Out last night and now out today
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
April 20, 2013 9:44am CST
Late night I met with my GF's at the bi monthly meeting of the Unruly Women - a women's group. We meet at different restaurants and the one last night was on the edge of the sea. So beautiful
Something happened a few days ago with a friend that shook me to the core and I have been so upset. I am not ready to discuss it as I have to process it first.
However, I decided to go and was glad as we had so much fun together and I had a platter of Greek veggie food and my mood lifted dramatically.
Then this morning, about an hour ago, I received another call from old friends who were spending a few days on their farm (they live in the city) and they invited me to lunch. I was about to refuse because plans had been made for today but then I remembered something my mother said when she was 86 years old.
She had quarrelled with me and said that I was getting rigid (I never could please her
) and that the only way to enjoy old age was to be flexible and go with the flow as it were. Wise words.
So I accepted and will leave here in a few hours to spend the day with them.
Why not enjoy myself with this unexpected invitation? I mean dropping the clothes off at the Dry cleaners and supermarket shopping can wait until Monday. Anything that is urgently needed can be bought at a convenience store, can't it.
Therefore, I am going. Getting there will be an adventure enough as my car is giving problems and I have to carry a bottle of water to top it up. So I away to the hills
Do you accept the unexpected invitations to enjoy ourself that may come your way?
) and that the only way to enjoy old age was to be flexible and go with the flow as it were. Wise words.
So I accepted and will leave here in a few hours to spend the day with them.
Why not enjoy myself with this unexpected invitation? I mean dropping the clothes off at the Dry cleaners and supermarket shopping can wait until Monday. Anything that is urgently needed can be bought at a convenience store, can't it.
Therefore, I am going. Getting there will be an adventure enough as my car is giving problems and I have to carry a bottle of water to top it up. So I away to the hills
Do you accept the unexpected invitations to enjoy ourself that may come your way?7 people like this
22 responses
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Apr 13
I believe in fate and think it is important to go with the flow. Adventures are fun and they are what memories are made from. You don't want to set how and not venture out like me. I have social anxiety and even cancelled my doctor's appointment yesterday because I didn't want to go around people. Go with the flow.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Apr 13
Counseling I suppose. Glad you had a good time.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
I do hope that you can get counseling as your life is being confined and this must be so difficult for you.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
I am so sorry that you suffer from this celtic. Is there nothing that can be done to help you? 
I did go with the flow and had a wonderful time and met new people too and we all just laughed and chatted together
I did go with the flow and had a wonderful time and met new people too and we all just laughed and chatted together2 people like this
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
20 Apr 13
It is great that your going out on the town to have some time with friends some times we just need that and I hope that you have a great time and not to worry all your friends here will still be here waiting for your return well pray that you get there and back with your car
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
It was the best thing that I could do as we laughed all day and had a wonderful time. I so enjoyed myself, thank you
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
21 Apr 13
it is great that you had the time to laugh and had a great time we all need to plan time like this it is good for our health
@Antariksh1990 (2)
•
22 Apr 13
it is always a great thing to spend time with your friends,go outing for an invitation,and if you get a surprise invitation ... dt's really a icing on the cake :D u should go ..and enjoy to the fullest atleast people should enjoy themselves from this harsh and tough day to day life.... JUST HAVE FUN :) AS I ALSO GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS as many tyms i can .. i just wait for such invitations :) (y)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 13
cynthiann I guess your mom was right so go enjoy the unexpected invitations as the daily chores can simply wait til Monday.So grab the adventures of just getting there then have some fun and do not worry about a thing. Just plan on enjoying whatever comest here. lol
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Apr 13
Enjoy your day.
Sometimes I accept unexpected invitations, but usually I need advance notice.. with my life I can't just drop everything on a whim.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Apr 13
Enjoy it while you can.. I'm sure tough times are ahead when they come back.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 13
I understand. The twins arenot yet home so basically I am free. But then - I could have taken with me today.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
20 Apr 13
Your mother was a wise woman. I hope you have a lot of fun. And when we have fun, everything that upsets us is left aside ansd we have more time to think it over. Tell us about your outing when you come back. And do take a gallon of water, so as to reach the farm. Bon appetit!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 13
I have just filled the radiator and am leaving in ten minutes. Thank you. Need to get out
@allknowing (137764)
• India
20 Apr 13
Not just an unexpected invitation but anything unexpected that would fall on my lap would be given top priority if that is going to make my day. We have just one life after all. Everything else can wait!
