for it. Here at Mylot, one can freely express what he/she feels as long as it doesn't violate any guidelines. I hope you will be okay at the soonest.

thank you for sharing this and while it takes a lot to say it and yes I know i do the same myself no one like to be judged and we all have the right of saying what we say and or how we say it

I do also write down all mt thoughts and feelings because i am more comfortable spitting them out through ink and paper. However, i am also quite vocal in expressing my feelings especially if i feel the need to talk to the person concerned. It is difficult to lock ourselves inside. I also hate confrontations so i do a lot of things to avoid it.

I also like writing. As a matter of fact, I teach creative writing. I want my students to know how to use words in order to capture their ideas, feelings, and imaginations.