Reading my mail is a felony!!

I think thats wrong.. Have you talked to her about this? I sure would...

Hi Cosmo, Your mom sounds ridiculously out of control and way out of bounds. My daughter lives with me and there have been times when we both have accidently opened each others mail but we apologize and explain that we were not paying attention..it was from the same place I always get mail, etc. As soon as it is opened, it is clear...very clear that it is not mine. We just have some bills and whatnot that come from the same places. I never read the entire thing...I feel bad and put it back in the envelope and apologize. She does the same. It's respect!! I would NEVER EVER go so far as to pretend I was my daughter to gain access to her personal info!! Let me tell you this...when my youngest was 17 ...still in high school and had some health issues, I as a parent who was still responsible legally for her attendance to the school, needed to document with the doctors the reasons why she had missed so much school. I was required legally to do this. Yet when I called to get the documents that would show all her medical visits and the information needed to excuse her absences, I was denied access to copies of that information unless they had her signature to release it. At 17, it was illegal for me, her mom, to have that info just because I'm her mom even though I was 100% legally responsible for her. She actually got irritated because we were on a timeline and they would not even take her word over the phone. She had to sign papers allowing that info to be released. How your mom got away with this is beyond me. I guess it just never occured to me to interfere that much in my daughter's personal business. Even if you missed and rescheduled an appointment....none of mom's business.

Have you talked about it with your mom? Not being disrespectful to her, but she needs to know to draw a line between getting concerned to getting nosy, right? I hope you two can patch things up.

You need to change your password & make it so that in order to read your email you have to enter your password every time because what your Mother is doing is not only illegal but she is in no way showing you any respect for your privacy by reading your email. She has no right to read your email no matter what her reasoning may be. If she does it again I would tell her point blank that next time she will bring her up on charges. Mother or no mother she has no right to invade your privacy!!

wow yes the mother should not now or ever be opening and mail or reading it it is a crime unless you have given her the right to do so what a shame you cant trust your own mother

true. a few years ago, i was staying in a friend's house when the postman arrived. my friend was out and i answered the bell when it rang. he said that there was a registered mail for my friend and i had to sign for it. i politely refused and told him that if he could just leave a notice in the mailbox, my friend would go to the post office to retrieve it when she arrives. he was insistent, even told me that it wasn't really important and i could even tear the paper and not show it to my friend if i wanted to. i said "WHAT? you're telling me to do something illegal!" he left... crazy postman...