How dedicated are you when it comes to work?

@ayeeesha (1127)
Philippines
April 21, 2013 11:52pm CST
I came across an article in Yahoo about a Chinese reporter who reported about the earthquake in her wedding dress. It's supposed to be her wedding day but due to the earthquake, she went to the site and fulfilled her duties as a reporter. There are mixed reviews from various people saying that her action is commendable or she should not have done that since it's her wedding day and she needs some time off. While her dedication to her job deserves an applause, I still think that one needs to take some time off from work, especially when it comes to events such as your wedding day. It's true that our jobs help us survive since we get paid for the effort we put in. But you don't have to put your life at risk or disregard special moments just because of your job. You're only human and you need some time off too. But that's just me. How about you? Are you that dedicated to your work to the point of putting it above anything else? I want to read your thoughts on this :)
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20 responses
• Serbia
22 Apr 13
As a husband. What kind of loyalty can you expect from a women who does that ON YOUR WEDDING DAY...??? It clearly shows how high you and you marriage are on her priority list. Simply put. Personally i want to be my wifes priority from the moment we fall in love, until the end, just as she will be mine. Not when we retire at the age of 250. The way things are going, that is the age people will be plausible for retirement very soon...lol
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• China
22 Apr 13
I'm from China. The earthquake has involved a great deal of our country so far. You can see reports about it everywhere. Many TV channels are canceling almost their entire entertaining programms and replacing them with the reports. People are also donating a lot of money to the place. You may wonder why. It's our culture and belief. As people in a socialist country, we value what you can do for the public and other people, rather than yourself or your family. We respect peole who ignore their family and contribute to the country, though I feel it silly sometimes. You'll also hear news that some people even sacrificed their own lives to save other people in the earthquake. So it's not surprising at all she did that.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
First of all, I do sympathize for what happened. Of course earthquake is a big deal and it even involves taking a lot of lives and properties. Anyway, thank you for enlightening us. If that is part of your belief and culture, I now understand why she did that. As I said, I do commend her for doing that although for me, I still think there's always a proper timing for everything. I guess there will always be a difference in how we take things, depending on what country you came from and what of kind of beliefs you grew up with.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Well the reporter does prioritize her work more than anything else. I wonder why her husband-to-be allowed her. Nevertheless, there are certain instances where you have to set the work aside in order to attend to more important things. But in this case, she is a reporter and she has a responsibility to inform the people.
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@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
22 Apr 13
As of right now I have two pretty crappy restaurant jobs so I'm not incredibly dedicated to my work but I still need to make as much money as possible so I can save up money for going to college. Right now I am putting work in front of a lot of other things that I'd like to be doing with my free time but I only have to do it for four more months and then I'll be able to move and start my bachelor's degree. The job that I'm trying to get through education though I will be very dedicated to. I'm trying to become a naturopathic doctor and I want to be able to own my own farm where I can grow produce and share it with the world. I hope to be able to turn the whole thing into a non-profit organization type thing or a charity. I want to be able to heal and nourish as many people as possible so I will be dedicating a lot of time to this project the more and more I get closer to achieving it. Even though I'll be extremely dedicated to it I'll still find time for me and I definitely will be able to put enough time aside to get married without worrying about work.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Sounds like a plan. And it's a good one by the way. I hope you'll be able to achieve that when time comes so that you'll be able to help a lot of people :) While you may have a certain level of dedication to your work, there's nothing wrong with taking a break and giving time to the equally important things in life :)
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
good day to you, i guess, different people have different approach on how they deal with their work and duties. as for me here, whenever i am doing my job or any task, i always see to it that i am doing it to the best of my ability. as i am imagining that i am serving God our Father as my boss. as i am doing my task as if it is my last day in this world we live in.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
You're right. It does depend on the person on how they are going to treat and fulfill their jobs. It's heir choice and we can't force them to set aside their job first over something which we believe is more important. That's how it works for them :)
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
22 Apr 13
I agree with what you are saying. It is important that people think about others time as well. After all when we are planning a wedding there are other people who adjust their schedule so that they can attend. Some even travel a distance to get to the location. So it would also be rude to cancel a wedding at the last minute. And what does this show her soon to be husband? Work will more than likely create more problems for them during the marriage.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
You're right. And I'm surprised the husband allowed her to go there and do her job. But as what others said, she is a reporter and she has a responsibility to inform the people of what's happening especially in catastrophic events such as earthquake. I do hope the reporter will eventually learn about what to prioritize first especially when she starts to have kids.
