Erroneous behavior from the parents
@taheraa (1545)
Giza, Egypt
April 25, 2013 3:03am CST
Erroneous behavior from the parents to be:
Punish the child as punishment for exhibitors on good behavior.
Example -
The girl wanted to surprise her mother with something happy took the initiative to the kitchen and washed the dishes and went to her mother says (I worked for you a surprise, Mom, I have washed dishes) She replied the mother (you are now grown up, and you should do such acts but why not wash dishes in the oven Are you Forgot?)
Analysis:
The girl was expecting from her mother a reward on this act even if plaudits words and encouragement but mother's answer was a punishment, not a reward because the mother:
First: did not recognize the initiative undertaken by the beautiful girl
Second: directed blame for her daughter indirectly for failing to leave the oven dishes, without washing.
Therefore we must be familiar with the proper methods of our dealings with our children
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6 responses
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Apr 13
I think that the mother should explain just what is expected of this 'beautiful girl' and not give her punishment. Common sense in child rearing is important. If the mother was a child what would she need or expect?
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
26 Apr 13
Instead of being proud of her daughter for taking the initiative of doing something without being asked to is horrible behavior for any parent. My granddaughter cleaned her room all by herself without anyone asking her too. Her parents were so proud of her that they even brought her a doll for doing something without being told to do it. This is certainly bad behavior for a parent and I feel so bad for the child. Why would this child ever do anything again without being told to do it?1 person likes this
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
26 Apr 13
Yes, it's an important rule in the way parents deal with their children, whether boys or girls. This rule, proving that the result of encouragement to be more effective than punishment.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
25 Apr 13
Hello taheraa,
Sadly this is something that happens a lot. Her mother should have been very pleased with her for at least making the effort.
If the only thing she is going to do is to reward her with harsh words she will be much less likely to want to help her mother out in the future.
Who does not forget to wash something sometimes it can happen to any of us.
Her Mom should have been much more pleasant a big hug and not say things like you should have done it anyway that is being ungrateful and not good response for her daughter.
Had she been my daughter I would have been very pleased indeed and given her a big hug and with no lectures about being a big girl that belongs to the past that kind of thing.
Should appreciate her Daughter much more than that.
I don´t have a Daughter so I have to do everything myself as you might guess.xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Apr 13
As a young girl I was not even asked I was ordered to do those kind of things from the time I knew how to which was about six years old upwards.
It was expected of you to do those things without any kind of reward. The reward then was neither verbal or any other you just had to do it because you were a girl.
My brothers never had to lift a finger in their lives not ever.xxx
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
26 Apr 13
Some parents are just like that. Seems they dont care, just want things done. I bet they were not like that as kids. Sad...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
26 Apr 13
I agree, some people cant seem to handle adults let alone children. Have a great weekend there.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 13
Yes, you are right, the mother should give a bit of reward to the girl, because of her effort, but I think the mother does not understand how to respect her girl. Yes, sometimes we difficult to learn our parents. But, to my children I always to learn what they want. Because they are my best wealth for future when I was growing old.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
26 Apr 13
Rewards can be moral rewards (such as kissing and hugs), which is more important than any material rewards.
@dionysianspirit (161)
• Canada
25 Apr 13
Yeah I agree this is inappropriate behaviour by the parent. In this situation it was the good intentions and effort that deserved a reward even though the dishes in the oven had been forgotten by the child. If the parent had responded positively and then mentioned that the dishes in the oven were forgotten, the child would have learned to check there next time doing the dishes while feeling proud and confident of the job performed.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
26 Apr 13
Yes, encouraging consequence are always more influential, especially in our children.
