I'm such a bad mother!

i dont think you are a bad mother at all. i mean obviously you had a reason to think that he lied to you. plus no one but you knows that you call so its not like it started a whole thing to where he knows you didnt trust him. now its just time to be there for him and help him in any way that he will let you or that he needs to recover and get better. i hope that your son is doing ok..!!??

Shame on you !!! just kidding. So why would you not have believed your son in the first place? has he lied to you before?

I actually think you were being caring, and you like any mother was worrying about your son, doesn't matter how old children get to be, mothers will never stop worrying, look at me I am 42 this year and my mum is always worrying about me, bless her. I actually fully understand why you rang up the gig, I think I would have done the same thing, don't think of it as being foolish, think of it as putting your mind at ease. And don't you think under the circumstance of how they act and behave towards you, that you have every right to be a touch suspicious?

If you cannot trust your son--whom you raised from birth--on something like this, you really do need to be working on this with a counselor. Why was it that you couldn't trust that your son would have just told you the truth if they had chosen to have his mother-in-law babysit instead? While you want to spend time with your grandson, you decrease the likelihood of it when you behave in this way. While your son may not find out about this particular incident, he has to know that you are a bit obsessive over that kid. Your first response to reading that your son had injured himself should have been to contact him to make sure that he was okay--not to ask where the kid was. Obviously, if the kid had been in the stroller and been injured, your son wouldn't have been posting to FB; he likely would have had his son off getting checked out by a doctor.

OMG I can't believe you didn't trust your own son. If I were you yes I would be feeling really sick that I would stoop that low. Are you jealous of the MIL babysitting over you? I think this is what the real deal is here. I wouldn't tell your son what you did but I also hope that he never finds out. He would be so upset that you didn't trust what he said. Especially that he really got hurt falling down the stairs.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, don't worry. I don't think you are a bad mother, really you are a caring person, so only you think about that baby and interested in baby sitting. I think your son and DIL don't understand you, hope they will realize their mistake and get back soon

He did not want to hurt your feelings and the mother-in-law probably just dropped by and asked if she could look after the baby and he either forgot or it slipped his mind.. You are not a bad mother. It is just that you were worried about him. Of course, he would not take the baby carriage with the baby in it. He would have put the baby in the crib or a play pen. Makes common sense. So how is he doing now?

Why are you looking for trouble? I would never have done that and shame on you. Now don't you feel silly and all along no one was lying. And your MIL was not going to babysit. Don't do this to yourself, it'll make you a miserable old lady.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You are a mother and you worry for your son and grandchild.

mother is not considered to be bad at all..They just do for the good for their children..as they said mother knows best...:)

My mother has always been like that. She starts to worry that something went wrong if I am late going over to see her. My kids are young so I do not worry like that yet. You are probably just acting like a mother to your grown son.

children have a habit of lying to their parents about their health conditions because they don't want them to worry. moms know this and probably this was the reason why you didn't believe him at once. no harm was done. i hope you didn't who you were to the person you talked with on the phone. if you did and that person mentions this to your son, then your son might feel bad about your dobting him. you're not a bad mom. it's natural for us to think about the welfare of our children, no matter how old they are.

I don't think you're a bad mother at all. You obviously care a great deal about you son and his family. Try to relax a little bit and enjoy the time you do have with them. I'm sure they all love you very much!

Sorry to hear the bad news.But i think you should take good care of your child in the future.now don't worry about it,it's water over the dam.Hope you wouldn't make the same mistake nest time.

It doesn't make you a bad mom but it suggests you are very insecure in your relationship with your son and daughter-in-law - and that is making you a bit paranoid. From what you've said, there doesn't seem to be any genuine grounds for you to worry. Perhaps it's just the fact that, once he married, you were no longer the most important woman in his life and, while you can accept that, you also fear that his mother-in-law will be given preference to you. That's understandable as obviously his wife will be closer to her own mother and will naturally want her around. There is a fear that the wife and her mother will somehow come between you and your son and you will be less and less included in his life and that of your grandchild. The unfortunate truth is, you can bring that worse scenario about if you act jealous, controlling, blaming or interfering. If it becomes an emotional challenge to keep you happy, he may withdraw. Be friendly with your daughter-in-law's mother and not in competition. You are just as much the child's grandmother. Unfortunately, men do sometimes forget how their own mother must be feeling. Just tell your son and his wife you want them to know how much you love them and just make it a stress-free pleasure for both of them to see you. Then they can think of you happily instead of with anxiety/guilt. My own mother had a daughter-in-law who treated her with hatred from day one and brought up her grandchildren to hate her too. That broke her heart so badly. It doesn't seem you are in that sort of position, so count your blessings. You may need to practise a little diplomacy - but try to stop feeling rejected! They should of course have rung you to let you know about the accident, and that you weren't needed to babysit after all, but maybe they were caught up in the stress of it themselves. It was thoughtless rather than devious. You were way over the top to imagine some kind of conspiracy against you rather than primarily being concerned for your injured son - but then, you know that. You may not be the absolute center of your son's world - that's his wife and child - but you are and always will be a very important part of it and you should feel confident in that and stop worrying. Just be there for them when they need you and be a happy factor in their lives.