• India
22 Apr 13
I agree with you, we must be dedicated to our work. We must give importance to our special events too. Wedding is a great turning point in every one's life and important day to cherish. I appreciate the sincerity of the reporter, but this kind of sincerity is not good. She must give importance to her wedding day.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I think the key here is knowing how to balance the important things in our life and properly prioritizing our responsibilities.
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@tehpau (340)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 13
Saw the photo in newspaper too. Sometimes it depends on the nature of the job. The reporter is probably based in that area, TV stations or newspaper do not hire many reporters at one place. So she is probably the only one doing all the reporting in that area. Many of us are in the same situation. I am one of the many, no one does my job in my entire company. I often have to work outside the office even when I'm on leave. Lucky for me,it is possible to do that with internet. It is not too difficult, I just need to plan if I want to take some days off. As long as work gets done, others are informed of what to do when things are really urgent and I am contactable by mobile phone, it is usually OK.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I think the nature of the job is also a contributing factor. And I do understand her dedication when it comes to work because as a reporter, she has the responsibility to inform the people and tell what is happening. But of course, it is her wedding day and it's supposed to be special.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
23 Apr 13
Not to put her down, but why bother at a wedding to a human being if you are the kind of person who puts a career above everyone and everything else. I respect that it was her choice to make, but maybe she should rethink the whole marriage thing or become a wife to her job instead.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
That's true. It only shows what her priorities and obviously, her job is at the top of her list. She should reflect on whether she really wants to get married and have her own family because she just can't give that up for her job.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
I guess we all are, unless we don't like our work. Our job is our main source of income, so we have to love and be dedicated in doing it. What this Chinese reporter have done is really admirable, maybe because of her dedication to her job. But I think, she should have taken a leave since it's her wedding day. I know what she did is her natural instinct as a reporter, being in the right place and time but she should have take her day off even for a day, I think.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
That's true. We all have to be dedicated to our work but at some point, we should also rest and give some time to ourselves, especially when it comes to special occasion such as wedding.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Apr 13
I can honestly say that I always work my butt off whenever I have a job to work on. I make sure that i give my 101%. There are instances that I have failed to go to weddings or birthday parties of relatives because I would not just leave my work. I would rather let my brother in law attend all the events. But if it were events regarding my kids, I make sure that I am always present.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
Yup! From all the hats that I wear, my mother hat is the one that is mostly worn. I have just realized that I have become that "motherly" after 10 years of marriage. Am not saying that I was neglecting my kids back then. But I have become real more cautious, aware and wanted to really be sure that kids are fine all the time especially with regards to school.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
I think we do learn how to become a mother through time because kids at certain ages require different needs :) And it's a good thing you were there for them :)
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
24 Apr 13
It's good that you put your kids above anything else. I think more than anything, family should be our top priority and everything else will follow after that :) There's nothing wrong with giving your all when it comes to work as long as when the kids need you, you're always there to attend to their needs.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 13
I'm with you on this. I love my job, but there are times that I need more "me" time. You know, I often ignore my boss' call just because I think it's my resting time. He's a workaholic, but I'm not. So I thought I just did the right thing.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
That's mean. What if your boss is calling to tell you something important? Though I do that at times when I was still working. I really hate getting a call or text from my boss after office hours but when the matter is really urgent, I have no choice but to answer.
• Indonesia
24 Apr 13
Interesting news! This is the first time I know something like this happen. Well, in some case, you may need to put priority for your job over your private life. But like I said, it’s depended on the case. But I don’t understand in the case of this reporter. Why don’t someone take charge of her duty for this current event? I mean, even the company should understand that this is her special day, so they can put someone else in charge instead.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
24 Apr 13
I agree. While I understand her responsibility as a reporter, I still think that there is a need for some time off especially when it involves important events such as wedding. Or maybe because everyone else is panicking because of the earthquake and it so happen that she's near the site so she immediately took the job. We don't really know.
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I can't say that i am dedicated to my work as much as i can do my work better and no one gives a negative feedback about it. Some people are really dedicated on their work there are times that they put all their time to work just to achieve their goals in life, they love their work as much as their selves. they afraid of to loose their job because if there's no work no source of income. thank you ayeeesha!
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Our jobs are primarily our main source of income. However, there are still instances, such as wedding day or emergencies, where jobs can be set aside for a while. I don't blame those people who prioritizes their jobs over anything else. That's their choice and we all should respect that choice :)
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• United States
22 Apr 13
In general I don't think you should put a job above important life events and family obligations. However in this case i can understand her actions. She is a reporter and she has just witnessed a major catastrophe that the public would appreciate knowing about. Now, if her husband-to-be has a problem with her dedication in this case, then she should reconsider her priorities and how she will handle situations concerning her job and her relationship in the future.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
You have a point :) The job of a reporter is different. They have to be on call 24/7 in order to educate the public about what is happening in the society. But can't she make an exception? I mean wedding doesn't come everyday so why ruin it right? But if her soon-to-be husband is okay with that, then let's all be fine with it :)
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 13
Yeah, her dedication to her job deserves an applause. But I guess, there should be someone else to replace her work on that auspicious day . I may be very dedicated to my work but in certain cases I may still weighing the situations and value it accordigly to its priority.