I am glad you have realised too that you have just one life and that you need to have fun while it lasts. Have a blast cynthiann!
I am glad you have realised too that you have just one life and that you need to have fun while it lasts. Have a blast cynthiann!1 person likes this
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 13
Theese are very old friends and we usually have lots of laughs together. Yep! One little life and mine is nearly over
@AmbiePam (93926)
• United States
20 Apr 13
A couple of years ago my "New Year's resolution" was to say yes. I had said no to too many invitations to do things because of how ill I had been. And still, I was tired. Tired all the time. But I reasoned I could be tired with other people just as well as being tired by myself. So I started saying yes to the offers of going to a movie with a couple from church. Yes to having lunch with a new person from church. Unfortunately, migraines came a'calling in spades and I had to say no a lot more. And now the invitations don't come anymore.
That sounds sad. But I'm fine, I promise!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
How about you taking the iniative by issuing an invitationnto go somewhere with someone? They can only say no. Try it - I had such fun - we laughed until we ached and I really needed a good time today. I feel so much better now. You can do it
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
She sounds lie a truly wonderful person. Yes, meet her for window shopping and a coffee. Try to work with her schedule and get out of the house. Very important to get out of your house sometimes. I had a wonderful time and was so glad that I went.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
21 Apr 13
Yes, it is good to just let go once in a while and I did just about a week and a half ago. My neighbor's children who live in various states across the country were home and one is my daughter's age and so my daughter was going to visit her friend. Well, not only am I friend's with my neighbor, but I was the assistant Girl Scout leader when our girls were little, so I see my neighbor's children as my own as well.
So, this was on a Wednesday, when I usually am doing my schoolwork, and my neighbor calls and says that I am invited too, and then my daughter calls and says, "mom, do you want to go with me?" So I spent a good 3-4 hours visiting, (and trust me, this family is so fun, that time flew by) and though it backed me up a little on my schoolwork, it was worth it, because rarely are all three children home at the same time.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
And I am sure that the break did you good too. I had a wonderful day and met new people and we mistley just chatted and laughed together. So happy that I accepted the invitation
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Apr 13
I hope u had a good time & was glad u went. Had internet downage all weekend so am just now getting around to your discussion. I'm like u when i get an invitation which is not often, lol to refuse but am always glad when i go. I am in such a rut of staying home that i don't even want to get out much of the time. I know i should make more of an effort than i do. Seems like when ui feel bad all the time it's just easier to stay in.Hope u didn't have any car trouble.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 13
No car troubke as I had my bottle of water. Car is now at garage as head gasket or something like that is blown Had a great time. I always feel better after going out somewhere. Hard sometimes to make the effort but worth it
Had a great time. I always feel better after going out somewhere. Hard sometimes to make the effort but worth it
@leateagee (3667)
• China
20 Apr 13
?Good to know that he had fun with your girlfriends. We sometimes need these people to lift our mood. Which it did to yours. Yes, I accept unexpected invitations unless there is nothing important to do or as what you've said can wait til Monday. I love adventures so I'm glad you took the advice of your mom. Be flexible and enjoy. Hope to hear from your adventure.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
23 Apr 13
A few weeks ago, there was a knock on my door, and an old friend was standing there. He actually just lives on the next complex to ours, and is just less than 10 minutes walking distance. We've had a falling out a few months back, and we haven't talked to each other for a while.
Anyway, he knocked, and said it was his son's birthday, and he wanted to invite for a little get together at their house. I also already had plans that day, but after a bit of hesitation, I decided to go.
I was glad. Not only did I enjoy it (drinking and eating, a lot), I also sort of 'mended' our relationship.
