Sometimes, Parents need to Back-off!

It's a good thing to back off your kids and let them do their own thing. I even back off my son now and he's 2. I am sometimes terrified of him falling or getting hurt, but sometimes he has to do things for himself to know if he is capable of doing them. Sometimes I swear he wont be able to do some things, but he often times proves me wrong. He has to know that he can explore and do things for himself. Just as I need to let him do that, because he is sometimes more capable of things than even I'm aware of. We need to let them grow up and be come independent, because one day they will have to be in order to be an adult. Just as long as our children know we will always be there to support them and root for them. Sometimes they just need to know we are behind them whether they succeed or fail and as long as they know no matter what happens we will still love them. Our support sometimes is all they need to be able to do it on their own. It's much easier to do something knowing that even if they fail we will be there, and often times they do succeed because we are doing our job as a parent. We just have to trust that we are doing the right thing even if sometimes we aren't always sure.

Actually I male so I imagine as mother of girl child. Coming to your question I will do the same as you support my kid in her area of interest. In fact my parents never supported me in that manner, I mean not supported in giving me good advice but my better future. That is why I am struggling in my life. So, what you are doing is very correct and even though you might be proud as mother but your daughter will be more proud in society that she is doing a work for which she is having passion. So her satisfaction is more than anything else that matters. Yeah I too will feel great if my child listen to my encouraging words and does not give up her work and come up with flying colours. It is a feeling which cannot be expressed. I hope all the parents do give encouragement to their kids and help them shine in the careers.

I agree with your decision, my parents did the same thing to me, when i reach 19 years old, my parents make have a conversation with me they told me that " since i'm 19 years old and the eldest among the brood of 6 siblings, i'm must stand on my own" it was difficult for me at first, but as time goes by i was able to manage my way of life, they just say " how are you" almost every day, though they want me to be independent they keep tract of what is happening to me, i just reply "i'm always fine, thank you". Their decisions helps me a lot as a person, because i was able to know my capacity to handle things on my own. I understand their purpose, their life is not permanent in this world, they want that when they gone, we can handle and manage things, though we have relatives to help us, but not all the time they are their for us because they have their own family to handle.

I always asked my children no matter how young they were/are what they want. I always let them decide by themselves. I must say they never came up with weird, rediculous or dangerous wishes. I don't know what god has to do with it, but raising children is about preparing them for the future. If you always keep interfering and making decisions for them they will never grow up into adults with self esteem. And if it comes to your last question: I always wonder how come so many parents (also fathers!) seem to forget they ever been young themselves. Yes time does change (somehow) but also if they were young that time was different from the time their parents were growing up.

Hi ! You did the right thing ! Children should be given the chance to fly by themselves alone. It is in flying that they will discover different style and approach on how to reach their destination. If children are on their own , they develop self esteem , confidence and good decision making. If parents always back up a child , the child will never learn to fly high .

I would actually have done the same thing. There was a saying that I remember when I read this discussion you started...when we do everything for our child, we actually have done nothing for them! I do agree with this. We should sometimes let our children own their personal success and failures as well because they will also learn in the process. It also becomes a pride to them when they know that they have accomplished something without the intervention of their parents in the process.

Your daughter is so lucky to have a mother like you. And she seems being regarded as valuable staff so it means her performance is good. So you are a proud mom, and I hope you and your daughter have the best luck.