What do you do when the child or adolescent lies
@taheraa (1545)
Giza, Egypt
April 20, 2013 7:17am CST
What do you do when the child or adolescent lies:
Parents must carry the biggest role in their children's treatment. When a child or adolescent lies, parents should be to have enough time to discuss this matter with their children and a frank talk with them to discuss:
- The difference between lying and telling the truth.
- The importance of the Secretariat in transactions in the home and community.
- Alternatives to lying.
- We must be their role models in our words and our actions.
Is this a problem faced one of you, and the way to treat ?.
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5 responses
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
20 Apr 13
Hello
Taheraa, I´m glad to read you. I really hate lies. Thanks God I´m raising my teens to tell the true. I can tell you that as children there have been stages where they tried to lie me. Near the 11 or 12 years of age. When they were kids they really didn´t try to lie because they were so innocent that they didn´t know to lie. But as they grew older and become knowing the fear to admit some mistakes they tried to lie.
As I´m a stay-at-home mother I´ve been with kids everyday and I know them quite well, and I have all the time to get involved in their development. So when it came the age where lies where used I stopped them. Sometimes with some punishments, but most of the time with a heavy speach. I remember I used to tell them "I´m not a staying at home mother to listen to your lies" or "I didn´t stay at home changing dirty diappers to listen my children´s lies" or "I changed you your dirty diappers. I know you so well that I now you are telling me a lie", and some other similar phrases. Thanks God, they stopped lies, and they know they can´t lie to me. I know my sons as I know myself I know when they lie to me and I can stop it.
Parents shouldn´t let their children lie.
Blessings Taheraa... dainy
Taheraa, I´m glad to read you. I really hate lies. Thanks God I´m raising my teens to tell the true. I can tell you that as children there have been stages where they tried to lie me. Near the 11 or 12 years of age. When they were kids they really didn´t try to lie because they were so innocent that they didn´t know to lie. But as they grew older and become knowing the fear to admit some mistakes they tried to lie.
As I´m a stay-at-home mother I´ve been with kids everyday and I know them quite well, and I have all the time to get involved in their development. So when it came the age where lies where used I stopped them. Sometimes with some punishments, but most of the time with a heavy speach. I remember I used to tell them "I´m not a staying at home mother to listen to your lies" or "I didn´t stay at home changing dirty diappers to listen my children´s lies" or "I changed you your dirty diappers. I know you so well that I now you are telling me a lie", and some other similar phrases. Thanks God, they stopped lies, and they know they can´t lie to me. I know my sons as I know myself I know when they lie to me and I can stop it.
Parents shouldn´t let their children lie.
Blessings Taheraa... dainy@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Apr 13
Hello dainy:
Yes you right, you are with the boys permanently, makes affinity between you and them on the good of what must be, and there are many ways to prevent children from lying, first to be punished when lying, better to be punishment moral rather than physical, such as to prevent him from the thing he loves,but the most effective ways is that you are their role models in both your words and your actions
And summarize to say that the responsibility lies with the parents first, and then the school.
Blessings dainy ... Taheraa
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@fatimaobien (156)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I never get tired explaining over and over again the importance of telling the truth because my father never get tired telling us over and over the importance of honesty. It got stuck in my mind. I believe it will get stuck in their mind as well.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Apr 13
I'm with you, repetition generates habit, but to be with words and advice, to be role models for our children.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
20 Apr 13
When my kids were small they wouldn't dare lie to me because they always knew I would find out and they would be punished. Today as adults I admit they have tried but soon found out I would know about it in the end so they gave up...lol..I can't punish them now but they don't want to see me get mad at them.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Apr 13
Method of breeding children, should be a thing of intelligence, Education for the children must be through love, example and participation and the statement of the consequences of lying.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
24 Apr 13
I don't have any children; so if a child lied to me, chances are, I wouldn't know it.
@vikasdangi (40)
• India
20 Apr 13
When your child lies don't punish them, sometimes punishment makes them
psychologically ill.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Apr 13
Punishment for the most it will be useless, especially corporal punishment, and if the inevitable punishment, the punishment is to prevent the person who signed the punishment from the things he loves.
