It's hard to advice her

Philippines
April 20, 2013 10:57pm CST
I find myself guilty advising her. Because I am also have the same attitude as her.Ok we have the same sentiment and same attitude. different ways but still the same measure of revenge. although it just a simple problem within a family but I think I had influence her even if she didn't say She don't for she have the attitude not controlling her temper. Ok I myself knew everyone of us is 'hyper' When it comes to fighting each other. I wanted to change this attitude and I am working on it now.My life tillnow has no direction or because I might received bad karma because people who have done bad to me I repay them bad too which is contrary to the teachings in the bible. Now I feel all the consequences.although my family around me who are doing the same things doesn't feel that it is 'karma' that is happening to us. One thing I've learned and only advice to her since I once like her. that do not repay evil to those who commit evil.For I myself my attitude before I am a good person but once you have done bad things after all the kindness that you have given to me. I will throw the same things back upon you so that you will feel too the same things that you have done to me.I never win.because God said always do good things even to those who have done bad to you. I just tell her learned from my lesson. that's all because I find guilty If i wills ay hey that is bad you shouldn't do that. when I have done that things before over and over again.I also told her. whatever I have done I repent it to God. It runs in our genes from our grandmother they are all warfreak.Now that I see this to my little cousins, niece, that oldest cousin of mine and my daughter. I don't want them to raise like that . They must learn to control their anger and not anger control over them.I find no good in revenge.Everything must be put into God's hand.although it's hard We should learn to be goon in everyone. I still find myself a guilty adviser.
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@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Hi there Fearlessgara! I think that you still did the right thing. Once you are aware that what you are doing is wrong, the next step is to do everything that you can to change that. It is rarely an overnight change that takes place and it takes work and effort for us to change our habits and our ways of living or thinking. There is also the thing with unsolicited advice that would just push other people to go the other direction because of resentment. In this case, since she is family, then you have the right or the responsibility to gently remind her about the right thing to do. But, aside from giving pieces of advice, the best thing to do is be a living example. If you become an inspiration for others to change, you will not need to remind them through words anymore.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
21 Apr 13
I also think that sometimes we cannot advice some people as they do not take our advice. I think some people their attitude is a problem and does not take what others say even though what others say might be right.