How to properly discipline a child

you are right every parent has their own way of doing things. even my husband and i have a diffrent way of doing things. i see people around where i live that hit the kids yell cuss and scream like you described and others who yell and take their favorite things away. the way i see it the more you yell and cuss at them the more they are going to do wrong. kind of like rebelling against you. my kids love to play outside and love to watch tv so that is what i take away. something they love to do and because they are little it affects them a lot and sometimes they learn. but i do take the time to explain to them why i am taking it from them and what they did to deserve it and i also tell them how to fix it so it doesnt happen again...what they do after that is their choice and when they get it back it will be taken again if they can not behave.

What I normally do is take things away that they love, playing outside, riding their bikes, watching cartoons, playing games on my phone, etc... At times I have tapped them on their butt if I need them to stop doing something right now! I don't hurt them, I just get their attention right then. Sometimes when you just talk to a child they don't take it seriously. So a small tap on the butt gets them to focus on you right now, like one time when my little one went to touch the stove. Talking would not have stopped her, but the little tap on the butt got her attention quick! I had just cooked on it and she would have gotten burnt if she touched it. I don't believe in screaming and cursing. That just teaches the kids bad language and has a lot of negativity as a result.

I definitely think that this lady is behaving badly. I wonder if she would like her kids to do the same toward her. I believe in respect toward the children and then you get the same respect back. For example I never scolded my children in front of other people. Either I left the place with them to talk to them or I talked to them afterwards. If you behave as they should behave and talk to them respecting them as the wonderful people they are then they will do the same for you.

My husband and I agreed to not spank our daughter. But we sometimes shout at her to scare her and stop her from doing very dangerous things. Sometimes she tries to touch the exhaust pipe of the motorcycle. Luckily I saw it and shouted in shocked to stop her. Because she's her curious-discovery age, she always try to do all things on her own. Right now, her tantrums is higher and we are trying to scare/discipline here with just showing our hands up to tell we're going to spank her if she's not going to behave. It is kind of effective BUT she's copying us! LOL! She's just trying to show her hand up too and when that happens, we just end up laughing instead of getting angry at her. But now, we try to just shout or calmly say one word like "Hey!", "No!" as a disciplinary action. Good thing about our daughter is she knows how to apologize. So whenever we get serious is scolding her, she says sorry and we immediately forgive her. Even though she still repeats the bad behavior she just keeps on saying sorry LOL! About calling names and cursing and the armalite of the mouth, I never supported that and will never try on my child. It doesn't resolve any and can cause mental and emotional repercussions to my child and I don't like to be the cause of that. I want her to be disciplined in a calm and polite way. I am trying my best and hopefully can find the most suitable and effective to my daughter. :)

although i am still a student, but i can be considered half a qualified babysitter. this is because my grandmom had been a babysitter for many years. i learned a lot skills from her. and from in my opinion, a child will face 2 important stages. first, when the child start to learn new things, interact with people and things, or start understanding. this is the stage that build up his or her nature, attitude and characteristic. parents should behave properly in front. try to help the child learn up good habits and ignore all the bad habits. a good starting point is very important. second, the stage when the child start interacting and grouping with different kind of people, which is around 11-13 years old. their mindset are very unstable and will be affected easily. if they are unlucky to get bad friends, they can committed to those bad things very fast. friends are an important factor, they can influence at a very large impact. for the good of your child, guide them in appropriate way.