Is it possible? Falling in and out of love

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So I've been in a relationship with my current Boyfriend for about 6 months now. The way we found each other is quite amazing. I started sating one of my co-workers (which was a bad idea). Even though he wasn't what i usually go for his wittiness and personality attracted me. And he was extremely good at what he goes to school for, Phycology. Long story short, he turned out to be a complete jerk! He ruined the relationship by saying he was too busy and told me we can be friends and i could come over from time to time. At work he'd completely ignore me and made time to get drunk and hang out with co-workers. Made no sense to me. One day i came over to visit and his best friend from N.Y was over. The first time i met him, he was cleaning his friends room. Then my little cousin (who was with me at the time) was hungry and he made dinner for her and for his friend. i was really impressed. The next day i came over, my ex was just sitting on his butt play video games ignoring me and his friend. His friend wanted to go to the store. So i took him cuz his friend wouldn't. And get this, he also bought food for his friend. so after a while i decided to go home and said bye to my ex. He just looked at me, saluted me and continued to to play video games. His friend was like "i'll walk you out." so he walked me to my car and gave me a hug. I thought that was so kind of him, so i added him on facebook the next week. Months later we ended up talking and made a crazy connection. And for odd reasons I was extremely attracted to his personality, his kindness, thoughtfulness and how genuinely sweet he was. And he felt the same exact way. We had this intense connection where i could feel him and he could feel me. we realized the seriousness and decided to let his friend know. He was not too happy about it. He told his friend, "She's only talking to you to get back at me." which wasn't true. then someone said something to him at work that made him go crazy (which may have been my fault, but i wasn't intentionally rubbing it in). He blew up his friend's phone giving him an ultimatum. I felt extremely bad, so i called my ex. His friend warned me that he was really good, and to stay on top of the convo. I did till the very end. He tried to manipulate my feelings force me to stop talking to his friend. On top of that he told me all of the negative things about his friend (true or not). and then he said "i just don't want him to get hurt." when i knew he didn't care about his friend. After I finished talking with him (over an hr) I didn't know how i felt. in fact, his friend (now my boy friend) felt like something was wrong. like i fell off and he was right. BUT i already made my decision to be with him. My ex made me feel really confused to a point where i didn't know how i felt and all my happy feelings went away and that amazing connection we shared was gone. and i guess i didn't feel that amazing attraction i once felt. and my mind feels super confused at times to a point where it hurts. And I feel like he tried to take my happiness away. so i guess my question is, is it normal to feel this way? I know love is a choice and action and I know i love my boy friend, but i just feel like i don't even though i know i do. _