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
That's true. Putting your work above anything else should not be done all the time. I think it still depends on the situation and possible consequences. Like if the company will suffer big losses because you refuse to do your job on account of family time, then I think that's a different cause. So it really depends on the situation.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
22 Apr 13
I probably miss that news from yahoo, but she definitely deserves a round of applause whoever reading it. Anyway, I like to dedicate myself to my work, but my current work isn't what I love the most. So, even on a urgent case, if I am in my wedding, I definitely can't leave my wife stand there and wait for me to come back. I would put that work on hold, after I finish my duty as a husband to my future wife.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
Good job! Wife/family first before anything else :)
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
22 Apr 13
I am so dedicated with my job... but, I just couldn't turn my back to a previous commitment. If so happened that the earthquake hit first and my bf suddenly ask me to marry him, I think I will tell him, wait, I need to cover this first... because this is first. Or if I have a date with a friend and suddenly the earthquake hit, and I need to cover, sorry but I have a previous commitment. Note: the scenario above is just hypothetical... 1. my bf won't ask me to marry him, 2. I am not a reporter 3. I am terrified with earthquake. LOL
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
But what if the time comes and she already has a family and the baby needs her attention to because she's sick? And then she has to cover a major event again? Can she say "wait" to the baby? Balance is really important. Since she got married, she also wants a family on her own. As a woman, she will be playing various roles, all of which are important. Tere should be a balance among all those roles, putting her family on top of the list :)
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
22 Apr 13
I work here online, and I am dedicated to my work here online, I make sure I spend the whole day here to make sure, my work get done because, I want to make my money, I can see the dedication on the reporter, she had a job to do and she wanted to do it, even thou it was here wedding day, her wedding didn't happen so she though going to work to cover the earthquake store, was what she needed to do.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
We can't fully blame her because as a reporter she has responsibilities to inform the people, especially when events such as earthquake happens. As I've said, I commend her for that. But of course, it only shows how much she prioritizes her work and sends a bad message to the husband-to-be that she's willing to do anything for the sake of her job.
@joizee (502)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi Ayeeesha! Yeah I saw that, too! She's unbelievable! That itself is history. She's in the right place, at the right time even though not much of in the right attire but definitely the right moment. I've always dreamt of being a broadcaster, even tried working in radio stations for two years. And reporting is definitely a serious business. It's not just a job but a sworn responsibility. Every moment for a news happening is precious to a reporter. The main responsibility is to bring the news to people to warn them, to make them aware, to inform. So if I'm in her shoes, I would also excuse myself for a moment because as they say "duty calls". There's some things we can sacrifice for the sake of our job. Sometimes it's fruitful, sometimes it's hurtful. We just have to be much smarter on the level of our dedication and much knowing on the worth of our job to us. Thanks for the discussion ;)
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
We also have to look into the nature of the job. You're actually right. As a reporter, you have to be ready 24/7 beause there is a responsibility and duty to inform the people about what is happening in the society. There are risks and sacrifices involved including your time with your family. But I still think there should be balance in everything we do. There are a lot of important things that needs our attention and dedication as well :)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 13
Very dedicated, since starting university I’we tended to put university work first and since then, research first – I would rarely cancel work for other things if I can help it and tend to put help it and tend to put help it and tend to put help it and tend to put it high on my priorities.This is becasue I’m being funded to do it and part of doing a PhD is engrossing yourself in the subject and the work – even if it means missing a party or two!
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
If the school is giving you the opportunity to study, then you should really take it seriously. There are sacrifices that needs to be done. However, you're only human and you need some time to relax. You don't have to go out all the time but a once a month night out with friends wouldn't hurt :)
@cyjh21 (160)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
My priorities are arranged like this... 1.God 2. Family 3. Career And I think her wedding day falls on the second one so I would not go if i were her. I would not put my work above everything especially if it concerns my family or even my family to be. Her dedication to her work is great but how dedicated is she to her husband-to-be and to their vows that they were about to promise before she ran away for her job?
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
That is the question. It does send a negative message to the husband-to-be because her act tells him that she is putting her work above anything else. What if they have kids already? What if the kids need special attention? Can she say "wait, I need to do my job first"? Though I can't blame her also. She's a reporter and she's on call anytime of the day.