Do you feel guilty after a heated discussion with a co-worker?

Think of it another way, so many of us suppress our emotions because we feel it is not acceptable to rant and rave or show our anger, when actually anger is or can be a healthy emotion, by expressing our anger, we let it out, and it's said, and we have let the person know that their behaviour is not acceptable. However if we don't say anything, we suppress it, let it fester, and there is where resentments come in and that is not healthy. Sometimes we need to tell someone how we feel, even if it's done confrontational. Of course the ideal thing would be to be assertive and calm about talking to your colleague, but assertiveness is not easy and at the heat of the moment we can just 'blow'

Hi Aileen2008! I did had some heated arguments with older employees and luckily I was more superior in position than in age. I never felt any regret about having that "talk" with them because they are stubborn. They insist on age in life and not in experience so I was there to give them a reality check. I remembered to have really come face-to-face with our marketing head because of talking behind my back. I literally made her say them to me and apologize in front of me. I think there was at least 20 years gap? I didn't care because I don't want someone unprofessional to ruin my career and reputation. I think I even shouted at her. You may call me names and judge me negatively with what I did, but I am proud of that because I was the only one who stand up for truth and righteousness, even sacrificing respect to older people. Thanks for the discussion Aileen! ;)

Yes, I felt guilty once when I had an argument with a colleague of mine because he is much older than me so I immediately asked for an apology. I know that he is not right but I know that it is also isn't right to speak in a bad manner to an older person who is old enough as my father. So I said I was sorry and explain how I felt that way.

I too feel guilty some times after having a heated conversation with people especially when I over react and almost make the person cry, as if I am a bullying that person even though I am sure of what i am talking about. i hate that feeling.

if the argument was about office business and you didn't get personal then i won't feel guilty if i were in your shoes. however, if he was lying about something that didn't concern you or your job, i wouldn't have intervened.

we feel guilty when we realise how powerful words r!but alas!it is like arrow,which cant be brought back.with due awareness we can learn to control our tongue.

Hi there Aileen2008! I rarely get into heated discussions with co-workers. When I do, I do not feel guilty because sometimes, I have too much control with what I say that I end up thinking, I should have said this, that, and so on. But, I think that you should not be guilty since you spoke the truth and no matter how hard or hurtful it may be, it is still the truth and nothing can change that.

I think most of us feel a little guilt when we let our emotions get the better of us, even if the other person is at fault. I've also been in similar situations wherein I failed to keep my emotions in check and blurted out words that are a bit hurtful. Although at that time I felt a bit good, eventually guilt set in and made me feel awful of what I've done. I guess we really need to watch our words carefully when we're having a heated discussion.

hi there aileen2008, the feeling of guilt is normal especially if you really don't want to go or get in into an argument. but, the words has been said, and what is proper now is not to blame yourself. just let wounds heal at its own. i guess, nobody really wants that to happen but it happens.

it depends upon who was write in the discussion. i will never frrl guilty if my point of view is correct

It depends, when I know that I'm perfectly right, but when guilt gets in a way when I made a wrong move to disclosing it instead of finding ways to make him/her realize instead of wasting time having a bad argument or discussion with him or her

this is very much grief situation arise due to people when they lieing i feel too when some person mkes us fool thouugh we understand that were talking false but donot worries about their misbehaviouer tryinh to live patient and calm they expose shortly