How to know your man (or woman) is cheating.

if a man is cheating then he isn't very smart if he keeps things on his phone. I don't believe this is an effective way "to know" anything. There are a lot of apps that allow a person to hide text messages, photos, and call logs. I think one of the best ways to know if a man is cheating is by your gut instinct.

If you respect your man's belongings why would you take his phone? He could be faithful just protective of his stuff! I never have my phone on. anyone is free to see what is on it. this doesn't mean if I needed to cheat I wouldn't! I think, well I'm assuming, the best way to know if he is cheating is how he/she treats you.. If he/she is distant and is testy and is now working late more often, this could be signs.

I don't know about this. I would never pick up someones phone or go through their messages to begin with and I'd be so so upset if they did that to me. If I am with a man that is cheating on me then I'm pretty sure I'll figure it out quick enough without resorting to invading his privacy by checking his cell phone. I was brought up in an era where we used our brains and instincts for these things. If I thought my man were cheating...I'd be gone. I would not need proof and not from a cell phone of all places.

I have experience which tells a story of its own. I had a girlfriend you see and she was a model (more or less), but I would say rather less since she was doing shoots with local guys never actually ever appearing somewhere worth mentioning. Now this girlfriend of mine would never let me put my hands on her mobile phone. I have never had that kind of a problem. Therefore it confused me... Why was she protecting her privacy so fiercely. The answer came shortly after we split up - she was chatting with other boys. To tell the truth I'm glad I got rid of her. And most of all I'm proud I stayed the same in spite of this experience of mine. Therefore for me it is definitely a good test. If somebody protects his cell phone he knows why he is doing it.

I guess that is not a bad method to know. It's quite simple. When someone's cheating they would be very uncomfortable when you read their messages unless if they have already erased the evidence and also instructed their other partner to not call or text at that time. Some people can be very skilled when keeping their secrets. And since I am one of them, I look for more signs too and look at other possibilities and ways to know. You can try visiting him suddenly at work or go to his place without letting that person know. Like show up all of a sudden. If the person is into us, he's be happy to have us over and if not, he must be really busy.

you are right that when your partner is hiding their cellphone and won't let you take a look on it, it means there is already something fishy with your love ones. but if your partner is just leaving the gadget above the table or let you hold it, sometimes it means to say that he/she is not hiding anything from you. but, as the joke said - as the eleventh commandment said, thou shall not put your full trust (if you suspect that your partner is cheating on you) because maybe he/she is using another cellphone for private contacts or communication. why i said so, it is because i've known some person who is doing a thing like this. he left his cellphone under his drawer in his office, putting a padlock to it. so if he is not doing this, why need to left it in the office and padlocking it in his drawer. another one is that, his/her treatment to you is not as hot as it was in the beginning of the relationship, i mean, something has changed. look at him too if he can stare back at you without hesitation or guilt you can see in his looks. lots of ways how to find your partner if he/she is cheating on you :) thanks for bringing this discussion here forth")

I Want to know how ya would tell if They never ha a cell phone! Ya follow them and end up where they are!

I guess you could do it the old fashion way and follow them everywhere. It would be kind of hard to do that to a significant other, especially if you used your own car. You are right that if a person is fine with you going through their phone they obviously have nothing to hide. I guess you could also go find the cookies on their computer and see the past history of sites and pages they've been to. If you look at their computer history and see they are members of match.com, you might have something to be worried about!

My first thought on hearing this suggestion is that a deliberate cheat would probably take the time to delete texts or calls from their phone, making the exercise pointless. It's a pretty desperate state for a relationship when this seems like a good idea. I mean, after you've run off to the bathroom with his phone, how on earth do you explain what you were doing? 'I was just seeing if you were cheating on me honey' doesn't really express a lot of faith in your partner. My partner and I share a phone, and I always check it when he gets home. It's not because he's likely to be cheating, but because he's terrible for checking it for texts and always forgets to pass on messages!

Well, first of all is is good that you know your partner isn't cheating you. An other way is when your partner begin to forget your birthday or other special occasions, which he/she has never forgotten before. The worst is the lie that is introduced into the relationship.

Checking our spouse phone is the best way to know whether they are cheating us or not. Already you provide the great explanation for it and i agree with you. We must be loyal to our spouse. Good to know both of you are loyal to each other, we are also in the same sort, we never imagine about betrayal or cheating

i agree if your partner is upto no good their phone will be off limits and that would show you.but i think it also good to not do so much to prove our partner is unfaithful but work more on trust to avoid mistrust.

You can definitely tell is he/she is cheating on you by the way he/she behaves. Example, if he/she told you that she's going somewhere without inviting you to go with him/her, immediately the day after his/her trip ask him/her how his/her day went. You can tell a person if he/she is lying if he/she seems unsure with his/her answers. If you feel doubting him/her, then definitely he/she is hiding something from you.

trust is important in a relationship. if your trust in your parter is waivering, ask yourself why. what are your basis for getting jealous and feeling the need to check on your partner? is he giving you less time, showing less interest, etc? i'm afraid checking the phone is not effective. the cheater could always delete the records of calls and SMS upon receipt thereby leaving no evidence. some cheats are so clever that they anticipate these situations.

hi misspiggy thats sort of silly and anyway I think if one trusts one other you would get a gut instinct if he suddenly was not where he usually was and seemed bored and lackadaisical I know I would have known if my husband had ever cheated on me by the way he acted or did not act. He never did cheat and we trusted each other and never broke that trust.