Sometimes it pays off to be flexible.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
I'm glad that this happened and you both had a chance to be friends again. It was big of him to invite you and big of you to accept
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I wish I could, but having a husband like mine, we will end up fighting. he doesn't want me to be going out with friends. And if he would allow me (which is very rarely), I need to tag along my son.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 13
Please forgive me if I sound intrusive but I am an older lady who has experienced much in life - but your husband sounds a little controlling to me. Perhaps over jealous?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
23 Apr 13
Can this be discussed in a rational loving way with him? I would have said saomething like, 'John, when you disapprove of me going out with my GF's I have the feeling that you do not trust me and this makes me very upset and unhappy as it means to me that perhaps you do not trust or love me.Women need women and we need to,(just like men) enjoy ourselves together without having children or our husbands around. This makes me unhappy as I love and trust you. am I right in thinking like this? Please tell me?'
Never ever attack a man directly. The last thing they want to do is to hear a wife say'We need to have a talk'. They cannot face confrontation. Explain how you feel and ask HIM if you are right or is there another explanation of why he is saying/thinking/jealous etc. Good luck!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
You said it right, cynthiann! He got it from his dad. Sometimes, I feel like being choked with this unreasonable jealousy. he wouldn't admit it , but he sure does make me feel uncomfortable sometimes. He is just so lucky that I am the kind of person who would think of my kids first. Otherwise, I have been long gone.
@velvet53 (22533)
• Palisade, Colorado
24 Apr 13
Sorry I am so late in responding. Sometimes those type of invitations are the best. It seems that when I get them it is when I need to get away. Otherwards, perfect timing. I have to tell myself that I don't have to work all the times cause I may not get the chance to do things again. Enjoy life to the fullest.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
Oh you are so right and this was perfect timing. I had so much fun and made new friends who were on the same wave length as me. It was wonderful
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
21 Apr 13
great to go out on the town now and then. i used to go out with my gfs in las vegas every monday night. I dont get out at all here in mexico.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
I had a fabulous time and met new people and we all just laughed and laughed and enjoyed ourselves so much
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
21 Apr 13
Thats great !!! I miss those kind of things. I dont meet or even go out here. i will when back in the Usa..
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
21 Apr 13
I wish I did more. Hubby and I have had some good random wanderings, and within this last year I have had a few good "girlfriend" days. It seems like it is a toss up between earning enough money and having enough time. I think it is great you are having these adventures. It is like bolstering yourself for when the evil queen brings the children back and dumps them.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
You hit the nail on the head again. yes it is. But I had such a good time and we laughed and laughed and laughed again. I am so happy that I went
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Hi there Cynthiann!
It actually depends upon the situation. It depends upon the plans that we have for that day. If the things that I have planned could not wait, like going to the doctor's or visiting someone who is sick, an anniversary or my son's or nephew's birthday, I will not accept the invitation but if it's something like going shopping, cleaning the house or doing the laundry, I will definitely accept the invitation especially if it is from someone who I have not seen for a long time or someone that I will not see for a long time.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
Now what you say is valid as it would have to depend on what exactly ws planned so it was great for me that it was just boring stuff like supermarket shopping
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 13
We are definitely kindred spirits I had a wonderful time - so much fun
I had a wonderful time - so much fun
@artemeis (4194)
• China
22 Apr 13
No unexpected outing for me, though there was an unexpected coming over the weekend here in Sichuan, China.
I believe you would have read it already about a devastating 7.0 magnitude earthquake that struck Sichuan province, China over the weekend. The earthquake has brought about damages to about 1.5 million people there. It is quite severe that one of the mountains was brought down.
Anyway, I hope that you had a great trip and a deserving break. It is good for you and I must say that the group's name is very interesting. Wise words indeed and I have learned another lesson here.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
21 Apr 13
How I wish I could have an unexpected invitation like this. It will be fun and I will go for it .
I hope you will surely not regretting for making such decision too. I believe you will get to enjoy yourself but having to carry a bottle of water to top up your engine could be a great adventure. I hope you will make it without any difficulty
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I hope you will surely not regretting for making such decision too. I believe you will get to enjoy yourself but having to carry a bottle of water to top up your engine could be a great adventure. I hope you will make it without any difficulty @cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Apr 13
I made it there and back and it was all just wonderful. We didn't even get to bathe in the river because we just ate and chatted and laughed and laughed again. I am glad that I went
@deepnch (2)
• Bhopal, India
21 Apr 13
I am sure tough times are ahead when they come back, but enjoy it.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 13
Thank you, I had a wonderful time and there was much laughter and happiness
